[aleahmc]

My boyfriend got upset because I wasn't in the mood to sleep with him. He dragged me off the bed by my feet, then slammed me onto ground. Then he picked me up threw me against the wall a few times and then onto the ground only this time on my face. Then he threw me onto the couch and choked me so hard I could not even gasp for air, I thought I was going to die. He did the same thing shortly after but this time by putting my stomach between his legs and closing them until both of his legs touched, this had the same effect I couldn't breath speak or gasp for air, and again I thought I was going to die. I should mention that he is 6'3 about 180lbs and I am 5'1 and 100lbs. I didn't stay there of course I called someone to help me pack my things and I left that night. My back is in a lot of pain and my entire body is sore. I'm afraid to tell the police because it didn't leave any external marks on me just small bruises, all of my pain is internal. However in a desperate attempt to get him to stop hurting me I bit him in the chest as hard as I could. (This did not phase him one bit, and while he was choking me I saw pure evil in his eyes, I felt like he was trying to kill me.) So I believe that since there's no evidence on my body but there is on his the police will take me to jail and charge me with assault. I am in a lot of pain and feel I should see a chiropractor but I don't have insurance. If anyone has any advice or helpful information for me, or if anyone knows any good support groups I could really use it. Thank you all so much.

[Enigma1999]

My boyfriend got upset because i wasn't in the mood to sleep with him. He dragged me off the bed by my feet, then slammed me onto ground. Then he picked me up threw me against the wall a few times and then onto the ground only this time on my face. Then he threw me onto the couch and choked me so hard i could not even gasp for air, i thought i was going to die. He did the same thing shortly after but this time by putting my stomach between his legs and closing them until both of his legs touched, this had the same effect i couldn't breath speak or gasp for air, and again i thought i was going to die. I should mention that he is 6'3 about 180lbs and i am 5'1 and 100lbs. I didn't stay there of course i called someone to help me pack my things and i left that night. My back is in a lot of pain and my entire body is sore. I'm afraid to tell the police because it didn't leave any external marks on me just small bruises, all of my pain is internal. However in a desperate attempt to get him to stop hurting me i bit him in the chest as hard as i could. (This did not phase him one bit, and while he was choking me i saw pure evil in his eyes, i felt like he was trying to kill me.) So i believe that since theres no evidence on my body but there is on his the police will take me to jail and charge me with assault. I am in a lot of pain and feel i should see a chiropractor but i don't have insurance. If anyone has any advice or helpful information for me, or if anyone knows any good support groups i could really use it. Thank you all so much.

You need to go to the police!! NOW!

Tell them exactly what you told us. Tell the police that you bit him out of self defense.

Please, never go back to that guy. You are lucky he didn't kill you or seriously injure you. Then again, I don't know the extent of the damage.

Go to a Doctor and have your body checked out.

Not that this matters, but has he done anything like this before to you or and other woman that you know of?

My blood is boiling right now.:mad:

[aleahmc]

He has bit my neck hard enough to cause severe bruising and has held me down by my arms while stradiling (sorry I can't spell that word) me, which left deep bruising on my arms and that was before he quit drinking. Then after several months of him being sober and not harming me, this happens. So I guess it's just his nature or maybe a thrill for him.

[jmjoseph]

Do you have anyone to help you ? I mean someone who can protect you until you contact the police? You have to go to the authorities about this. It doesn't matter about marks. Go now. This guy lost his temper and assaulted you. Get help, and report this.

Tell your father, brother, friends, anyone, EVERYONE.

He's probably done it before. End it now.

May God grant you strength and keep you safe.

[Enigma1999]

He has bit my neck hard enough to cause severe bruising and has held me down by my arms while stradiling (sorry i can't spell that word) me, which left deep bruising on my arms and that was before he quit drinking. Then after several months of him being sober and not harming me, this happens. So i guess it's just his nature or maybe a thrill for him.

Nature or thrill? Try sick and discusting!

A man should never put his hands on a woman like that. Period. I really hope and strongly suggest that you go to the police. File a report.

Then leave his a$$! This is very serious. Choking you, throwing you up against walls, pinning you down, dragging you,. this is serious. The next time, he may kill you. Even if isn't trying to, he may do it on accident. A big guy like that and a little thing like you.

I had a girl friend that her boyfriend would do those kinds of things to. I kept telling her to go to the police, she fought me on that. Until one day, he took it to far. She's dead now. He suffocated her! I was/still am very upset that I, as a friend didn't step in sooner by telling the police.

I'm not trying to scare you, I'm just trying to scare you. Get my point.

Tell the police! He needs professional help!

[1800proof]

Yes, call the cops and have a police report filed. Neither person in a relationship should physically hurt the other. A bite mark to the chest does show that you could have been in a position to defend yourself. I say 'could have' because there are always two sides to a story, and each will be taken into consideration.

Like everyone else says, leave him, and don't go back. Don't give him a chance to escalate to the point that Enigma's friend reached. Get a restraining order, and include all the details that you posted here. If you must retrieve any belongings, have someone else retrieve them for you, or ask that he leave them outside and you pick them up when he is not present -- and don't be alone!

Good luck to you.

[Enigma1999]

Aleahmc,

I thought about you last night... I really hope that you come back and respond. I also really hope that you went to the police to file a report against this guy.

We, on here will try to do our very best to help guide you through this. Even if you need to ask a question in our law forum about the proper steps (if you are unsure) to go to the police and how it works. We have great law experts that can help guide you.

We are here to help. You're situation scares me, as I think of my friend.

God bless.

[Kdavis213]

Well my mom was in a similar position only a lot more intense. Her boyfriend would force her to have sex with him and she had no proof other than small marks and she had left bigger marks on him. So before she went to the police she had a friend of hers enhance the bruising by hitting her in the place where the marks are. It help and he was charged. It might not have been the best idea but she was safe after

My suggestion as I said may not be the best I disagreed with how my mom handled it. I think that you should go to the police regardless I'm sure if your pain is that bad that something may be wrong and that will be enough to show what happened it doesn't have to be external. Goodluck to you I hope all is well. God bless you girl(: