[egtt22]

Originally Posted by Romefalls19
Life throws tons of obstacles at couples, if you two are built for greatness, you conquer them together. If you two aren't meant for greatness together, you conquer them apart.



I like that as well

[liz28]

When you wrote "cusins" you meant "cousins" right. Some of the things you wrote in your post confused me because of the grammar but I think I got what your drift.

So what your saying is"you know you should move and have other options but again your waiting on her to decide what she wants to do because she is confuse. And you love her + the two of you are soulmate and great together. Being on and off is great because she always comes back."

Well, after all this is your life. Life is about dealing with the decisions you make, so your choices only affects you.

Best of luck!

[jmw0713]

You will be waiting months or years for her to make up her mind. She is saying she wants space as a way to soften the blow of breaking up with you... AGAIN!

That is the oldest line in the book:

GF/Ex: "I'm confused about us right now. I need to space to figure out what I want to do."

Translation: "I really don't want to be with you anymore, but I don't want to hurt your feelings. I want to break-up with you and distance myself from this relationship to see what else is out there. Sorry we are over."

Guys ALWAYS take what the girl says literally and word for word. Girls on the other hand ALWAYS have some sort of hidden mean in what they say or do. That's why women expect us to be mind readers, because they expect us to pick up on the hidden meanings of there actions or words. That is were we both get in trouble communication wise.

Your ex (I am going to refer to her as that from this point forward, because that's what she is) is expecting you to take the hint, move on, and leave her alone.

That is exactly what you need to do. You need to stop sitting there, spinning your wheels, trying to think of a way to get her back, or analyzing why she is behaving this way.

You are stuck holding out hope that she is going to come back, since she came back to you before. Why? Her actions clearly say that she is keeping you close by, because she has not found anyone better YET! When that other dude comes around, she is going to drop you quick. Why wait around for that to happen?

You are in complete denial about this situation. I was where you are at one point not to long ago. Finally when I found out the truth, it hurt a heck of a lot more than it would have if I would have just let go.

She has already told you what she wants. Guess what pal... it's not you. So you must take that blow to your ego and start on the path of recovery, by moving on and leaving this girl alone.

[egtt22]

All that's fine sofenting the blow I know about all that to your in not in my mind or my position at the moment

I'm upset of course but I'm not dying if she don't come back owell but the hope is just still there


I'm still living my life and getting over it

I have other options in other girls too its not like I'm going to be miserable and sit single forever

I'm a pretty likeable guy

And the only reason why I don't think she is trying to soft the BLOW is because she is calling me I told her to cut ties but she won't have it

I just don't know I have many more examples of stuff like this where its worked out in the end

I will not be strung along once again

[jmw0713]

Actions speak louder than words. She took the action to break up which is way more telling about how she feels than her ringing you up once every few days.

the only reason why I don't think she is trying to soft the BLOW is because she is calling me I told her to cut ties but she won't have it

When my ex laid the "I need some space line" on me, we still talked once or twice a week for a few months.

Do you know what this accomplished?

Nothing, except allowing her to more easily move on from me and hook up with someone else. Little did I know, that her talking to me, and me going along with it, was just a way for HER to relieve HER guilt she had with herself about breaking up with me.

The hope is still there, because you allow her to stay in your life.

If you have other "options", why waste your time with this girl?

[egtt22]

I even told her too that the blow has been struck there's no reason to soften it now
She says I'm not I'm being honest and everything I have told you is the honest truth


And after hanging out with some of the other options some more I don't feel it at all there not the same I want only one person in this world and its her

But getting her back what's the best way to do that because I do want her back

I've heard just ignore her and pretend to be perfectly fine and maybe even date a little bit

And then other says be nice and cute things for her like take her to where you guys shared your first kiss stuff like that I mean what do I do now

[talaniman]

Step back, and take another look at what it is you want to get back.

[egtt22]

I took a huge step back the last time around and I still know what I want I am kind of a hard headed person


I work hard for what I want

So I do want her