[lucymaq]

My husband once cheated on me and he asked forgiveness and I forgave him but the problem is this every time when I remember my feelings for him desappears I need help because he tried by all means to please me.

[thatgirl92]

Sounds like you haven't forgave him fully. If your feelings for him disappear then maybe you need to reconsider your marriage. I would sit down with him and have a serious talk about how you really feel and then maybe have a fun day together to amend things. Good luck!

[CravenMorhead]

sounds like you havent forgave him fully. if your feelings for him disappear then maybe you need to reconsider your marriage. i would sit down with him and have a serious talk about how you really feel and then maybe have a fun day together to amend things. Good luck!

I was all for your response until the fun day.

Picture most relationships as a house of cards. Certain cards can be added and removed. What he did is take out a few of the cards of the base. So the entire thing has come crashing down. Having a fun day out is good, but it won't rebuild the house of cards. Maybe a card or two.

What needs to happen here is some professional therapy. There is a reason he cheated and there is a reason he stayed and not said sod it all to the relationship. They need to figure out if it is still viable. Talking to a neutral party well get this out. If they want to try to recover the marriage than they will have a resource to start doing this.

Good luck. This is a bad situation.

[Zealous1]

Forgive him and put the feelings aside. Don't be controlled by your feelings. Consult logic, reason, and intellect. The heart is deceitful above all things. Forgive and move forward.