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Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 04:32 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Your a perfect case for why we merge posts to get all the facts in one place

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For the record, the military is the place for you to get away from the drama, and BS, that is your life and let you get a chance at some Good Orderly Direction.

I highly recommend it! ASAP!!!

Wow what drama!

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:14 PM

Ok, when I told him what me and his brother did. He was unforgiving and I understood. But he would not leave me alone right after he told me not to talk to him. So that is why we still are in a current relationship. I wanted out when I did that big mistake, but love is forever and we both know it. We are both of our first loves... although, we may not have the same interests and we may need counseling... I just want to work with what I have. We still are close mentally. If he is not willing to let go and I am not then what is there to do? (That is the question) You guys harp on me to break it off and believe this is for my best interest, but is it really? I mean you don't know us and you've concluded the relationship is a dud. Presidents and upper-upper class people have had these issues to. And they still made it. The relationship will work if someone blesses it..

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:26 PM

I think you're going to do what you want to do. But what you joining the military and going off to college? Time will tell so I am not going to keep giving you advice. I will say this when you are far apart I think there will be someone new for both of you.

My advice wasn't meant to hurt you. I just want you to see what is ahead for you. It's hard enough to be in a relationship and make it work and you have a few cards stacked against you. Good Luck and God Bless you and lead you in the right direction. Blessings:)

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:32 PM

Originally Posted by Kitkat22

My advice wasn't meant to hurt you. I just want you to see what is ahead for you. It's hard enough to be in a relationship and make it work and you have a few cards stacked against you. Good Luck and God Bless you and lead you in the right direction. Blessings:)

I know there are many people out there for me. I just want this guy lol. If it is meant to be it is meant to be. I just want my boo back to where things will be good. I plan to join the military for my own benefit and it is a family thing. I follow in my mom's dad's foot steps. He was a doctor and I want to be a doctor. He was in the military and so should I be. But my boyfriend does not want me to go because he would not see me for a semester. That is another issue.

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:39 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

I know there are many people out there for me. I just want this guy lol. If it is meant to be it is meant to be. I just want my boo back to where things will be good. I plan to join the military for my own benefit and it is a family thing. I follow in my mom's dad's foot steps. He was a doctor and I wanna be a doctor. He was in the military and so should I be. But my bf does not want me to go because he would not see me for a semester. That is another issue.

Please follow your Dad's path and I wish you the best. I truly mean that.

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 09:53 PM

I love what my grandpa did for me. And I want to be just like him. I always wanted to be a doctor since I was in 2nd grade.

talaniman · Mar 11, 2010, 09:59 PM

I am so use to people who don't like the advice given, because it doesn't solve their immediate problems. I understand that, but its important you make better decisions about your future, and take responsibility for your own actions. If all you can see is him, you will lose your options, and opportunities, to be better and happy.

I was young once and families can't live off love alone, trust me on that or ask any one in your family.

Its ultimately your choice what to do, but given the facts, this relationship has yet to produce any positive results, or directions to a positive possible result.

I would be interested in what the older adults in your family think about this and if they had given their blessings, I DOUBT IF YOU WOULD BE ASKING US FOR OURS.

Your decision, and I wish you much luck, I mean that.

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:03 PM

I know it is my choice. I do take in all the advice, but the story is still one sided. I mean he lies too. We all aren't perfect like someone said. I won't every marry a guy that my parents don't approve of. But we have 3 years to make that choice. He said he will propose after college.

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:05 PM

Originally Posted by talaniman

I am so use to people who don't like the advice given, because it doesn't solve their immediate problems. I understand that, but its important you make better decisions about your future, and take responsibility for your own actions. If all you can see is him, you will lose your options, and opportunities, to be better and happy.

I was young once and families can't live off love alone, trust me on that or ask any one in your family.

Its ultimately your choice what to do, but given the facts, this relationship has yet to produce any positive results, or directions to a positive possible result.

I would be interested in what the older adults in your family think about this and if they had given their blessings, i DOUBT IF YOU WOULD BE ASKING US FOR OURS.

Your decision, and I wish you much luck, I mean that.

I don't what else I can say. I don't see anything but more hurt
And fighting and his family will never forgive you. But you are going to do what you want to do. The military is your best bet. Good luck

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:12 PM

I just think you see the military as a good way to get out and run away from things. Like you think it is a good punishment for me? I came up with the choice all alone.

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:17 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

I just think you see the military as a good way to get out and run away from things. Like you think it is a good punishment for me? I came up with the choice all alone.

Not at all. I think if you let anyone talk you out of you will wake up someday and say ; what in the world have I done? What would your grandfather tell you? We'll talk tomorrow... goodnight!:)

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:21 PM

What do you mean what in the world have I done? I hope no regrets. I don't know what he would tell me. He died a while back. He was kind of like me and we are the same almost. He is a very strong willed man and actually did what he wanted lol. He was almost done with premed, but dropped out to join the military and he was the doctor on force (finished schooling with them). I looked up to him.

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:51 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

What do you mean what in the world have I done? I hope no regrets. I don't know what he would tell me. He died a while back. He was kinda like me and we are the same almost. He is a very strong willed man and actually did what he wanted lol. He was almost done with premed, but dropped out to join the military and he was the doctor on force (finished schooling with them). I looked up to him.

I was asking if your boyfriend talks you out of going into the military to fulfill your dreams and you don't go! Is there a chance that will happen? I was asking if you don't go are you going to regret it?

lea_09 · Mar 11, 2010, 10:55 PM

He probably won't convince me. I will talk to him more about it next week when I see him. I am going Saturaday with my dad to talk to a recruit about it. I have to take an aptitude test too. So you can't be an idiot lol

Kitkat22 · Mar 11, 2010, 11:00 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

He probably won't convince me. I will talk to him more about it next week when I see him. I am going Saturaday with my dad to talk to a recruit about it. I have to take an aptitude test too. So you can't be an idiot lol

I'm sure you're not an idiot! Hold on to that dream and I believe you'll be a great doctor. Goodnigh. Good luck on Saturday.:):)

lea_09 · Mar 12, 2010, 12:22 PM

Thanks. I am not planning to do family practice but pathology. So I hope I do well in school.

Kitkat22 · Mar 12, 2010, 12:35 PM

Originally Posted by lea_09

Thanks. I am not planning to do family practice but pathology. So I hope I do well in school.

Good luck and I thiink you will do well:):)

lea_09 · Mar 12, 2010, 01:03 PM

My boyfriend's birthday is past and I don't know what to get him for his birthday. He is worst than me when it comes to presents. He just expects it and tells me what he wants before I can figure out how to come up with the money. Last year for Christmas he made me spend 400 dollars on just clothes on him. I did not have any money for myself to pay for my spring semester of school books and even to save up for my spring break trip (so I am staying home). And for his birthday he wants like 6 polos from Ralph Lauren. And he like adds the cost of the item up to make sure it is what I am suppose to spend on him. I think that is stupid. And his parents give him money all the time and he complains that I cost a lot. Like that is not his money. He has his OWN money. All he has spent on me is just food and maybe a few dates in the past 4 months. So I am wondering if he is just concerned about the value of the object or what? I was just planning to spend 100 for his birthday.

spitvenom · Mar 12, 2010, 01:16 PM

I really wish parents would stop giving their kids money it does nothing but create spoiled brats who think they deserve everything. Is this the same guy who cheated on you in a previous post? Cause if it is The only thing you should give him for his Birthday is the finger and tell him to find someone else to meet his gift quota.

CarrotTalker · Mar 12, 2010, 01:31 PM

That sounds like an awful lot to be spending on gifts.