[Copperhead6]

Well, I think I dug in today and got a little closure. I don't see this going anywhere so I thought I would share with you guys:

My email:
Hey dork, what do you think I could do to be a better boyfriend in my next relationship? I figured you'd have as good an opinion as anyone. Just don't mention the dipping, I already know its gross lol. I'm trying to be the best I can be, I have thick skin so you don't have to worry about offending me. Have an excellent weekend. - tom

Her Response:

Tommy,

I have to tell you, that you weren't a bad boyfriend. I feel that, there is no need for you to change or visa versa, I think that you (and by you I mean a person in general) need to find that person that they are comtatible with. You know as well as I do, that we had some great times, but in the end, I don't believe that we were meant for each other. Don't try to change who you are or what you do, because you think it will make you a better boyfriend. It is always the little things in a relationship that count, and when you find that person that you are meant to be with, you will naturally become a better person, just from being around them and wanting do do nice things for them and think of them first. That is my answer, I really don't have any suggestions except for the obvious, dipping and the heavy drinking and drunk dialing. These things are never good for a healthy relationship. Are you asking me this, because you have a good prospect? If you do, I wish you all the best. You know that you will always have a place in my heart.

*****

My final reply:

Thanks, I'm confident that I have been able to move on from the whole thing. I've been feeling a lot better about things these last few weeks. I was really surprised that I was hung up on you for so long. Not in a bad way. The reason I asked you was because I want to be able to learn from the relationship so when I do find the right one I will be as well-balanced as possible. I know, for the most part, I was a great boyfriend, as were you too. There is someone I've taken an interest in, which has made me remember all my good qualities, but I'm definitely taking things slow. I don't really want to go into details because I don't think I would have any interest to hear who you were dating. I would rather just assume you were happy and not worry about it. I have to be honest, it killed me watching you get in the car with Zac that day at the mall and I guess that was the turning point for me. Even though I know you guys are just friends. I realized that day, that as long as I didn't have to see you I would be fine. I'm sure at some point I'd be fine with that too. Of course I think your great, and if you ever need a reminder of how beautiful you are, don't hesitate to call. Man this is long. Got to run, got a busy weekend! Take care, Tom

Well boys, I feel good about this, and somehow I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I'm going to meet the new girls parents and spend the weekend two hours away and I feel really good about it. This email left me with nothing but confirmation that it is really over. I won't be monitoring for her response. Just wanted to share with those of you who might be interested.

[Geoffersonairplane]

I'm happy for you copperhead that you have got some closure here. I wish you all the best for the future. Take it easy!

I guess you will be around here from time to time and should be because you give some good advice and responses to a lot of threads as I recall.

[Copperhead6]

Thanks, yea I like to come in when I think back on how bad of shape I was in at one point and try to help people that are going through that, because we all know it can be a total pain. You give great advice too Geoff.

[emopunk7]

If my ex had given me such a mature and detailed response and well said, I think I'd have fallen even ore in love. I think I mostly miss the comfortness and the great sex being that I thought she was beautiful... Will I ever find that wildness again with another Copper?

[Copperhead6]

Yea, it was well written, but falling more in love just wouldn't make sense, better to use it as a way to feel good about closure. Emo, if wildness is all you are looking for you can find that literally all over town my friend!

[emopunk7]

Im into being wild but with one person that I care about.