[heavyheartedmd]

Ive been with my BF for 6 months now and we've been living together for 3. At first when we got together there was some passion with us, then he mentioned that he didn't want our relalshionship to be based on sex. I was OK with that, I guess I respected his wishes but I'm very sexual and started to take it like he wasn't interested in me or attracted to me. This went on at the beginning to the point where I brought it up and said maybe we would be better as friends, he said no, he loved me and it just wasn't important.
So here I am almost 7 months in and still have the constant feeling of rejection, he always turns me down, we have not had sex in over a month. He never goes down on me or kisses me with passion, I get lotsa hugs,pecks and hand holding.
Ive brought it up. and it just seems to hurt his feelings and says he'll try harder, " Maybe start wearing cute nighties" so I do, every night, still nothing. When we do have sex its all about him, he turns me over wham bam and I'm left their 2 min later just getting started and now he's done and turns his back to me.

I love to take care of my man and I work full time pay half the bills, I wake up early every morning to make his lunch and do all the cooking, but know I just resent him cause he does nothing after work but watch TV, or play his vid game and I'm still busting my . So recently I told him he's a man and I know he's capable of making his own lunch and laundry and such
Besides these problems we are good, we get along great, camp,hunt, fish do everything together, we have a great circle of friends who would never imagine that we don't have sex.
I just don't know what to do, I love him but this constant feeling of not being wanted is getting to me... Any advice PLEASE...

[CravenMorhead]

As soon as they say "I;ll try harder" you know they never will. Some people see that as a wake up call and do something. Others... do nothing. I will let you guess which he is in.

You've only put in six months. I would walk away. I don't think he will change. I think you're too mismatched when it comes to libido and intimacy. You expect a certain level and he is unwilling to give it to you. Or unable. I would walk away. Nothing is going to change.

[smoothy]

I'm guessing the charm has worn off for him and he isn't feeling what he felt at first... heck.. you've only been going out for 6 months and moved in togeter half of that...

That's nothing... it takes that long and even longer for the lust phase to wear off... and I think it has for him... and he's not really excited about what's there.

Now please don't take that as being anything that's your fault... because I'm saying its far from it... what I am meaning is the intitial physical attraction which was everything in only 6 months is giving way to the reality that the intellectual part isn't as good a match from his perspective as it is from yours.

You could have been doing everything right... and I'm willing to assume you have, it certainly sounds like you have gone the extra mile. Just that he isn't feeling there is quite the match as he did once feel.

If he isn't willing to be honest and tell you what's up.. you might have to face the reality he's not the man for you. And quite honestly, speaking as a man... I don't think you should be wasting time with someone that cares so little about what you get out of it.

[CravenMorhead]

... {you said stuff} ...

You put this more eloquently and straight forward than I did. Exactly!