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nozi · Apr 7, 2013, 06:56 AM

I'm still in love with my ex that cheated and I found out on Facebook, confronted him, and he didn't deny it so I broke with him and I now regret it because I miss him and want him back. Am I crazy??

joypulv · Apr 7, 2013, 07:00 AM

Not crazy. Just hurt, like millions of hurt people in love, every day.
You are in love with a man who ISN'T who you thought he was.
Once you really, really get that, you will get over him, because he doesn't exist. The man you love doesn't exist. This is a cheater, and you didn't fall in love with a cheater! He doesn't exist.
Get mad at him instead. Who loves a cheater? Go out with your girlfriends and buy lobster and some new shoes and a big glass of wine, and say hi to all the cute guys who walk by, while your gf's say 'ignore her, she's on the rebound.'

nozi · Apr 8, 2013, 12:44 AM

I totally get what you sayn and it works when Im out but as soon as I get home and Im all alone, than he comes worming his way back into my mind and than I get so frustrated and sad and all those sorby emotions... OK n the other thing I fear is that I might not get a guy who DID ME as good as he did. Its like he could read my mind on what I wantd him to do so I don't want to be comparing the next guy I meet to the cheater.

cjk888 · Apr 8, 2013, 04:03 AM

Originally Posted by nozi

i totally get what you sayn and it works when Im out but as soon as I get home and Im all alone, than he comes worming his way back into my mind and than I get so frustrated n sad n all those sorby emotions..... ok n the other thing I fear is that i might not get a guy who DID ME as good as he did. its like he could read my mind on what I wantd him to do so I don't want to be comparing the next guy I meet to the cheater.

I'm in the same situation a little different but still feel hurt. I have a daugter with my ex and I still have to see her most days. Its onlt been 1 month and I live by myself now. All you need to do is keep telling yourself he is a cheat the brain will start to understand and you will move on. Its so hard when your by yourself so try and be around mates. Have people stay over and like the last comment meet new people. Its very boring and hard but it will go well that's what I tell myself lol.

nozi · Apr 8, 2013, 07:06 AM

Lol yeah I hear what you saying and I will try, its very hard as it is trying to hold up a conversation with a cute guy without comparing but I will push myself to try and fun with my girls as much as possible otherwise I will get me a rebound when they not around... Isn't it easier to hate him when Im still with him and that way I might get to fall out of love with him and be able to move on from there??

Think about it, having to see the cheater everyday and hating him for not being there when you want him so you end up thinking that his cheating somewhere even when his not and than you hate him that much that you really, really don't want him anymore... will it work

cjk888 · Apr 8, 2013, 07:37 AM

Originally Posted by nozi

lol yeah I hear what you saying and I will try, its very hard as it is trying to hold up a conversation with a cute guy without comparing but I will push myself to try and fun with my girls as much as possible otherwise I will get me a rebound when they not around..... Isn't it easier to hate him when Im still with him and that way I might get to fall out of love with him and be able to move on from there?????

think about it, having to see the cheater everyday and hating him for not being there when you want him so you end up thinking that his cheating somewhere even when his not and than you hate him that much that you really, really don't want him anymore...... will it work

Honeslty I don't think that will work, the best way is to cut contact with him it's the hardest but best way. If you see him then the feelings just stay. I have to see my ex everyday and I still love her but know its not going to work so I just say no lol.
I bet if feels like it's the end of your world but trust me it isn't and you will find someone you deserve it just takes time and don't just go for anyone unless its just a rebound / bit of fun.

talaniman · Apr 8, 2013, 08:38 AM

Originally Posted by nozi

lol yeah I hear what you saying and I will try, its very hard as it is trying to hold up a conversation with a cute guy without comparing but I will push myself to try and fun with my girls as much as possible otherwise I will get me a rebound when they not around..... Isn't it easier to hate him when Im still with him and that way I might get to fall out of love with him and be able to move on from there?????

think about it, having to see the cheater everyday and hating him for not being there when you want him so you end up thinking that his cheating somewhere even when his not and than you hate him that much that you really, really don't want him anymore...... will it work

Why torture and test yourself by keeping him around? That will never work, and its easier, and healthier to make a clean break so the healing can begin. I give you props for having enough dignity and self respect to dump the guy in the first place.

nozi · Apr 8, 2013, 11:30 PM

Wow thank you guys so much, you know talking about ths is helping in a way with people who actually understand and I think I will get through this. I look forward to this everyday lol weird I know mara it is helping me. I feel rather happy today and haven't thought about contact him and I really hope it lasts... There is some eye candy that is helping me to forget about the cheater and it's not because I want him but he motivates me to get someone a million times better than what I had and I know I AM WORTH IT#smiling4dayz# .

cjk888 · Apr 10, 2013, 03:31 AM

QUOTE by nozi;
Wow thank you guys so much, you know talking about ths is helping in a way with people who actually understand and I think I will get through this. I look forward to this everyday lol weird I know mara it is helping me. I feel rather happy today and haven't thought about contact him and I really hope it lasts... There is some eye candy that is helping me to forget about the cheater and it's not because I want him but he motivates me to get someone a million times better than what I had and I know I AM WORTH IT#smiling4dayz#.

I'm glad its getting better. Keep your head up and I'm sure you will find someone soon just don't take anything lol look for the right person for you. Enjoy.