[fauziah1]

My boyfriend spoke to his mom about getting married to me and she refused (she knows me) we are from pakistan and these things matter here a lot. Now he is saying that he can't take a stand for me and can't convince his mom through emotional black mail or anything because he doesn't want to hurt her. He says he can be with me but marriage seems off the table and he doesn't know what will be our future. I feel cheated on I feel that if he was always such a mamad boy he shouldn't have fallen in love , secondly something bad happened to us and I can't see him sad he is rather angry. We have been fighting for the past 20 days now. He thinks I am an evil witch who wants to kill his parents and I think he is a coward.we are long distance I wanted to go see him but he had other things so he even argued about the date. I am seeing him( hoping seeing me would bring back some Love) what I am failing to accept is how come the love just disappeared. Where did it go? I have been crying a lot. I have acted clingy sad and desperate even tried committing suicide ( I am 30 and still unluckiest in love) I want to walk out of this with dignity and grace now. How can I do that? pls help

[mmresd]

You don't, you take the hint of him not putting you as his priorities and you move on. And stop it with the suicidal things, that won't do anyone any good, you will meet someone else, keep a positive mind, if you are not happy on your own, you will not attract anyone that is also happy on their own, therefore making it possible for both of you to be happy together.

[fauziah1]

You don't, you take the hint of him not putting you as his priorities and you move on. And stop it with the suicidal things, that won't do anyone any good, you will meet someone else, keep a positive mind, if you are not happy on your own, you will not attract anyone that is also happy on their own, therefore making it possible for both of you to be happy together.

Thanks , I seriously can't think rationally. I seriously need to be told what to do? I am flying to khi to meet him. (One last time) I can't accept so many things that have happened I really want him to say all of this to my face. (Secretly hoping he d feel some love) I want him to have feelings of love towards me rather than bitterness and annoyance as I leave. What should I do? Should I go see him? Yes NO? If yes for how much time should I meet him? And what should I say to him? What should be my last words to him on the fone ? Or when meeting him?

[mmresd]

I can relate as to how thinking rationally after a break up is close to impossible, but we have to try. What you do is this: You respect his decision, you go no contact forever, you take care of your life, you learn how to be happy on your own, you continue living your life, and you allow time to heal those wounds.