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    lamp_post Posts: 73, Reputation: 15
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    #21

    Sep 15, 2010, 01:33 AM

    Dear flow87, I am in this position now where my ex told me we have been together too long and now that we have known each other too long! Can't you believe on this sh*t? We're supposed to be long enough thereafter eternally married and till old... I humiliated myself by begging and crying but then I found out she got a new guy instead I know is over and I am upset. BUT love is still love where memories and feelings for that can't be erased just like that. They just take things for granted on us.

    So, be strong and say yes NC does to heal yourself and don't ever give up on that. Love is never easy. Good luck =p YOU DESERVE BETTER!
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    Sep 17, 2010, 02:49 AM
    Its been a week NC...
    My ex broke up with me a few weeks ago and I decided to go NC a week ago... and I swear it's been one of the hardest weeks of my life.
    I miss him so much, I really want to talk to him, I just want him to contact me and tell me how much he misses me (but I know he won't do that seeing as he broke up with me because he was apparently bored).
    He goes back to uni next week and I'm so scared he's going to meet someone else and fall more in love with her than he did with me, and completely forget about me.
    Love sucks, this whole experience has just made me never want to meet a guy again, because I'll be so scared to end up hurt again like I am now.
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    Sep 17, 2010, 05:32 AM

    Hi flow, your threads were merged as are all threads that are about the same thing, so no need to start a new one.

    As others have been saying leaving the ex alone is what allows you to heal, but you can't just sit and hope and dwell on him, or what he is doing. What does that do for you except keep the misery alive. Be proactive in rebuilding a life that you enjoy, that makes you happy and keeps you busy as you fill the hole in your soul with people and activities that make you happy.

    Sure NC is probably the hardest thing we do for ourselves, but its also the best thing to do, and no reason why it can't be fun, and enjoyable.
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    Sep 17, 2010, 05:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Sure NC is probably the hardest thing we do for ourselves, but its also the best thing to do, and no reason why it can't be fun, and enjoyable.
    If it can be fun and enjoyable then non of us will be here lol. But I think it's an attitude that we all need to have.
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    JoeCanada76 Posts: 6,669, Reputation: 1707
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    #25

    Sep 17, 2010, 08:45 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Hi flow, your threads were merged as are all threads that are about the same thing, so no need to start a new one.

    As others have been saying leaving the ex alone is what allows you to heal, but you can't just sit and hope and dwell on him, or what he is doing. What does that do for you except keep the misery alive. Be proactive in rebuilding a life that you enjoy, that makes you happy and keeps you busy as you fill the hole in your soul with people and activities that make you happy.

    Sure NC is probably the hardest thing we do for ourselves, but its also the best thing to do, and no reason why it can't be fun, and enjoyable.
    I guess I could have made things clearer when merging the three different threads about the same subject. There just does not need to be so many threads about the same subject. My fault for not making that clear.

    My advice remains the same...

    You do not make him see anything. It is over.

    It is done, please re read all the answers that you have received and also check out the stickies.

    It is time to walk away completely.
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    Sep 17, 2010, 08:49 AM

    Leaving is easy and so is walking away when you KNOW it's the best thing to do.

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