[smoothy]

Thanks smoothy...everything you say does make a lot of sense..its finally time for me to move on once and for all..
i m trying to kill the deep rooted feelings for her..

The feelings will take time to go away... just focus on the important things in your life right now. Look for a better woman, and soon you will be wondering why you ever felt this way towards her to begin with.

[kasak1]

This girl is poison. You know she is, just read your post. I have enemies that treat me better then this girl treats you.

Just walk away. If she calls, don't answer. If she wants to talk, walk away. Go to no contact, ignore her and move on.

You deserve better then this girl. She's a user. She'll never change. She doesn't care about you, or anyone else. She only cares about herself and what she wants.

She's not longer your concern. Find the strength to walk away. You may be upset for a while, but once you're out from under her thumb, you'll feel so much better. Trust me on this. :)

Yes she is a poison and she poisend me as well.. I will get over her soon enough hopefully.. the post is a small list.. there are many more things which she did.. which are enough to make me hate her like anything..

I got it that she will never change.. she is just a USER and nothing all..

May God give me the strength to walk away

[talaniman]

Sometimes that's all you can do is pray for strength and do your part.

Darn females, can't live with them, can't live without them! Luckily, there are billions to choose from. Some better, but some worse. But YOU get to CHOOSE!

[kasak1]

Sometimes thats all you can do is pray for strenght and do your part.

Darn females, can't live with them, can't live without them! Luckily, there are billions to choose from. Some better, but some worse. But YOU get to CHOOSE!

At times I even don't believe myself for doing all this. How can I be so deeply involved in any girl.

I just get feared that if I ever be able to love someone that much again, to be honest I don't think so I will ever be able to love someone that deeply and this is my fear which don't just let me go away from this girl, although I know now she just want her own very self and nothing else

Its very painful to walk away but I am trying hard now..


YouTube - ‪i'll get over you with lyrics‬‏

Dedicated to her.. :)

Listening like again and again..

[kasak1]

I say take the "B" option. Nobody needs or wants a partner that's that self absorbed. And if you think its bad now....it would only get worse. Count your blessings you found out now, before it was too late.

Besides....who is to say she still wouldn't be doing it AFTER you got married. I'm willing to bet good money she would still do exactly that.

I've met women like her before. High Maintenance drama queens. Let some other sucker put up with them. There are plenty of other women that are NOT like that to pick from, and ANY of them would be a better choice to spend your life with than her..find one that wants you...and not your stuff.

I got it now.. you are right.. she will do the same even if I manage to marry her somehow.. she will never change.. today I find out she is talking to a new guy.. lol..

That's the cruel game she play and we all guys are the same being played..

[smoothy]

at times i even dont believe myself for doing all this. how can i be so deeply involved in any girl.

i just get feared that if i ever be able to love someone that much again, to be honest i dont think so i will ever be able to love someone that deeply and this is my fear which dont just let me go away from this girl, although i know now she just want her own very self and nothing else

its very painful to walk away but i am trying hard now..


YouTube - ‪i'll get over you with lyrics‬‏

dedicated to her..:)

listening like again and again..

We call that "Attending the School of Hard Knocks".

Its lessons learned the hard way through personal experience. And usually a few bad mistakes, usually painful ones.

If you had never met someone like that before. Would you believe others if they tried to warn you? If you are like most younger guys, the answer would have been no. Trust me... I was one of them in my youth as well. It took going out with a few of the wrong types before I learned how to spot the good ones decades ago.

It takes a few bad experiences to teach you lessons. AND it also takes a few bad experiences for you to really be able to appreciate a good woman when you finally meet the one that's right for you. Like guys... there are good ones and bad ones. You have to look past what's on the outside to see what's inside. Beauty fades... but a good person will likely always be a good person. I'd rather have an average looking wife with a good heart, than a beauty queen who is a bitter and ugly person inside.

[kasak1]

As always I am losing it.. she is sitting next to my office cabin.. I am finding it very very hard to control me not to talk to her..
But I am trying... trying desperateely to not even look at her..
I know even if I talk to her the only thing she will do is insult me or won't reply to me..
Why do God create love for those in our heart who don't deserve and understand the meaning of it... :(

[kasak1]

AHhhhh... cudnot hold myself... exchanged couple of texts with her.. telling her that you picked the guy who attempt rape on you and the price you paid is our relation.. now ask yourself if he was worth it.. :(:(:(.. how do I go on NO CONTACT zone...

I think I should better leave this job.. this is continuous torture for me.. its hard.. its damn hard..

[talaniman]

That's what happens when you break No Contact, especially for some BS reason, you torture yourself some more.

Start NC again, but do it better this time.

[smoothy]

Agreed. Go NO CONTACT and stick with it. Its only hardest at first, then it does get easier the longer you do it.

That means it will be easier to maintain NO CONTACT next week than it will be this week. And it will be even easier the week after that.

But don't talk to her, don't text her, don't email her, don't call her, and certainly don't instigate anything with her. You don't need or want any of her relatives or friends avenging anything you might say or do. Pakistan isn't the only place that happens.

The best thing you can do is turn your back and pretend she is someone you don't know... and don't want to know.

This is the reason I always say to never even try to date anyone at work. Something always goes bad... and you have this and even worse to deal with unless someone quits. Don't leave the job... you never really had a relationship with her, it will be easy to put this in the past if you can maintain no contact and resist any urges to break it.

[kasak1]

I went nuts this evening.. dont know what is the force pushing me.. I chased her all the way to her university.. and she knew it.. I was right behind her car.. I was afraid if the same guy will hurt her anymore...

than when she went to university (I have very good relation with her sister, brother and mother) I picked her mother from home and droped her to university so she can come along at night with her mother and that guy won't do anything..

I know I am no one to that girl so I am not suppose to care for anything... she did not even response my phone calls while driving.. and she was continuously talking to someone else..

I know I know I am being a fool here... infact a big one... I agree.. I even curse myself for doing all of it.. she don't respect me.. she don't love me.. I have no value for her.. infact no one have any value for her except MONEY...

I am really going crazy for this girl as always.. she is like a breath machine for me..

shall I try some anti depressants?. the urge comes with so much extreme that I couldn't resist to call her or text her only to get insulted as she even don't bother to reply

yes I am a poor sick love fool.. its not even like this I am very ugly or unsuccessful man in life.. I have everything which one need to have a very good healthy life.. I am 6 '3 ft tall handsomb guy.. there are girls(even prettier) who like to around me for any reason..

I am just badly stuck here... :(:(:(

I am sorry people for bothering you.. but I seriously feel very very helpless..

[kasak1]

I use to have lot of attitude..

Don't know where it all get lost that I don't feel anything as long as it's the matter of this girl..

I have had relations in past as well.. infact a broken engagement as well... but I never went through this scenerio.. it was easy to get over.. it was easy to move on.. than why not now?

Why should I bother if she dates any guy or talk to any guy.. I should even do the same.. but I feel no interest in any other girl than her...

:(:(:(:(:(

[talaniman]

You are out of control friend. Get help before you end up in jail, and have a fat hairy guy as a boyfriend.

[smoothy]

You are out of control friend. Get help before you end up in jail, and have a fat hairy guy as a boyfriend.

Seriously... following her like that could be presented in a court here as stalking. And even then... her family and friends might see it as something sinister. And it could become very dangerous for you. People might take it upon themselves to right a perceived wrong.

If you need to seek counseling... please do it before you provoke something into happening that you will regret.

But if you continue like this... you are going to find yourself in a lot of trouble.

And you don't want to be with anyone that will bring this bad behavior out of you anyway. The right partner brings out the best in you, not the worst.

Its not uncommon to kill someone over a perceived violation of honor in your part of the world. You don't want to find yourself on the receiving end of that.

It does NEITHER of you any good.

[kasak1]

Well her mother always appriciate my love for her so as her sister and brother.. her family is not my concern here.. or even police.. its not an issue or problem... (even today when I told her that I follow her she was happy enough that at least I am protecting her from some unseen accident)..

The problem is myself and controlling myself from going to her.. if I can control this than all the problems will be solved..

[smoothy]

Keep in mind... her mother and her family can change from liking you, to hating you in an instant.

And that's why we told you to COMPLETELY avoid her.

You have to make you own choice here... you can keep this up and be very unhappy at best... or fearing for your life at worst. The worst can happen very quickly. They might think its cute right now... they will tire of it very quickly and see it as a threat.

OR you can start by having and following NO CONTACT.

That includes NOT following her, that includes NOT talking with her family too. They aren't your next door neighbor after all.

[kasak1]

Thanks smooty... I will try to go FIRM on NO CONTACT NOW and will see how it works...
I promsie to myself that I will try very very hard now and won't reply to any of her call or text if she ever does.. and won't do it from myself as well

[kasak1]

Lol.. no I isn't become gay yet-:P...

[smoothy]

It only hurts the worst at first... it does get easier the longer you maintain no contact.

Surely you can get through the first couple weeks on willpower. Those are the hardest and it only gets easier after that.

[kasak1]

It does hurt a lot and I mean it a lot already.. its just that I have to take it now.. there is no other possible way..

I guess I will over it.. its may be just that I spent too much time with her.. like 14 hours dairly for last 6, 7 months.. that quite a lot of time.. I am addicted to her..