[scaomomki]

OK so I've been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year... this is the only serious relationship either of us have had... in a few weeks he's going to be going off to college. Now he's only going to school about an hour away, but I won't see him at all during the week and not every weekend.

We are total opposites. He likes metal rock and I like country music. He's not my usual type, he likes his hair long and baggy clothes.

Lately he's kind of been driving me nuts. He's very selfish, doesn't like to listen to the music I like or watch the shows I want to watch. He has a job, and a lot of money in his bank account, yet he never takes me out on dates. We've done almost the same thing everyday for the last year... watch TV. He won't compromise on what we watch... we always watch what he want to watch.

Today he got ticked off at me because I went to lunch with my friends instead of eating with him. Yet, it's OK for him to go to a movie alone with a girl, while I'm out of town. I was a little late on my period this month, and we got scared, so I promise myself and god not to have sex for a month. He promised me too, but has been pressuring me because he wants to do it.

I love him sooo much, but lately it only seems like we get along when we're being affectionate. I don't want to totally lose him, in case we are meant for each other, but I want to date other people to see if we're s'pose to be together. Plus, I think I will hinder his college experience.

I don't know if I should break up with him, and we remain close but date other people. Or if I should just see how it with the long distance relationship.

[p_rich91]

It does sound like he's being a bit selfish and doing what he likes without caring what you like. That doesn't sound like a healthy relationship, especially if he doesn't want you to hang out with friends, but will go places with other girls. When he's off at college he will have a lot of temptation to go out with other girls, so unless you really trust him, you may want to just break it off so that you are both free to do what you want, meet new people, and see if you two were really meant to be together. The last thing you want is for you to be living like a nun while he's at college dating other girls. So just be sure that you trust him and love him enough (and that he loves you enough) if you're going to try to make a long distance relationship work. Otherwise, I don't think it's a bad idea to take a step back and go out with other people just to see what's out there. Sometimes you don't realize what you have until you walk away from it for a bit.

[saraispiel19]

Well this guy sounds like he wαnts to hαve his cαke αnd eαt it too!

Long distαnce relαtionships αre well... not so greαt-- unless your 110% committed.. plus hun your in college right?-- both of you will experience new things αnd well long distαnce relαtionships in college.. might αs well cαll it off girlie<3

You sαid it yourself you guys αre different αnd bickering isn't exαctly α highlight-- tαlk to him αbout it αnd see whαt he sαys--see if you guys αre on the sαme pαge...

Ps if you loved him you wouldn't wαnt to see other people.. I bet it's more infαtuαtion thαn love.. sorry

Good luck to yα girlie<3

[scaomomki]

I'm not in college yet... I'm starting my last year of high school, but we are not going to go to the same college any way

[GlindaofOz]

To be brutally honest... it's probably better if you break it off now. Everyone I know who went away to school (even 1 hour) broke up with their boyfriends or girlfriends at home by the end of September.

Besides the above point college is full of new opportunities and lots and lots of people living in proximity to one another. Not to say that your boyfriend would do this, but if he is acting like this now is only going to get worse as he gets busy at college. The classes are a lot harder and there is a lot more homework and more tests. There is lots of socializing going on as well.

I think your feeling is right, you should open yourself to date others and allow him to do so as well.

Good luck!

[jerseygirl12692]

You can get a much better guy than him he is not even treating you right. If he really liked you he would listen to what you want to listen to and watch what you wanted to watch.

[jess21]

Hey,
I think he's not worth it, if your not happy now when willl you ever be? I know what your going through and it sounds like he just wants you for his own enjoyment.