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    kctiger Posts: 3,653, Reputation: 1319
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    Aug 5, 2009, 06:01 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by endlesspain View Post
    i broke up with my girlfriend because she is always being selfish and doesnt seem to care about anyone but her self alot but i do love her...do u think me breaking up with her will make her re evaluate herself and change to work things out with me?
    She may change for a short period, but in the end her old ways will win out. Change has to be done because the person needing it WANTS it, not because others want it. You can't just break up with someone and expect that to fix problem central to them. The world doesn't work that way. Look, most relationships DO NOT work out. It is what it is, so if you aren't happy, break up with her to be happy, not to change someone.
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    Aug 5, 2009, 02:28 PM
    Talaniman Rule- No communications, no relationship.

    Talaniman Rule- If you have to fix 'em, to like 'em, your wasting your time, and should leave them alone.

    What ever her issues they are hers, and you trying to change her is NEVER going to work. She may change for a bit to appease you, but not for the long run.

    Just because she is a church girl, that doesn't mean she is compatible.

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