Well, I think I dug in today and got a little closure. I don't see this going anywhere so I thought I would share with you guys:

My email:
Hey dork, what do you think I could do to be a better boyfriend in my next relationship? I figured you'd have as good an opinion as anyone. Just don't mention the dipping, I already know its gross lol. I'm trying to be the best I can be, I have thick skin so you don't have to worry about offending me. Have an excellent weekend. - tom

Her Response:

Tommy,

I have to tell you, that you weren't a bad boyfriend. I feel that, there is no need for you to change or visa versa, I think that you (and by you I mean a person in general) need to find that person that they are comtatible with. You know as well as I do, that we had some great times, but in the end, I don't believe that we were meant for each other. Don't try to change who you are or what you do, because you think it will make you a better boyfriend. It is always the little things in a relationship that count, and when you find that person that you are meant to be with, you will naturally become a better person, just from being around them and wanting do do nice things for them and think of them first. That is my answer, I really don't have any suggestions except for the obvious, dipping and the heavy drinking and drunk dialing. These things are never good for a healthy relationship. Are you asking me this, because you have a good prospect? If you do, I wish you all the best. You know that you will always have a place in my heart.

*****

My final reply:

Thanks, I'm confident that I have been able to move on from the whole thing. I've been feeling a lot better about things these last few weeks. I was really surprised that I was hung up on you for so long. Not in a bad way. The reason I asked you was because I want to be able to learn from the relationship so when I do find the right one I will be as well-balanced as possible. I know, for the most part, I was a great boyfriend, as were you too. There is someone I've taken an interest in, which has made me remember all my good qualities, but I'm definitely taking things slow. I don't really want to go into details because I don't think I would have any interest to hear who you were dating. I would rather just assume you were happy and not worry about it. I have to be honest, it killed me watching you get in the car with Zac that day at the mall and I guess that was the turning point for me. Even though I know you guys are just friends. I realized that day, that as long as I didn't have to see you I would be fine. I'm sure at some point I'd be fine with that too. Of course I think your great, and if you ever need a reminder of how beautiful you are, don't hesitate to call. Man this is long. Got to run, got a busy weekend! Take care, Tom

Well boys, I feel good about this, and somehow I feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I'm going to meet the new girls parents and spend the weekend two hours away and I feel really good about it. This email left me with nothing but confirmation that it is really over. I won't be monitoring for her response. Just wanted to share with those of you who might be interested.

I'm happy for you copperhead that you have got some closure here. I wish you all the best for the future. Take it easy!

I guess you will be around here from time to time and should be because you give some good advice and responses to a lot of threads as I recall.

Thanks, yea I like to come in when I think back on how bad of shape I was in at one point and try to help people that are going through that, because we all know it can be a total pain. You give great advice too Geoff.

If my ex had given me such a mature and detailed response and well said, I think I'd have fallen even ore in love. I think I mostly miss the comfortness and the great sex being that I thought she was beautiful... Will I ever find that wildness again with another Copper?

Yea, it was well written, but falling more in love just wouldn't make sense, better to use it as a way to feel good about closure. Emo, if wildness is all you are looking for you can find that literally all over town my friend!

Im into being wild but with one person that I care about.