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    Aug 30, 2012, 05:35 PM
    Feeling guilty after relationship
    I recently got out of a relationship with a really nice girl we have been together for more than 5 years
    I gave up everything for her I quit my job my money I gave up my dream my time just to see her smile and hardly ever saw it she hooked up with this guy that treats her like trash and does not respect women the way they should be respected
    She left him and wanted to come back to me and I refused
    My question is
    Did I do the right thing or not?
    Guilt is killing me
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    Aug 30, 2012, 05:52 PM
    If you were not getting what you thought you should from the relationship any way, why should you feel guilty?
    I want to know why you would give up your job , money and dreams for her, why you felt you had to?
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:00 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    If you were not getting what you thought you should from the relationship any way, why should you feel guilty?
    I want to know why you would give up your job , money and dreams for her, why you felt you had to?
    Thank you that really helped
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:04 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Inso The Jester View Post
    I recently got out of a relationship with a really nice girl we have been together for more than 5 years
    i gave up everything for her i quit my job my money i gave up my dream my time just to see her smile and hardly ever saw it she hooked up with this guy that treats her like trash and does not respect women the way they should be respected
    she left him and wanted to come back to me and i refused
    my question is
    did i do the right thing or not?
    guilt is killing me

    Yes, you did the right thing for her long-term welfare.

    Just so I have this straight in your opinion how should women be treated? With respect?
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:08 PM
    And way more than just respect
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:09 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Inso The Jester View Post
    And way more than just respect
    And an example of that respect is the way you talk to people on AMHD, both women and men?

    You gave up your job just to see her smile? What does that mean? The thought of you unemployed, without money, made her happy?
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:11 PM
    Amhd?
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:11 PM
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    Amhd?

    Look around you. Figure out where you're posting.
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by JudyKayTee View Post
    And an example of that respect is the way you talk to people on AMHD, both women and men?

    You gave up your job just to see her smile? What does that mean? The thought of you unemployed, without money, made her happy?
    No so I can spend more time with her
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:12 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Inso The Jester View Post
    Amhd?
    Ask Me Help desk This website!
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:14 PM
    So you quit your job so you could spend more time with her? How were you supporting yourself?
    Thinking back, did that make sense to you?
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    #12

    Aug 30, 2012, 06:17 PM
    How old are you?
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:17 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    So you quit your job so you could spend more time with her? How were you supporting yourself?
    Thinking back, did that make sense to you?
    To be honest no
    After I reveiwed my life now I know how stupid I was
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:18 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Homegirl 50 View Post
    How old are you?

    I suspect she saw the bigger picture - this person is truly flawed. Bad decision after worse decision. In and out of jail (admittedly). https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ce-698171.html
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    #15

    Aug 30, 2012, 06:18 PM
    I prefer that I stay unknown to everyone
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:19 PM
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    I prefer that i stay unknown to everyone

    I know, you keep saying that. Who are you talking to? I don't see you being asked that question... again.

    Oh, I see - your age would tip us off to your Country. Got it.
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    #17

    Aug 30, 2012, 06:22 PM
    I have my reasons
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    #18

    Aug 30, 2012, 06:45 PM
    I think you are young thinking you are a deep thinker.
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    #19

    Aug 30, 2012, 06:49 PM
    No not really
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    Aug 30, 2012, 06:55 PM
    Based on the posts I'd guess 17, or younger.

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