[xoxaprilwine]

I'm feeling a bit better today... for the time being.

I ended up partying with a friend at my house xmas eve into xmas morning. As I was coming down I got super depressed and ended up sending my ex a simple merry xmas txt. Nothing intense.. just a merry christmas to her and the pets. She responded sending me the same for my family and I - it was a fairly canned response. I thought long and hard for weeks about sending the text.. I started feeling childish thinking about the pro's and cons of sending something. And i figured what the hell i'll just feel like an idiot if i wanted to say something and didn't. Sending it was probably not a good idea.. but after all is said and done it didn't bug me that much and I feel fine right now.

New Years is going to be rough.... but i'll have friends around so that's cool.

You did the right thing by saying Merry Christmas :), hope you try to have a happy new year.

[Dare81]

I think my situation is a good example for all those people hoping and wishing their ex's would contact them for a reconcile.

When my ex and I broke up years and years ago i moved out and didn't say a SINGLE word to her for 1.5 years, aside from I think one stupid txt, that she ignored. As far as I knew she hated me.

Out of the blue she contacted me and we quickly continued our relationship after we realized we were stubborn and made mistakes that weren't worth the break-up. During our time apart we both dated other people and attempted to continue our lives, even thought i was miserable and she was too... or so she says.

And in the end, after growing more attached and making more of a life together (or so we thought) the second time around....we broke-up again. Making this round WAAAAAY worse than the first time because of the emotional investment and thinking "hey, i got a second shot..this must be REAL".

Splitting up is like breaking a fine piece of china. *If* you can reconcile and glue the pieces back together... the faint cracks from the repair never really go away.

Is it worth reconciling? That's for the individual to decide.. My verdict is still out on this as it's all very fresh.... but i think anyone reading this garble will see the answer.

My and my ex wert togather for almost 9 years too with a 1 year split 5 years into the relationship. My experience is it's not worth reconciling.Most people who break up and get back togather don't really work on things that were wrong with there relationships that caused the break up. The get back togather and hope that all the problem are going to solve themselves out.