[mama_sunshine]

Well from my own personal experience, I was 16 when I got pregnant, my boyfriend at the time wanted nothing to do with it and wanted me to have an abortion and I told him no way in HELL would I kill my child. We actually stayed together, and when my son was born he refused to even come see him at the hospital. I am 19 now and my son is 18 months old and I have a 2 month old daughter with the same guy. We are no longer together, and he is not in our lives at all. He has never seen our daughter, and hasn't seen our son for a year now. There is no contact whatsoever but I am happier than I ever could have imagined. My kids are the best thing that EVER happened to me, and my family was very supportive as well. I am in college to be a teacher, and I work 2 jobs to support my kids, but I wouldn't trade that for anything in the world, so my opinion is keep the baby, I agree that an innocent child should not have to die because the "father" doesn't want it! Good luck with everything and I hope all works out for you. And CONGRATS! On the baby!

[sankan]

Have your baby ! I was 19 I had a great mum for support and 2 sisters we got through he wanted for nothing as a child now, wants everything! But that can't be helped he's 13 this month, congratulations even if you decide mother hood isn't for you yet there are other options out there apart from abortion you could ahave your child adopted there are millions of wondeful caring childless couples out there you could help, but I think you actually want your baby when the heat has died down don't you??

[sankan]

You make a great m um!

[brown_eyes_3546]

I like the other people that have given you advice here am currently a pregnant teen. But I unlike you have been lucky enough that I am soon to be engaged and married and the baby's father loves me and the child. Like I said I'm one of the lucky ones!

The guy is responsible for his part in this and you have to remember that. You did not climb on top of yourself and get pregnant... I promise! It his moral and legal obligation to pay child support even if he does not want to be in the child's life. He will regret that decision when he grows up and turns into a man. You appear to be against abortion so I won't even touch that, I am pro choice it is just that every woman's choice.

But I will tell you that adoption is not the same as it used to be. There are open adoptions now, the birth parents are allowed to see there children as often as they like and you can even interveiw couples and choose who adopts your baby. This is a good alternative if you feel that you cannot do it on your own but cannot live without knowing anything about your baby. But I will say that anything is possible if your family and friends are behind you. My mom had me at 12 and kept me. My father was in prision through most of it so there was no child support probably 70% of my childhood and I moved out at 16 so he didn't help much after that either. With the exception of us butting heads quite frequently she was a great mom and did everything I needed her to do and anyone has that ability if they truly want to keep there child. But be prepared for the missed parties and extra hours at work that you will undoubtedly have to put in. my mom always regreted keeping me because of those things and I only bring it up because she never thought about it. She only thought about not being able to kill her baby and the couple that was supposed to adopt me filed for devorce about 3 weeks before I was born making them no longer eligible to adopt me.

I know this is a hard decision and I hope that everyone's input has helped you. If y0our family is there for you through every thing else they will deffinantly love your child too.

Best of luck with everything your future holds.

[MarMar27]

Baby girl I am your age and went through the same thing.. I went through with my pregnancy except I suffered a lot because the father of my child made my life hell while I was pregnant because He wanted to have control over me he wasn't there for me at all and he did mention having an abortion when I was first pregnant... you know what's right and what's wrong... only you.. dont let him tell you what to do with your child.. a child is a blessing and I know you would not regret it.. and I tell you what.. I bet once you have that baby he is going to want to be a part of that child's life and He is going to be the one having a hard time and regreting what he said and did to you.. Its happening to me now my son is 4 months old and now the father wants to be a part of my life and all but I'm not giving it to him that easy and he loves his son.. but there's consequences he is facing because of what he did while I was pregnant.. And my family supported me also... thats all you need is your family no one is going to love you and be there for you as much as your family.. they always got your back.. and remember everything happens for a reason.. my best friend had an abortion last year and she still cries and regrets it until this day.. that is something I don't encourage anyone to do but that is only your decision.. there's always people willing to take care of your baby if you cant.. people that are not able to have kids.. But I think you know what you are doing.. Just think about that baby and you don't worry about him because It will all work out and once you have that child you are not going to care about anything else but that baby... believe me I went through the worst in my pregnancy and I would do it all over again just to have my son.. he's a coward he can't step up to his responsibility... dont let him make you feel guilty about anything if he tries to because men tend to do that.. well If you need some advice you can message me.. I been through it all!. take care

[kadence9406]

I know a lot of people say been there done that, but I have been in your situation, and my beautiful one year old daughter resulted from it. I wouldn't change a thing for the world. I believe that you are a much stronger person than your ex and are quite capable of raising a child... family support helps a lot. I was 17 when I got pregnant, and confused at first, but she is a gift from above, and a life altering choice that I made. You would regret having an abortion every day for the rest of your life, if you have feelings as strong as you do already. I hope the best for you, and your soon to be child... things will work out, I promise.