My husband once cheated on me and he asked forgiveness and I forgave him but the problem is this every time when I remember my feelings for him desappears I need help because he tried by all means to please me.

Sounds like you haven't forgave him fully. If your feelings for him disappear then maybe you need to reconsider your marriage. I would sit down with him and have a serious talk about how you really feel and then maybe have a fun day together to amend things. Good luck!

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Originally Posted by thatgirl92

sounds like you havent forgave him fully. if your feelings for him disappear then maybe you need to reconsider your marriage. i would sit down with him and have a serious talk about how you really feel and then maybe have a fun day together to amend things. Good luck!

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I was all for your response until the fun day.

Picture most relationships as a house of cards. Certain cards can be added and removed. What he did is take out a few of the cards of the base. So the entire thing has come crashing down. Having a fun day out is good, but it won't rebuild the house of cards. Maybe a card or two.

What needs to happen here is some professional therapy. There is a reason he cheated and there is a reason he stayed and not said sod it all to the relationship. They need to figure out if it is still viable. Talking to a neutral party well get this out. If they want to try to recover the marriage than they will have a resource to start doing this.

Good luck. This is a bad situation.

Forgive him and put the feelings aside. Don't be controlled by your feelings. Consult logic, reason, and intellect. The heart is deceitful above all things. Forgive and move forward.