[bloo22]

We have been going out for about 7 months and everything seemed to be fine. Then she went on vacation to Florida for about a week and a half. A week in, I got upset because she didn't seem to be intersted in using the very little time she had free to call or text me. That same day, I was grounded, which cut off all communication from her. She thought I was ignoring her the next day when she texted. It was a few days, and I texted her back. This was the day she got back. She said hello can I call you?
And I said sure.
We talked for a few minutes about little things like how she was and what did she do, when she randomly said she didn't want to be in a relationship anymore.
She reallized over the couple days we didn't talk (cause my phone got taken away) that she liked being free. As in not having to have to text someone goodnight, and try to work someone into their schedule. She said that bing in a relatonship was too stressful because of planning rides, texting, having to carry the phone around, etc.
And she just wanted to have fun.
She then said it was permanent, once I asked.
I wanted to know why, since it was only the fact that summer, and vacations, and all this junk was what was making it stressful.
She just said that she had thought it over several times before,
and it was going to be permanent.
After that, she said she still loved me a lot,
and wanted to stay in contact, and be friends, because she loved me too much for me to just drop out of her life randomly.
So I want to know if when school starts,
or whenever,
is there a chance that she will want to get back with me,
because its not a stressful during school?
I still love her a lot and we have so many memories that I don't want to give up.
Will she change her mind?
Does she have a reason to or not to?

[Kitkat22]

How old are you? You said you were grounded which leads me to believe you are still kind of young.

[BananaPie]

So i want to know if when school starts,
or whenever,
is there a chance that she will want to get back with me,
because its not a stressful during school?
I still love her alot and we have so many memories that i dont want to give up.
Will she change her mind?
Does she have a reason to or not to?

Only she will know if she wants to get back with you, or if she will change her mind. Any reasons will be her own. They might not make sense to you, but they do to her.

Also, it could be that she just told you those things about loving you and remaining friends simply because she doesn't want to hurt you any more than she is - to let you down easy, as they say. Not saying that's the case, but it's possible, so consider that.

Best you can do is wait until school starts if you like, without blowing her phone up or being that 'crazy' guy, you know? Just chill, wait till school or see if she contacts you, and just be friendly with her. If she wants you back, she will let you know as long as you make it known that you're open to that.

[Enigma1999]

Hello bloo,

How old are you, please?

[martinizing2]

Bloo, you may be hurting right now, but it will pass.

You are young and should be enjoying your summer freedom instead of worrying about a relationship. You will get all of that you will ever want all too soon.

Keep those good memories and continue to be yourself which I see is an intelligent and mature (for your age )caring young man.

Stay like that and you'll have girls chasing you home trying to hook up with you.

Do well in school and enjoy this time in life.

[Kitkat22]

bloo, you may be hurting right now, but it will pass.

You are young and should be enjoying your summer freedom instead of worrying about a relationship. You will get all of that you will ever want all too soon.

Keep those good memories and continue to be yourself which I see is an intelligent and mature (for your age )caring young man.

Stay like that and you'll have girls chasing you home trying to hook up with you.

Do well in school and enjoy this time in life.

MartyZ... you are very good with advice.:)


So are you enigma...

[Enigma1999]

So are you enigma....

Awe... Thanks! The best compliment I've had all day!;)

[martinizing2]

MartyZ...you are very good with advice.:)

Thank you.;) I really like kids. And I do try to help:o

[Kitkat22]

Thank you.;) I really like kids. And I do try to help:o

I think op you need to tell us how old you are. OK:)

[kp2171]

Not saying age doesn't matter... experience and age does make a difference.

That said... my experience is that no matter your age or experience, it is completely possible to care for, even love, some one when its really bad timing.

She isn't ready to settle down on one relationship. That doesn't make you wrong or her wrong.

Be thankful that she is at least up front with this. I know... sounds absurd to hear that. Believe me... I am grateful when a lover knows herself well enough to say "this isnt what i need right now"... may not be easy to hear or accept... but I can absolutely respect that.

So... now you step back hard. Don't be her girlfriend. Don't be her butler. If she isn't willing to chase you... well... then it was only about her.

[Kitkat22]

not saying age doesnt matter... experience and age does make a difference.

that said... my experience is that no matter your age or experience, it is completely possible to care for, even love, some one when its really bad timing.

she isnt ready to settle down on one relationship. that doesnt make you wrong or her wrong.

be thankful that she is at least up front with this. i know... sounds absurd to hear that. believe me... i am grateful when a lover knows herself well enough to say "this isnt what i need right now"... may not be easy to hear or accept... but i can absolutely respect that.

so.... now you step back hard. dont be her girlfriend. dont be her butler. if she isnt willing to chase you... well... then it was only about her.

If their still in middle school kp , they don't know what love is.

[kp2171]

A middle school kid knows his or her version of love.

If love is something a child cannot comprehend, then should I not tell my 6 year old that I love him?

Yes... of course... I like perspective. Info is good.

So... what about the rest of what I wrote that had nothing to do with identifying the OP'ers age?

Or is this just going to be about age?

I'm all for knowing more than less. I also don't dismiss addressing this issue without more info.

[Kitkat22]

;]

Don't get snippy:rolleyes:... I know you didn't. When is the right age for children to know? I think 15 is the right time to let kids bring their dates home with supervision.

[kp2171]

I was a very conservative, reserved kid.

4th grade... 10 years old... is when kids started kissing and sneaking and really exploring.

So... ill be "snippy" all I want.

This isn't adult sex.

And I've already said I prefer to know ages for perspective.

But I stand by what I said. It is my opinion. That simple.

[Kitkat22]

i was a very conservative, reserved kid.

4th grade... 10 years old... is when kids started kissing and sneaking and really exploring.

so... ill be "snippy" all i want.

this isnt adult sex.

and ive already said i prefer to know ages for perspective.

but i stand by what i said. it is my opinion. that simple.

Okay... Didn't mean to sound hateful. Sorry