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KSTEW1954 · Feb 3, 2011, 08:35 PM

I actually met him when he was at my brother in laws house. I did not know then that my wife's sister had a sexual encounter with him. My wife stated to her sister during a phone argument that there is a lot of things that she could tell her husband that her husband would not like. My wife told me that this guy had sex with her sister. My wife then made me realize that she went out with him too! I was angry when i realized that my wife went out with him after her sister had sex with him too. When i said that's nice your sister told you she had sex with him and then you went out with him she then laughed like i have never seen her berfor or since she never told me what was so funny. What is this all about. Sy theway my wife also said that men she dated wanted her to have threesome sex. I wonder if her sister and her had him at the same time?

Fr_Chuck · Feb 3, 2011, 08:45 PM

First stop using all capitals, that is the same as shouting and many of our experts will not read posts written that way.

Next who cares who she had sex with before she meet you or before she meet you. So she may have done a threesome, and regreted it.

Next two sisters dating the same guy is not all that uncommon, I dated two sisters before when I was younger.

ITstudent2006 · Feb 3, 2011, 08:50 PM

I hate ALL CAPS!!

Why are you worrying about your wife's past? So what if she dated a guy who had a sexual relationship with your sister-in-law. You're thinking yourself into a biga$$ hole. If it isn't directly affecting any portion of your relationship besides your insecurities then leave it alone!

P.S. My brother-in-law is currently dating his brothers ex-fiance! (Christmas is a little weird now!)

Enigma1999 · Feb 3, 2011, 08:59 PM

Her past is her past. It hers.

Get over it.

Does she question or judge yours?

martinizing2 · Feb 3, 2011, 10:16 PM

Have you told her everything about your past? Would you if she asked?

That's a road to big problems that you can't do anything about.
Leave the past in the past

Cat1864 · Feb 4, 2011, 06:20 AM

#1: Never allow yourself to be pulled into a fight/argument/disagreement between sisters (or any siblings). You will either find out things you shouldn't know or didn't want to know.

#2: What your mate did before you met him/her is his/her story to share if he/she chooses to share it. You can ask but he/she doesn't have to tell.

#3: Don't speculate, assume or jump to conclusions. Ask politely and with and open mind. If you can't be open to listening and not getting upset or angry, don't ask and let the matter go. Don't bother asking questions if you already have your mind set on what the 'correct' answer is. If you aren't listening, then nothing the other person says will make a bit of difference.

How long ago did this 'conversation' take place? How long have you been mulling this over in your mind instead of asking her or talking to her about it? She is the only who can answer your question. If you ask her sister, I don't know about your wife, but it would be grounds for finding some place else to sleep in my house.

If this is about wanting to find out if your wife is open to thinking about a threesome with you, then talk to her about your fantasies. If not, then drop the thought and the subject.

JudyKayTee · Feb 4, 2011, 02:08 PM

She's your wife. If you have any questions, ask her.

I know people who have dated siblings. No big deal. I see no indication that your wife and her sister had sex with this guy. Even if she did unless she was in a committed relationship with you, what's the difference?

If I had a nickel for every man who suggested a three way I'd have a whole bunch of nickels. I don't know why the suggestion would upset you. Again, is she a faithful wife? If so - drop it.

If not - you have a whole set of problems.

Synnen · Feb 4, 2011, 02:21 PM

I know a guy who dated a woman after his brother did.

He's been happily married to me for 10 years.

demba2000 · Feb 6, 2011, 12:41 AM

I really have feeling these people had a threesome and may be your wife was so much appreciated buy this guy so the sister is un happy or you wife is now seeing this guy secretly and the sister has discovered it

JudyKayTee · Feb 6, 2011, 06:05 AM

Originally Posted by demba2000

i really have feeling these people had a threesome and may be your wife was so much appreciated buy this guy so the sister is un happy or you wife is now seeing this guy secretly and the sister has discovered it

WHAT? Where does THAT feeling come from?

This person is already worried.

ITstudent2006 · Feb 6, 2011, 08:59 AM

Originally Posted by demba2000

i really have feeling these people had a threesome and may be your wife was so much appreciated buy this guy so the sister is un happy or you wife is now seeing this guy secretly and the sister has discovered it

I want to give you a reddie so bad!

Enigma1999 · Feb 6, 2011, 09:23 AM

Demba,

That's just wrong! So wrong!

Let me ask you something, do you actually believe what you just wrote?

JudyKayTee · Feb 6, 2011, 06:25 PM

Originally Posted by Enigma1999

Demba,

That's just wrong! So wrong!

Let me ask you something, do you actually believe what you just wrote??

Based on the "yo yo" advice here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ml#post2698267) I suspect that Demba is very young.

And that's my feeling, based only on my feelings. Yada, yada.

Enigma1999 · Feb 6, 2011, 07:10 PM

Originally Posted by JudyKayTee

Based on the "yo yo" advice here (https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/adult-...ml#post2698267) I suspect that Demba is very young.

And that's my feeling, based only on my feelings. Yada, yada.

I figured that Demba was a young one. Anyone who calls it a "yo yo" has to be a teenager. :D

JudyKayTee · Feb 7, 2011, 08:08 AM

Out of greenies -

Or imaginative. I'm pondering the "yo yo" phrase.

Synnen · Feb 7, 2011, 09:18 AM

Can we go back to helping the OP, please?