[Ithappenstoall]

What are the religions ?

[brokenheartls]

what are the religions ?

My ex is Muslim... the girl I'm seeing now is a christian.. I am a christian

[brokenheartls]

I got to new question... I'm shy.. my new g.f is shy..
And its really weird when we say goodbye...
Its like a normal handshake...

How can I change that... my g.f said it was weird.. like..
How can I change this..
For example.. change the handshake to a hug or a kiss

[A4Effort]

Not to be rude but I just read through most of your thread and I can see that this will not end too well. If you are choosing not to stay single then so it be but please keep this new girl in mind. I can see a rebound written all over this.

How do I know this, you ask yourself. Well if you look at my thread (almost 70 pages long) you can see that I screwed up big time and didn't listen to what these wonderful people had to tell me. Granted you were with her for only 4 months but it was enough time to have an impact on you.

I would recommend you take time to yourself and just work on being single. Take some time before you begin another relationship. Have fun, enjoy time with your friends, etc...

But maybe there is someone else on here with more credibility who can tell you similar things. Good luck!

Oh and to answer your question. Hugs!!

[jaime90]

How do you change a handshake into a hug or a kiss.. Are you SERIOUS? You are reading way too far into these situations. You change it by changing it! Is there any other option? It DOES NOT take a scientific formula to date a girl.

I'm sorry, but either a.you're stressing out trying to put this girl into the typical "dating" stereotype and putting pressure on yourself to do things the "right way", or b. you're ignorant. I don't want to come across as mean, but it seems like you're a little stressed and pressured, or you just don't know how to be normal and natural around girls.

Also, again with the "making" how to "make her more comfortable" let he do it on her own terms. If you're being yourself, and you're being genuine, it's all you can do.

[brokenheartls]

How do you change a handshake into a hug or a kiss....? Are you SERIOUS? You are reading way too far into these situations. You change it by changing it! Is there any other option? It DOES NOT take a scientific formula to date a girl.

I'm sorry, but either a.you're stressing out trying to put this girl into the typical "dating" stereotype and putting pressure on yourself to do things the "right way", or b. you're ignorant. I don't want to come across as mean, but it seems like you're a little stressed and pressured, or you just don't know how to be normal and natural around girls.

Also, again with the "making" how to "make her more comfortable" let he do it on her own terms. If you're being yourself, and you're being genuine, it's all you can do.

I am myself... and I can take care of myself... but this is a bit different , she is very shy , when I tried to grab her hand she turned red.. its kind of cute but it always happens..

A little advice won't hurt... what I'm going to do is just take my time with her... if you got any other thing in mind let me know ;)

[jmw0713]

You got to make the move. Go for the hug and kiss at the same time. It's not hard. Wrap your arms around her. Hold her tight. Lay a nice long kiss right on those lips.

That's how you change it. The first kiss will always have a slight awkwardness to it, because you are not used to each other's style. But then there is the second one and the third, fourth, fifth, etc... Get the picture? Each one feels better than the last.

[brokenheartls]

Threads merged
guess who's back and feels like dying... its me :D!

I got a new problem , please hear me out, my g.f is being very selfish and its killing me , I made like a list of the things she want me to do :\
1. she don't want me in f.b after midnight because girls flirt with me... ( I accepted )
2. no msn after midnight ( I accepted )
3. not talking to girls a lot on the phone or texting any girl except her ( I accepted )
the list goes on and on

and the last thing she wants is not having sexual stuff in our relationship :\
I can't accept this... I need these kind of things , she won't understand , she says its something extra in our relationship and that hugging and kissing is enough...
what about my needs?
I mean I can barely see her , she has no phone , her mom is a bit**, her mom won't let her get out of the house because she saw me with her daughter... she took her phone , and will let her use the PC for two hours every day , 2hours msn = 10 min on the phone...

she won't appreciate that I am still with her after all this fot like 8 months, when I see my g.f its about a 25min date , which is a walk in the park , literally.

she doesn't want to touch me or let me touch her and all these kind of things...
how can I convince her that I'm dying ?
I mean I want to please her, but what about me ? I need that thing , and I'm not willing to just accept it.
I need advice , I'm going to see her tomorrow at 4 which is in another 20 hour depending on my watch.
help me , anything would be appreciated

[Panther Forest]

Hi there,

I'm not sure how old you are but you have to grow up! Firstly do you like being controlled? You are being suffocated but you are not dying!! If you are not happy with those terms come clean and set everything straight. It takes 2 to clap so to speak. Have you tried controlling her? See how she takes to that. Sometimes a person does not realize it until it happens to them (A wake up call) Anyway hope this helps - Panther Forest

[dynocompe]

How old are you?

[Lucky098]

Is she religious? If she's religious, and not being sexual until marriage is what she believes, then there isn't going to be anything you can do that will change her mind.

As far as her mom and you.. That's going to be a battle that she is going to have to fight on her own. She's going to have to discover if she really wants to be with you 100% or if she's going to allow her mom to run her life. You sound young... these are normal battles. However, it seems like her mom is a bit extreme.. But like I said, it could be a religious thing.

If she has a tight leash on you, yet can't spend any time with you... quite honestly, I wouldn't stay with her. You obvious want more out of a relationship, and obviously she doesn't want to, or can't give you what you need.

You two need to talk, and talk soon about where this relationship is going. Because to me... It seems to be spinning in circles.

[talaniman]

Her and her mother control this relationship, and instead of accepting their very strict terms, and it driving you crazy, you get another girl, who is more compatible.

That's what a normal healthy male would do rather than submit to terms that you are against.

This is not a relationship, it's a dictatorship, and there just ain't enough love in the world to make a guy submit himself to these conditions.

How old are you any way?? (16/17?)

[brokenheartls]

I'm 18.5 and she is 17 , we used to have sexual interactions before and it stopped for no reason , she said its something that we both can live without ( I personally tried... and I can't live without it ) I explained that I will stay with her if we do this and that , and that I'm not an a**hole that will ditch her after doing sexual stuff... she still doesn't want to do it.

I love her too much I can't even let her go :( I need help
In about 12 hours I'm going to see her... I'll tell you about her behavior if it helps

[Lucky098]

Its not normal or healthy to be counting down the hours to see your girlfriend for 20 minutes.

You need to move on. This girl is no good for you and has you, literally, by the balls.

[brokenheartls]

Its it cruel to dump a girl because her mom is a bit*** ? I mean its not her fault , there was a day she ran out of the house and stayed with me for almost 6 hours... she wants to be with me.. but her mom really sucks at parenting !

[Lucky098]

And its cruel to dangle a carrot in front of a guy who is suppose to be the love of her life.

She is dictating everything you do.. from the amount spent with you, to you being able talk to certain people.

That's not normal... She's being very mean towards you.. I hope you will see it before you become depressed and regret ever talking with her..

Stop being love sick and take a look at the big picture. And if you can't handle the information given here, then please stop whinning and deal with it however you feel you need to deal with it. There is nothing anyone can say on here that will change her mind or her moms mind.

Its all up to you buddy.

[brokenheartls]

I'm already depressed , I don't care about talking to other girls.. I only care about this one girl , and I just want her to be happy, but apparently everything I do is never enough...
All we do is talk when I see her... I mean Jesus.. what about my needs , why can't she understand

[Lucky098]

Well, if you're going to base your relationship on whether you get laid... then you need to take a step back.

But.. If she's not giving you what you want, then you need to leave and stop torturing yourself. Maybe your absence will cause your girlfriend to stand up for your relationship as well.

Either do something.. Or be quiet. Your issues haven't changed in the least bit.

[brokenheartls]

OK... I saw her and all... she was pretty normal.. she was OK and all... she explained to me why she did all this... because her sister saw the chat box on the p.c and my g.f doesn't want any one to know that we do these kind of things , in other words... her anger and the whole fight was staged :\

She was really like that before and she change like 3 months ago... I hope she'll stay like that :)...

Anyway problem solved a guess ? If anything wrong happened and I couldn't deal with it on my own I'll be more then happy to ask you for help :D thanks everyone

[brokenheartls]

Threads merged
I girlfriend doesn't like being touched underneath her clothes.. and doesn't like the idea of being touched at all... and she doesn't want to touch me neither , there is a problem that she was forced to do a sexual act when she was young.. but never had sex...
I'm the only person who knows about it... might this be the problem ?

How can I make her more comfortable , our relationship is awesome , but we always fight about this subject...
I won't dump her because of this , but I really like all the intimate things we used to do...
How can I change her mind about these kind of things... please help!