[Bettylalu18]

When did this start?

If you can't figure it out, you're going o have to ask a relative or good friend.

It started when I was in middle school. The guys I liked began eyeing my classmates and female friends and they began expecting me to stand in the same room and watch them kiss in front of me.

[Bettylalu18]

Maybe you need a make over. You don't have to dress like a slut to look like a modern college student in America. That may help you fit in and not stand out as a target for bullies.

But I live with my ghanaian parents and they don't allow me to wear make up or dress attractive. Last time when I saw a brown face powder on my dresser, I picked it up and used it on my face and when my mother and father saw me, they somehow realized I was wearing make up and they began screaming on me and saying that's all I think about is wearing make up and lip gloss and when in reality I never wear make up. It shows me how much of miserable parents they really are.

[Bettylalu18]

Wha?????????????

Sadly, its true :(

[N0help4u]

You have NO one that you feel you can talk to that might be willing to tell you why they treat you this way? Try and think of ONE person male or female that seems like they might like you a little bit but maybe just following the crowd and tell them you want an honest answer and you don't care how bad it sounds. If we had an idea of what goes on in their head we could probably help a lot more.

[Bettylalu18]

Thats what I told her on the other post that the girls at the University that I work at gave the one girl a really really easy make over.

I really would love to get a makeover and look pretty but I can't because my parents won't allow me. :(

[N0help4u]

There are things you can do without make up. There are products that can make the natural glow of your own skin come out.

[Wondergirl]

You describe yourself as exotic looking. What do you mean by that? Unusual hair style? Odd tattoos? Unusual piercings? You wear some kind of head covering? A facial deformity? A missing or unusual body part? Is there something that might put people off when they look at you? (I'm really reaching here, but do not understand the ewwwwws.)

I dated a guy in college. His left index finger was missing because of an accident. He played the piano like nobody's business and was a sweet guy, but girls wouldn't go out with him because they were put off by his missing finger.

[N0help4u]

Exotic looking and then describes how plain she is? I'm getting more lost here

[Bettylalu18]

You have NO one that you feel you can talk to that might be willing to tell you why they treat you this way? Try and think of ONE person male or female that seems like they might like you a little bit but maybe just following the crowd and tell them you want an honest answer and you don't care how bad it sounds. If we had an idea of what goes on in their head we could probably help a lot more.

Ok I'll try to message some of guy friends on Facebook to see why they think I'm not being approached and rather shoved away.

[Bettylalu18]

exotic looking and then describes how plain she is? I'm getting more lost here

Don't foget that it's hard to understand why guy's never approach attractive girls but rather unattractive ones.

[Bettylalu18]

There are things you can do without make up. There are products that can make the natural glow of your own skin come out.

Like what kind of products? Please tell me more!

[joypulv]

Guys never approach attractive girls? Goodness, that is just not true.

I have a feeling that your parents brought you up with some attitudes and behaviors that just aren't going over well, especially in the US. This is more common than you might think! But we are shooting in the dark here, guessing and guessing at everything.

[Bettylalu18]

Guys never approach attractive girls? Goodness, that is just not true.

I have a feeling that your parents brought you up with some attitudes and behaviors that just aren't going over well, especially in the US. This is more common than you might think! But we are shooting in the dark here, guessing and guessing at everything.

But you see its true, Sometimes, you'll be perfect, and guys still won't approach.
You wonder why, and spend time & effort on it.
But some chicks just have "it" and some chicks don't.
Don't ask me what that "it" is... I have seen unattractive girls popular with the guys, and pretty ones ignored..

[joypulv]

There's no such thing as perfect.
I think you do have a fundamental problem with how you view the world and people, both men and women. It really does sound like you think that if you 'do' everything just right, there's no reason not to be liked. Dress, looks, hair, face, clothes, all that counts for first impressions to some extent, but has nothing to do with personality. And yes, that's the 'it' all people either have or don't, personality. We all have different ones, and we all are attracted to different ones. There's no 'it' that comes in a box with instructions.

The fundamentals of a good personality are friendliness and a genuine interest in other people. Perhaps you 'present' yourself to people as well dressed and respectful as you said, when your object shouldn't be to impress people at all - it's to be interested in them, in a nice and friendly way. Slowly at first, with hellos as you pass by, and later some compliments and nice day we are having, and so on, until you establish 'something' between you that can evolve.

[N0help4u]

Oil of Olay, Avons Skin So Soft, Aloe vera, use glycerin soap like Pear's. Look up exfoliating your skin for different ideas. Lemons will even help your skin.

[J_9]

So, there is at least one guy who asked you out, right?

What do your parents think of your pregnancy?

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/childr...ar-761173.html

[Alty]

You're pregnant and you want to know if we think that the name Queenstar (which you stated is your name) is a good name for your baby girl, but no guy will come near you, they all push you away? How does that work?

Are you interested in a bridge? I have one for sale in London. Don't believe me? Well... ditto.