I recently got out of a relationship with a really nice girl we have been together for more than 5 years
I gave up everything for her I quit my job my money I gave up my dream my time just to see her smile and hardly ever saw it she hooked up with this guy that treats her like trash and does not respect women the way they should be respected
She left him and wanted to come back to me and I refused
My question is
Did I do the right thing or not?
Guilt is killing me

If you were not getting what you thought you should from the relationship any way, why should you feel guilty?
I want to know why you would give up your job , money and dreams for her, why you felt you had to?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

If you were not getting what you thought you should from the relationship any way, why should you feel guilty?
I want to know why you would give up your job , money and dreams for her, why you felt you had to?

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Thank you that really helped

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Originally Posted by Inso The Jester

I recently got out of a relationship with a really nice girl we have been together for more than 5 years
i gave up everything for her i quit my job my money i gave up my dream my time just to see her smile and hardly ever saw it she hooked up with this guy that treats her like trash and does not respect women the way they should be respected
she left him and wanted to come back to me and i refused
my question is
did i do the right thing or not?
guilt is killing me

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Yes, you did the right thing for her long-term welfare.

Just so I have this straight in your opinion how should women be treated? With respect?

And way more than just respect

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Originally Posted by Inso The Jester

And way more than just respect

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And an example of that respect is the way you talk to people on AMHD, both women and men?

You gave up your job just to see her smile? What does that mean? The thought of you unemployed, without money, made her happy?

Amhd?

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Originally Posted by Inso The Jester

Amhd?

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Look around you. Figure out where you're posting.

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Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

And an example of that respect is the way you talk to people on AMHD, both women and men?

You gave up your job just to see her smile? What does that mean? The thought of you unemployed, without money, made her happy?

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No so I can spend more time with her

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Amhd?

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Ask Me Help desk This website!

So you quit your job so you could spend more time with her? How were you supporting yourself?
Thinking back, did that make sense to you?

How old are you?

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Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

So you quit your job so you could spend more time with her? How were you supporting yourself?
Thinking back, did that make sense to you?

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To be honest no
After I reveiwed my life now I know how stupid I was

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How old are you?

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I suspect she saw the bigger picture - this person is truly flawed. Bad decision after worse decision. In and out of jail (admittedly). https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/other-...ce-698171.html

I prefer that I stay unknown to everyone

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Originally Posted by Inso The Jester

I prefer that i stay unknown to everyone

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I know, you keep saying that. Who are you talking to? I don't see you being asked that question... again.

Oh, I see - your age would tip us off to your Country. Got it.

I have my reasons

I think you are young thinking you are a deep thinker.

No not really

Based on the posts I'd guess 17, or younger.