[Homegirl 50]

You certainly don't sound like a 23 year old. You think he is physically inferior to you, I think you are emotionally inferior. You have no respect for this guy so you need to leave him alone. I'm sure he can find a woman who appreciates him for who he is, not for who he can beat wrestling.

[Alty]

You're 23? Wow! I would have figured 13, maybe 14 tops. You are very immature for a 23 year old adult. Most 23 year olds don't act this way.

Were you a bully in school as well?

[worry_momma]

The way I see it, it doesn't matter on how strong,skinny,fat,or emoshional your boyfriend is it's about how he treats you. If he treats you right and loves you the way you should be loved girl you have it made. Being strong or size or any of that don't matter it's love that matters

[nina40]

It could be a trick watch your back girl!

[Alty]

It could be a trick watch your back girl!

What?

Someone obviously has issues.

[niallover101]

He could be letting you win. I know mine always lets me win in everything. I wouldn't be turned off. That means no fighting. I don't know if fighting is cute to you. I find it absolutely disgusting and unattractive, I don't think his muscle should matter. If you really like him. You would be with him for who he is, not how he appears.

[Tc123]

I agree that he could be letting you win. As far as your brother, maybe he didn't want to hurt your brother? Maybe he is just a gentleman. But my personal answer to your question is no. Your boyfriend is not a wimp.

[JudyKayTee]

I'm reading this with clear eyes, not having seen it before. My take? AMHD is again being taken by someone (probably last week's person) who posts deliberately to get a response.

And she got one.

I'm not believing it - from the style of writing to the content.

I'm only surprised it didn't start with "Don't hate me but ...," a very clear indication of where things are going.

On the offchance that the OP is serious (which I highly doubt) every relationship has give and take. She's a bully, he likes to bully and be physically inferior to her, it works for them, good luck to the whole family.

[AshleyL89]

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my boyfriend tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.

I agree that he could be letting you win. As far as your brother, maybe he didn't want to hurt your brother? Maybe he is just a gentleman. But my personal answer to your question is no. Your boyfriend is not a wimp.

He could have, but he isn't.

It could be a trick watch your back girl!

Huh? I doubt it, but I'll keep that it in mind.lol

[Cat1864]

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my bf tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.

Ashley, your boyfriend may not be as strong as you are. He may not be physically strong. He may be strong in other ways. His strength may lie in his love and loyalty.

He may also be the type who doesn't give his all when playing games but when courage and strength are needed he will give his life for those he loves.

You, on the other hand, seem to think that masculinity is tied to acting like a jerk and beating other people up. Your 'play' wrestling sounds more like a test. He isn't a man or worth much if he can't beat up a child and woman. He won't be able to protect me if he can't win a play fight. I shouldn't be with a wimpy kid who can't beat up me or my brother in a game. That is how you sound.

Being a man is more than muscular strength. It is knowing when to use your brain instead of your biceps to solve conflicts. It is not being afraid to care and show it. It is knowing the difference between playing and reality.

If you don't love him as the person he is, then let him go. But do not call him a wimp because you are behaving like a bully.

[Homegirl 50]

I'm pretty certain my boyfriend was trying, against me and my brother. My little brother is a wrestler, so he is strong for his size and age group, not to mention knows how to wrestle. But my bf tried wrestling and armwrestling me and I won. You're over analyzing my entire post, maybe because it isn't clear to you.

You sound like a shallow immature bully. You have called your boyfriend a wimp because you beat him arm wrestling. I suggest you leave him alone. Allow him to find someone who will respect who he is, you don't.

[talaniman]

Why is it such a big deal that he isn't into physicality as much as you are?

[JudyKayTee]

Maybe this is a good time to take a vote. Speaking only for myself: I have never arm wrestled with a boyfriend, never. I have also never seriously wrestled with a boyfriend, never.

Did I miss something by not engaging in these activities?

Thinking back, my late husband was a very large man but had a heart condition. Him, I bet I could have arm wrestled him into submission due to his health concerns. Darn! I never thought of it!

[AshleyL89]

He had a heart condition then no you should not have wrestled or arm wrestled him maybe. My boyfriend doesn't. Nice attempt at sarcasm?

[JudyKayTee]

Let me make a note of that - do not arm wrestle men with heart conditions,

And, no, you failed miserably.

[Homegirl 50]

How can you in good conscious continue to date someone who feel so poorly about? Your boyfriend is not a wimp but he is certainly with the wrong person.

[odinn7]

I actually have to agree with the OP that the boyfriend is a wimp...

I mean, anyone that wasn't a wimp surely wouldn't put up with being treated this way, would they?

[JudyKayTee]

Odinn is the clear winner here - yes, the boyfriend is a wimp.

[Alty]

Have to say, I agree. The boyfriend is a wimp. Anyone that stays with someone as callous as the OP, is too afraid to tell her the truth, and leave. He needs to get a backbone, leave this bully, and find someone that appreciates him for who he is.

[JudyKayTee]

Alty, roll up your sleeve and come on over here...