[Alysia19]

So me and this guy dated for just about a year and a half we broke up at the end of February and we started talking again a few days later, him telling me he's going to do whatever it takes to be with me and what not.
So we started seeing each other again a few weeks after that and some things got better but we are still fighting a lot... about really stupid things and he never wants to talk to me about anything that upsets him.. I don't understand that.
He came over last night cause he lives out of town and we had a stupid argument today I went to the store for a little bit and I come home... hes gon... him and all of his stuff... he doesn't even say goodbye.
I feel like that was a slap in the face, him saying you I'm done.
I don't know what to do...
I love him... and I just feel like now its over for good.
I know your all thinking oh your just young yet, you'll find another guy.
Well right now I don't want another...
I was hopeing so bad that it was going to work and I really feel like its over now.. im crushed and really confused...

[ednaidaly]

I would not talk to him & let him come to you first. Let him miss you & realize that he loves you and what he did was wrong. And if he doesn't call or anything then try to talk to him. That's what I would do :) good luck & hope you guys work it out!

[JudyKayTee]

I would not talk to him & let him come to you first. Let him miss you & realize that he loves you and what he did was wrong. And if he doesn't call or anything then try to talk to him. That's what I would do :) good luck & hope you guys work it out!

These are adults, too old to play games.

Teaching someone a lesson - the "let him come to you first" - never works in an adult relationship.

I'm not saying she needs to pursue him. If she needs closure (and I notice he lives out of town) then she needs to clear her head and decide whether to contact him, be the first person to admit she misses him.

It was a relationship that went sour. At some point she may want to know why.

The question is how she should react right now.

[Alysia19]

These are adults, too old to play games.

Teaching someone a lesson - the "let him come to you first" - never works in an adult relationship.

I'm not saying she needs to pursue him. If she needs closure (and I notice he lives out of town) then she needs to clear her head and decide whether to contact him, be the first person to admit she misses him.

It was a relationship that went sour. At some point she may want to know why.

The question is how she should react right now.

He doesn't have a phone so I can't call him or text him.
I messaged him on Facebook last night and today...
Telling him I'm sorry if I did anything to upset or hurt him.
I told him I miss him and he hasn't messaged me back all day...
Im hopeing he will tomorrow...

[odinn7]

Honestly, I know it hurts right now but I think you're better off without him. He sounds like a jerk. You guys fight over stupid things and then he's not willing to even communicate with you. To top it off, what kind of person runs out on someone when they go off to the store? He's a jerk. To me, it's clear that he doesn't care as much for you as you do for him. If he did, he wouldn't have been able to just pick up and leave without even saying anything to you.

I think you are much better off without having to deal with him. Break ups and losing someone aren't easy to deal with but as time goes on, it gets easier to do. After a while, you look back and want to kick yourself for wasting your time with that person and you wonder why you ever thought you couldn't live without them.

Good luck to you.