[jolienoire]

It never ceases to amaze me that most people who post on this site experienced this situation a perfectly loving relationship go sour. One minute the person you are with says "I love you" and the next day they want to end the relationship.

So I decided to put my input on this situation as to why I think people Love and Leave.
Well first and foremost, let's define the word

LOVE according to the dictionary it means transitive and intransitive verb to feel tender affection for somebody such as a close relative or friend, or for something such as a place, an ideal, or an anima an intense feeling of tender affection and compassion.

Now let's define Commitment something that takes up time or energy, especially an obligation.

Love is not a commitment; it is not a guarantee, but only a tender affection or compassion for something.. So when we hear "I love you" something that channels in our brain tell us this mean "I want a commitment" Love is not an obligation but a privilege which can be revoked as fast as it was given.

Sometimes we read too much into the word! We give the word too much power and control. Those three words "I love you" usually make or break a relationship. We're always looking to hear it, versus feeling it. We know when it's forced. We know when the person means it we tell by their actions..

SO why is that when they act as if they don't want to be with us, show us all the signs, stop saying the word, mistreating us, We are in denial. Because this person said "I love you". Our whole world crumbles...

How many times you told someone you loved "I love you" did that ever warrant that you wanted to be with them? Or that you needed to be with them.. There are some people we love and we do it better from a distance... There are some we Love but know it just won't work!

So when someone says "I love you" for the first time maybe we shouldn't react so quickly to take them on those words until we actually see LOVE in action... To say it is one thing to show it is another. Perhaps if we start to stop blinding ourselves with the word being said and open our eyes to what is being done, then perhaps we can save ourselves from future heartbreaks.

What do you think?

[katieperez]

What do you think?

I think you're brilliant :D Amen to you sister! Actions scream volumes louder than words and I think many people ignore that. "I love you" is so over rated and over used. Sometimes my husband will say 'I love you' and I'll say, I know. Or we'll have a fight and he'll say but babe you know I love you, and I'll say then remind me how much by showing me. A good point is, you can love someone all day long but that doesn't mean you like them. Prime example, I have a cousin that I love tremendously, but I can't stand him at the same time. I'd be heartbroken if anything ever happened to him as I would with any member of my family, but I really don't like the guy. He's an a$$. But I love him. Anyway, I really enjoyed reading this post. Thanks jolie!

[mafiaangel180]

I think this is very intelligent! And it pertains to many of my relationships...

However, I have had some men tell me AND show me and then dump me anyway.

[jolienoire]

I think this is very intelligent! And it pertains to many of my relationships...

However, I have had some men tell me AND show me and then dump me anyway.

But that had nothing to do with you.. . That was their problem and their loss! You have to put yourself on the Highest pedastal and say TOO BAD FOR HIM... and keep it moving..

[Speaklife]

Insigthful, and made me think. When you tell someone that you Love them you are in someway making a commitment to them, it is just not always that kind of commitment we want.

When someone says "I Love You" you expect that they will look out for your best interest, treat you well and make sure that you get the best. And that might mean breaking up with someone because that party is not capable of making the other kind of commitment -- the kind we are looking for.

It is possible to love people and no be in love with them, and in the long run the best thing that can ever happen to you is to have someone who loves you break up with you. It can show that they actually care enough not to break your heart later down the line. No worries, if it is meant to work out it will.

Just my thoughts