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    #261

    Jul 2, 2009, 09:41 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Lol funny thing, I also heard from a little bird that my ex is starting at least a 2 year relationship with the guy she cheated on. The problem is that he went for a road trip and they will only have a couple of days together before the long term thing start. When I asked her about this guy she always says that he is a "friend"... when actually they were more than that. Anyhow past is the past.
    Yeah, but no little bird told me any thing, I knew it in my gut, and by her face and how she said it. Plus she came out with it, when she realized she couldn't fool me. She is really bad at lying, and has no ability to keep her emotions to her self
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    #262

    Jul 2, 2009, 09:48 AM

    At least she told you,up until the end it was "friend just a friend just a friend"

    Until we slept together (broken up) and I called the 'friend' and asked if they minded

    Lol sh** hit the fan

    And suddenly it was no longer a friend.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 09:49 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by AKeagle View Post
    yeah, but no little bird told me any thing, i knew it in my gut, and by her face and how she said it. plus she came out with it, when she realized she couldn't fool me. she is really bad at lying, and has no ability to keep her emotions to her self
    Actually it's pretty much the same thing, I had to "force" the truth out of her because I knew she was lying. I would rather she told me it is over and that there was another guy I would have saved a couple of hairs and some of my hair wouldn't have turned white lol.
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    #264

    Jul 2, 2009, 09:52 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 57373 View Post
    At least she told you,up until the end it was "friend just a friend just a friend"

    Until we slept together (broken up) and I called the 'friend' and asked if they minded

    lol sh** hit the fan

    And suddenly it was no longer a friend.
    Bad idea to change numbers? Its kind of dramatic, but it would put ever more distant, and also the in ability for her to contact me. Unless she is about to get it from my family or my friends
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    Jul 2, 2009, 09:53 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    Actually it's pretty much the same thing, I had to "force" the truth out of her because I knew she was lying. I would rather she told me it is over and that there was another guy I would have saved a couple of hairs and some of my hair wouldn't have turned white lol.
    Lol, I already got some whit hair, though I doubt it is from her, probably the stress of surgeries, or stuff from long ago. I hope it wasn't stress related though, cause I don't remember when I got them, but they were before her
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    #266

    Jul 2, 2009, 10:04 AM

    Idk about changing numbers,all the times my ex contacted me,they were too afraid to talk to me on the phone (I guess guilt) It was always email or IM.I don't think phone is needed to block,if she has the nerve to speak to you directly by all means let her.
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    #267

    Jul 2, 2009, 10:11 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 57373 View Post
    Idk about changing numbers,all the times my ex contacted me,they were too afraid to talk to me on the phone (I guess guilt) It was always email or IM.I don't think phone is needed to block,if she has the nerve to speak to you directly by all means let her.
    Directly meaning in person?
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    #268

    Jul 2, 2009, 10:57 AM

    No, if she calls be brief and cold. Don't let her control you. If she does call tell her you have a date or you're meeting someone.
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    #269

    Jul 2, 2009, 10:57 AM

    No never in person (at least in my case,my ex is banned from seeing me... forever)

    But I will accept phone calls.Because I think IMS and email and Facebook are all impersonal and too insulting for me to answer after what I've been through.

    The phonecall I would answer? Not small talk,not how are you.

    It would have to be an apology,only way I would listen.

    So would I accept a phonecall that said something like,you forgot my birthday?

    HELL NO. that phone call would be solely based on her selfish needs.

    And that's one you can expect in five days (maybe) if you don't say happy birthday to her (which I'm all for you ignoring her birthday)
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    Jul 2, 2009, 11:17 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 57373 View Post
    The phonecall I would answer? not small talk,not how are you.

    It would have to be an apology,only way I would listen.
    Well should I just ignore all calls? If any. Cause there really isn't a way for me to tell if its an apology or for small talk other wise
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    #271

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:19 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by paxe View Post
    No, if she calls be brief and cold. Don't let her control you. If she does call tell her you have a date or you're meeting someone.
    I would rather not tell her anything that I am doing. She doesn't need to know anything of what I am doing. Which is why I never post that stuff. For all she knows I have someone else, or have gone on vaca, or moved.

    I got to delete like 60 friends, though I won't delete all of them, cause most of them are mine, that she met through me
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    #272

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:20 AM

    If she wants to talk about apologizing (and means it) wait for the answering machine to tell you.Then think about how sincere it is.If she sounds desperate chances are she'll keep calling and calling.Then you have control.

    But whatever you do. DO NOT SEE HER IN PERSON.

    I believe breaking nc is okay if it's on their side and if they have apologized and MEANT IT as in TEARS,or at least a long speech... I mean... it better be something huge.But even then I wouldn't see her in person.

    After she's been with that guy?

    HELL NO.

    Think about it? Would you really want to see her after she's 'been with' him.

    I wouldn't... that's disgusting to me.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 11:25 AM
    I guess it would all depend on the reason she came to see me, cause I wouldn't go to her. Though the only place she knows that I go is my parents house, which I never go to, cause I moved out. My office is moving, and I might be moving out of my house now cause of cost.
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    #274

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:27 AM
    Correct me if I am wrong isn't she with someone else?
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    #275

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:29 AM
    Nope, your right
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    #276

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:30 AM

    Listen if she comes to see you,obviously she will call first to see if you're there right?

    Well there you go,tell her you can't see her.

    And before you say 'oh that's messed up she drove 30 mins' realize that she left you for another guy,she's not a friend,she's not the innocent one.

    She.left.you.

    You should have no loyalty or compassion towards her.

    Ah and if you knew how easy it is to be manipulated by an ex in person,regardless of what they've done...

    I have several friends who have made that mistake (including myself) and done things we regret... so much. (in my case though it was before I found out about the other person.. after I found out... I would never see my ex)

    But I guess everything happens for a reason,but honestly save yourself the self respect.Cause second she see's you and starts crying,you will believe anything she says,and forget everything,trust me I've been there.Then come home to find out "but i have to stay with him...I love him"

    Not fun.
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    #277

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:31 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by AKeagle View Post
    well should i just ignore all calls? if any. cause there really isn't a way for me to tell if its an apology or for small talk other wise
    That's why you don't answer any of them.
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    #278

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:35 AM
    I believe in honor of their past if she wants to apologize,he should at least listen.

    So if she leaves one on the answering machine.. I wouldn't hit delete or anything.

    And if she calls back,I would listen.

    But that's the extent of it.

    Very few exes apologize so... I would take the apology.. doesn't mean I'd accept it.
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    Jul 2, 2009, 11:36 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by talaniman View Post
    Thats why you don't answer any of them.
    And just delete the VM, and never call back? No matter what the VM says or if she keeps calling?
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    #280

    Jul 2, 2009, 11:38 AM
    Quote Originally Posted by 57373 View Post
    I believe in honor of their past if she wants to apologize,he should at least listen.

    So if she leaves one on the answering machine..I wouldn't hit delete or anything.

    And if she calls back,I would listen.

    But that's the extent of it.

    Very few exes apologize so...I would take the apology..doesn't mean i'd accept it.
    Does anyone actually say, "i accept your apology" anymore, I think now a days its just expected

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