Girlfriend broke up and moved out, how to fix the relationship
I am new to forums, and thought I would try this out, with how my situation is.
I am 22 Years old and have been dating the same girl since my senior year of high school (she was a sophomore at the time). We had been together for almost 4 and half years, and lived together for the last 12 months. We have had our problems in our relationships, the big problems always bring us closer together, while the small arguments are our biggest down fall. We were part of every aspect of each other life, shared bank account, exchange of keys, etc. I have supported her in everything that she does, I am there for her when she needs help with anything, but have never felt that I have got the same in return, but have always felt that I can turn to her.
Almost 3 weeks ago she cames home and says that we need to talk about us, she says the spark just isn't there anymore, and that we aren't going anywhere(marriage). She has asked me about marriage and our future, and I have told her that I want us to be together, but that I want to finish college first. She also tells me that I have problems with my anger(which I agree with), which comes from my depression from the surgeries that I have had over the last 3 years.
She leaves to go back home for awhile till she can find a new place to live, but find out later that she ended up staying at a guys house, who she now says she has feelings for. When I confronted her about this, she got mad. She has since, I believe, moved into a new housing place. She has came and got all her stuff from my house finally, and took almost all the things she gave to me, such as gifts.
I have done a positive and negative list about her and I. I have spend since she left, alone just trying to find myself and deciding if I want to be with her. I have not contacted her since she came to get the last of her stuff(4 days). My heart wants her back, but my mind is telling me NO.
Any advice would be great.