Originally Posted by
jayjayess
I really enjoy sex. My boyfriend and I used to do it at least 5 times a week. Now its once every week/week and a half. Its really frustrating.
Hi jayjayess, I think you are a real sweetheart to have such desire for sex with your boyfriend and you should be proud of yourself. Many men out there (including me) are dying to have a woman like you so there is nothing wrong with you. You are being honest and in touch with your sexuality. In today's society, sadly, not many women are that confident about their sexuality. Many GOOD men out there respect and love women who are like this.
Well, this is my advice and is coming from a man FYI.
My understanding from what I read from your description. It looks like your man (or in correct terms "boy") is taking you for granted and instead of focusing "YOU", he focuses on his Video game. That spells out some red flag that he needs growing up to do.
I won't say he should have any medical problem because if that was true, then why would you both had hot sex 5 times a week? And why not now?
Your man is taking you for granted. Psychologically, it is because, sex for him is like getting something out from a vending machine with very little effort. NOTE THIS! It is not your FAULT. He is taking you for granted and he doesn't realize it because he is so damn hooked to his video games. And I can tell you, games can be very addictive, it is like a drug.
Here are my suggestion. If you truly have deep feelings for your partner, here are the things you MUST NOT DO.
Criticize his video game.
Complain about the lack of sex you getting from him.
Why? This is because healthy men, knows exactly how their sex drives works. If you question him or comment about the lack of sex you are not getting from him, it will only give him chance to say that you are being very needy or demanding. Healthy men ALWAYS want sex. Loving men ALWAYS enjoy sex with the same woman.
Do not criticize his video game or control him, he has got to know it himself, he has to learn and grow up, that there is another wonderful female human being out there that wants an intimate relationship with him. If that damn video game is so much more wonderful to him than you, then let him have sex with the video game. Would the video game fulfill him in 10 years time?
Now that this thing is affecting your norm sanity, here is
What you NEED to do(regardless whether male or female):
1. Don't do anything for now, you have no control on others!
2. Calm down and Relax. Signs of uncomfort does not create attraction.
3. Improve yourself. This is because yourself esteem has been slightly chip off. (Get in shape)
4. Go out and work out, make your body more attractive. Just don't over do it.
This should get on his toes and wake up to see there is something else he is missing. You see, human being always want something they can't have.
If he confronts you why you both aren't so much into sex anymore, that is a good sign. Tell him how you feel, and make sure, MAKE SURE... you do it in a positive way. Remember, he has to at least put some effort to get sex from you as well. Foreplay IS, one and FOREMOST dearly important. When you let him put some effort, he will feel good about himself too. Don't over do it though. Hope that helps.
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