[Zea]

My College major was English - I was taught that this means the fact that something is morally wrong does not make it legally wrong. The fact that something is well deserved does not make it right.

What is your understanding of the phrase?

Well, I am still in high school and my teacher told me that this means nothing is what it seems. What is good is bad, and what is bad is good; What looks fair and appealing can cause you harm, and the opposite is also true.
We are on the same page here, the main theme is deception.

[talaniman]

I am old school and a plumber by trade who thinks it a lousy idea to hold on to someone that has let you go a long time ago. Even if I was so moved to try it again, I wouldn't hope for much, and would be ready to let it go permanently if it failed.

Been there done that, and that's how I know well about FALSE HOPE! And for damn sure I would never keep giving money to a stripper and think that's a healthy way to pursue romance!

Just saying.

[Zea]

I know, it is not easy to forget. You really need some help, because you are obsessed.

I have an obsession too, so I understand you, sometimes I think too much, to the point where I get a headache; I remember the silliest details that you probably don't pay attention to. It is like the world moves on, and you are left to wonder about this alone. Still, that does not drive me to do something idiotic. I wish I can make it stop, but when I can't, I just have to deal with it and that is what I do.

Sometimes, some ideas get stuck in your head that you can't forget, and sometimes it's normal and other times it goes to far. Like giving money to a stranger, for this reason you need help if you can't handle it yourself.

You know what they say, when you meet someone you should have something nice to say about them. Did you ever share a special moment together? This you need to ask yourself.

[garboozle]

Take it from someone else who has an obsession as well. Unrequited love is a waste of time. Totally and completely. Rather than looking for someone to experience real love with you are wasting time obsessively pursuing someone who clearly doesn't want to be in a relationship with you when you COULD be actively looking for someone who WILL love you and who WILL care about you and make you happy. Think about that for a second. Is it really worth it? You may think so now but when you are thirty you will be quite disappointed in yourself for devoting so very much time and energy on a love that indubitable would not work. I believe P!nk said it best when she said "I swear, your just like a pill, instead of making me better, you keep making me ill".

[odinn7]

Take it from someone else who has an obsession as well. Unrequited love is a waste of time. Totally and completely. Rather than looking for someone to experience real love with you are wasting time obsessively pursuing someone who clearly doesn't want to be in a relationship with you when you COULD be actively looking for someone who WILL love you and who WILL care about you and make you happy. Think about that for a second. Is it really worth it? You may think so now but when you are thirty you will be quite disappointed in yourself for devoting so very much time and energy on a love that indubitable would not work. I believe P!nk said it best when she said "I swear, your just like a pill, instead of making me better, you keep making me ill".

Why the sudden change? You were all about how wonderful it was and how great you felt buying one-sided love... something happened?

[garboozle]

Why the sudden change? You were all about how wonderful it was and how great you felt buying one-sided love....something happened?

Just a lot of thinking. I still can't say I'll never see her or spend money on her again. I haven't reached a conclusion on rather all that time and energy is worth it or not because there are some positives. It's really complicated... For me anyway.

[santosh_mahato]

"One day your prince will come, mine just took a wrong turn, got lost, and is to stubborn to ask for directions "

Very nice emotional line.. :-)

[Zea]

Take it from someone else who has an obsession as well. Unrequited love is a waste of time. Totally and completely. Rather than looking for someone to experience real love with you are wasting time obsessively pursuing someone who clearly doesn't want to be in a relationship with you when you COULD be actively looking for someone who WILL love you and who WILL care about you and make you happy. Think about that for a second. Is it really worth it? You may think so now but when you are thirty you will be quite disappointed in yourself for devoting so very much time and energy on a love that indubitable would not work. I believe P!nk said it best when she said "I swear, your just like a pill, instead of making me better, you keep making me ill".

What? Are you giving me an advice? I REALLY hope this is not about me.

[odinn7]

What? Are you giving me an advice? I REALLY hope this is not about me.

Why would you think that's to you? He posted many times on this question to the OP so what could possibly make you think it was to you?

[garboozle]

What? Are you giving me an advice? I REALLY hope this is not about me.

Yeah, that was totally at the OP.

[Zea]

Good, So what does OP stand for?

[Wondergirl]

Good, So what does OP stand for?

OP = original poster or original post

[Zea]

OP = original poster or original post

Thanks for being so kind, I really did not get OP at first.

[JudyKayTee]

Garboozle, "it's complicated" is not the answer to every time you switch from that side to this side and then back again.

[garboozle]

Garboozle, "it's complicated" is not the answer to every time you switch from that side to this side and then back again.

But it is so very complicated. I realize what I said on post #64 is the rational and most realistic view, probably the healthiest too and the view that I strongly encourage the OP to take.. But. On a night like tonight that I have off, I have no friends to hang out with and nothing to do. So I think I'll go see her because where else can I go where I'll be hugged, be able to have conversation, be appreciated, and have fun?

[Wondergirl]

On a night like tonight that I have off, I have no friends to hang out with and nothing to do.

Do what I do: read a book. Silver Linings Playbook is terrific. I just started reading Olive Kitteridge. I also have a crossword puzzle going. Or hang out with us here.

[garboozle]

Do what I do: read a book. Silver Linings Playbook is terrific. I just started reading Olive Kitteridge. I also have a crossword puzzle going. Or hang out with us here.

Awh, man. I've read so many books I'm burnt out. Two Star Wars novels, two political science books, two books on body language,Batman Knightfall, The Last Song, and Batman & Philosophy and that's within the past four months. Crossword puzzles aren't my thing and I'd really like some face to face communication/ get out of the house for a bit.

[talaniman]

Plan stuff ahead, and you have something to look forward to. Got cousins or family? Man a sport bar for NCAA tournament was standard this time of year back in the day. Alone or with friends. Geez guy, go make some friends.

Same to the OP, a life that you enjoy starts yesterday.

[garboozle]

I only have a dad and brother, other than that, no family. I'm not really the sports bar type. Also it's a little difficult to just walk up to a stranger and strike up a friendship.

[Wondergirl]

Also it's a little difficult to just walk up to a stranger and strike up a friendship.

I do it all the time! And even did when I was your age. You can too!