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jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 08:05 AM

Originally Posted by talaniman

Complete and utter NC is what you need. Ignore her if you have too.

I am, no need to go back to a girl whorin herself out there...

And NC means NO COMMUNICATION even if she asks me back and asks me if I hacked her account!

No need to start the circle of drama and think about the past

amicon · Dec 8, 2009, 08:06 AM

NC means no contact whatsoever-no phoning,texting hacking or checking up anywhere. It's a twoway thing so you don't take their calls or respond to their email,texts etc. In my opinion this is the fastest way to clear your head of emotional confusion and heal from the breakup.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 08:07 AM

Originally Posted by amicon

NC means no contact whatsoever-no phoning,texting hacking or checking up anywhere. It's a twoway thing so you don't take their calls or respond to their email,texts etc. In my opinion this is the fastest way to clear your head of emotional confusion and heal from the breakup.

I agree, I was doing good yesterday until the night and went to bed to only look up her info as soon as I got up...

But today will be different, as long as I can make it 1 day without breaking NC, I will make great strides to a full recovery!

amicon · Dec 8, 2009, 08:10 AM

That's the ticket. Stay strong and good luck!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 09:00 AM

I can't wait to get better than both of them combined just so I can laugh at them and make her want me back to the point where I will just push her away! HA!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 12:27 PM

So far so good, no hacks, check ups or anything like that, just concentrating on work and listening to music to help me through...

I laugh at her music lyrics that involve me because she can't get over that its over! Within all the past times id check on her that's what id see... music about me, about how she wants him, LOL I love the attention and I'm not giving her any!

amicon · Dec 8, 2009, 01:05 PM

She's doing her own thing and you are broken up- I would suggest you'd be better off not even worrying about what she is doing-she is a free agent after the separation and is living her life which you are no longer is an influence in.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 01:20 PM

Originally Posted by amicon

She's doing her own thing and you are broken up- I would suggest you'd be better off not even worrying about what she is doing-she is a free agent after the separation and is living her life which you are no longer is an influence in.

I know I'm done checking on her, but I makes me proud she is not totally done with me... I bet her mind slips like mine, but I will surpass her...

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 02:09 PM

Trying so hard to not look right now... my body is on nerves!

sabrewolfe · Dec 8, 2009, 02:36 PM

Originally Posted by jaffeyjoeblaze

tryin so hard to not look right now....my body is on nerves!

Take some of the advice I saw you giving some others on here.
Knock it off already and move on.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 8, 2009, 02:41 PM

Originally Posted by sabrewolfe

Take some of the advice I saw you giving some others on here.
Knock it off already and move on.

I didn't do it... I know where that road ends... and I know where that road begins... when I slip and start the viewing and curiousity circle...

No more pain! I did the break up for me and her so we can be both happy! I will surpass her happiness, and I know it!

sabrewolfe · Dec 8, 2009, 02:55 PM

Originally Posted by jaffeyjoeblaze

I didn't do it....I know where that road ends.....and i know where that road begins....when I slip and start the viewing and curiousity circle.....

no more pain! I did the break up for me and her so we can be both happy! I will surpass her happiness, and I know it!

All right already, now just do it and quit obsessing over it!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 9, 2009, 05:55 AM

Hello guys!

So I slipped up yesterday afternoon, but I was not hurt... the good news is that I have not done anything since then and I made it through the night! And as of this morning I have had the urge and I get nervous but I have not done it again and I actually slept well but had a dream about her... it wasn't negative but it didn't depress me or take me backwards in the healing process...

amicon · Dec 9, 2009, 06:00 AM

Keep fighting the urges,stick to it,move forward,don't allow yourself to stay stuck in the past.

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 9, 2009, 08:13 AM

My friend showed me her myspace today this morning about her blog saying she is thinking about her new guy and that her ex is the past and she is single with no boyfriend, and that she can't wait to see him again and blah blah blah...

I got hurt for one moment but my friend that showed me, put me down to earth on how I don't have to argue anymore with her about who I hang out with, where I'm going, and have to deal with her low self esteem and that I have my career ahead of me and I can do anything and everything I want

I simply said that I have to be totally prepared for my next relationship by working on myself and worrying about nobody else... I have to be ready for myself no matter if I do get with her again or find a better person in life...

Guys thank you for your help and I am feeling the best today than I did before... thank you

sabrewolfe · Dec 9, 2009, 09:04 AM

Originally Posted by jaffeyjoeblaze

my friend showed me her myspace today this morning about her blog saying she is thinking about her new guy and that her ex is the past and she is single with no boyfriend, and that she can't wait to see him again and blah blah blah.....

i got hurt for one moment but my friend that showed me, put me down to earth on how I dont have to argue anymore with her about who i hang out with, where im going, and have to deal with her low self esteem and that I have my career ahead of me and I can do anything and everything I want

I simply said that I have to be totally prepared for my next relationship by working on myself and worrying about nobody else.....I have to be ready for myself no matter if I do get with her again or find a better person in life....

Guys thank you for your help and I am feeling the best today than I did before....thank you

Look bro, I know your hurt over all this, but you need to resist the temptation of checking up on her. You might feel fine about it now, but later on you will be wondering again. I know your afraid of letting go, but trust me, until you are really ready and willing to go through with it, you will only be putting off the inevitable. You need to face it, until you do, you will never get through it. Listen to me and the others on here, LET GO NOW! LEAVE IT ALONE FOR GOOD! The sooner you do, the sooner the healing process will begin. No one here wants to see you putting yourself through this pain any longer. We understand how you feel, we've been there. So please let it go now, I promise things will get better!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 11, 2009, 07:56 AM

Today it hit me hard how much I miss the little things from this relationship... her kids talking to me on the phone, just her goodnight and good morning texts and calls, just spending minutes and hours on the phone, along with sleeping next to her body and the sex...

It hurts knowing somebody else has that now... *sigh*... ill get better...

amicon · Dec 11, 2009, 08:02 AM

You will get better,it's the ups and downs postbreakup,and that will go away with time.
Sticking to the NC will help!

jaffeyjoeblaze · Dec 11, 2009, 08:05 AM

Originally Posted by amicon

You will get better,it's the ups and downs postbreakup,and that will go away with time.
Sticking to the NC will help!

Yes I know... I have not called, text, or hacked... I did view her profile on private but that was it... it didn't affect me as it did in the beginning...

Just today my mind decided to bring back those memories...

I wish · Dec 11, 2009, 08:23 AM

What you need is to keep yourself as distracted as possible so that you don't have anymore urges to break the NC rules. You might think that your feelings for her are gone, but you're prolonging the pain and suffering.

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