[Nestorian]

ok if im in love with someone and have kids to them, then they will know my views on fidelity in a relationship.. If they asked me to leave work, i would. If they didnt ask, i would stay. My partner would have the same freedom as i would like to have. Im fine with my partner goin to a brothel. Im fine with my partner having a one night stand. As long as it doesnt take away from my needs of him. Say for instance - he wanted to have sex 7days a week but i only wanted it 2 times a week (will never happen, but this is an exmple lol) ok, i wouldnt say to him, "i only want it 2 times so thats all ur getting" I would make sure i get my 2 times an then he is free to do whoever he wants. im not going to be selfish and suppress someones needs and wants. Just the same as i do not want to be constricted to monogomy. In saying that tho..im not ruling monogomy for me out altogether.. it just doesnt suit me right now...

So in answer to that, if i caught him goin to a brothel, i would say "I hope you didnt put that on the credit card" and give him a cheeky grin x x

I'd have more to say on this post, but it would be wiser fr me to leave that for you to figure out on your own.

What I will say is, be ever mindful of the connections you have to the world around you; for that may one day prove most painful...

May peace and kindness be with you.

[Nestorian]

Ah hi, um Im really sorry that i am guilty of doing these things, but in my defense, i didn't know that that was the rules on this site. Really sorry.. Will try not to let it happen again

You may consider reading the rules of the site by going to the help option in the same tool bar as; Ask, Answer, Myprofile. A lot of people should be reading them, me even. I've read them a few times, but get into bad habbits as so manny others seem to be following "other rules".

Just to let you know.

[Nestorian]

The questions you asked about my bf can all be answered in that thread (check it out! I hate repeating myself :) if the answer isn't there to what you want to know let me know and i will tell you )

My drug extent is alcohol and weed mostly, but i have taken a few exctasy pills, had a few lines of coke.. but never a habit of anything except weed. And i have never worked as a sex worker under the influence of any drug, except perhapa a wine at dinner..

Im glad you find me interesting, I was sure I would have bored people to death :)

I will look into it then.

I advise caution, as those are mind altering, and if you are happy as your are, then why do them? I hear people talk about how fun drinking and partying are, but I also seem to notice how muct they hate being them self, or simply just hate them self so that is their "release", altering the reality they live in so that they can feel more "free" and relaxed. Even I drink, I'm no saint and the odd bit is I am aware of how much I hate (if not hate, than dislike, self conscious, afraid, uncomfortable with.) myself and that I too use just like any other drug user. Every one's got their reasons, but they are not what they would think, for they have not considered the reality to the action. We use, and it alters what we think/feel/act and thus must mean that we are in actual fact "unhappy" with who we are... If you can't have fun sober, than can "YOU" have fun at all? (Ooo, this is getting super deep, I've never really considered this so deep and put the pieces together. Now a lot of things make sense to me, in an odd sort of round about way; but, as I've said before, "Life is pliable, ever changing." For me, it means many things, but most importantly; the answers/truths/realities will always be shaping, molding, creatively being altered, even if something remains the same for years it still can change in an instant. But enough on that gibberish.

Definitely not boring. I can only hope that you don't become offended by what I say, as I too am only human and have a perception of my own on life.

Peace and kindness be with you.

[liz28]

Okay, I am confused. If you enjoy your work and will do it to the end then why do will you quit if a counselor told you to? But if he doesn't tell you to you will continue doing what your doing?

If you need someone to tell you to stop doing what your doing then I will "stop". Does that mean your going stop and quit dating the married guy?

[Meow420]

Okay, I am confused. If you enjoy your work and will do it to the end then why do will you quit if a counselor told you to? But if he doesn't tell you to you will continue doing what your doing?

If you need someone to tell you to stop doing what your doing then I will "stop". Does that mean your going stop and quit dating the married guy?

I don't need someone to tell me to stop what Im doing.. the reason I am seeking counselling is because I don't know if how Im living my life is OK. (Morally a lot have said "no" I am not living a good life because it is not a good life for THEM, does it rule out it being OK for someone like me?

The industry I work in is an industry of controversy. Am I wrong in enjoying it? Am I hurting myself being involved with a married man? (Yes I know dating a married man is immoral, but it in a weird way, it completes my life. I am happy. I wake up every morning smilng)

Ive just woken up so excuse me if this post doesn't make sense :)

[Meow420]

I will look into it then.

I advise caution, as those are mind altering, and if you are happy as your are, then why do them? .

I don't do drugs on a regular basis. I think you are misunderstanding me. I celebrate my birthday by having a pill or a line of coke but that is a once a year event.

I do not need to be on drugs to exist in this world. I do not take drugs at work. I do not take drugs to escape anything.

I get a high from sex though... that is my "drug" of choice.

[Nestorian]

I dont do drugs on a regular basis. I think you are misunderstanding me. I celebrate my birthday by having a pill or a line of coke but that is a once a year event.

I do not need to be on drugs to exist in this world. I do not take drugs at work. I do not take drugs to escape anything.

I get a high from sex though... that is my "drug" of choice.

Perhaps I did, but is seems you may have missed mine as well... I meant that doing drugs (alcohol included) we are altering how we think/feel/act to the point where we are pretty much cave wo/men. Those things are poisons, and it's like trying to commit suicide really; because when we put these things in our bodies, we kill cells designed to keep us functioning correctly, sure we produce more, but the information within that cell is dead and forever gone. I noticed that people who drink only on weekends have sever mood swings after the weekend, and can't deal with stress with out blaming some one else or just blowing up. Any other drugs is the same but Alcohol is most widly abused. A few casual drinks with dinner won't do too much because our livers can metabolize the alcohol before it reaches our brain.

So why I wonder do you choose to do that, even if it's just once a year? It changes who you are derastically, while you are under a drugs influence, and very very subtlely when our bodies have gotten ride of it. Yes very interesting indeed.

:) Relax, you're probably a better/smartter person than I. But I think you would be wise to look at all this stuff in as deep of detail as you can, because it seems even you are not sure what is right or wrong, other wise why would you be so concerned about what others think about your job etc?

"Morally alot have said "no" i am not living a good life because it is not a good life for THEM, does it rule out it being ok for someone like me?."-Meow420

What about those who are being cheated on by BFs, husbands? Ever had your heart broken? I imagine it would be the same if you couldn't have sex any more, or lost your job for what ever reason. For you any way.
I don't know what is right or wrong any more, because there are so many different opinions that I just gave up. Some one told me, "The day will come when the human race will call good evil and evil good; upon this day the end of the world will have begun." Or something like that, aparently it's from the bible or something like that. Any way, what I mean is, people experience things in different ways and interpret things in different ways too. What is good for one, may not be for another. But who is taking responsibility for all the actions, and how far do we consider our actions as responsible for anothers feelings? I've never met any one with a reasonable answer to that, and I can't seem to figure it out for the life of me. I have asked that for several years now too.

What is your view on self control? I sense a lot of issues must revolve around that topic for you.

Peace and kindness be with you.

[Meow420]

So why I wonder do you choose to do that, even if it's just once a year?


What about those who are being cheated on by BFs, husbands? Ever had your heart broken? I imagine it would be the same if you couldn't have sex any more, or lost your job for what ever reason. For you any way.

What is your view on self control? I sense a lot of issues must revolve around that topic for you.

Peace and kindness be with you.

Why do I choose have a line of coke on my birthday? Why not! I think doing drugs once year will not interfer with my mental or physical well being. It reminds me of being a nuaghty 16yr old.. why not have a little bit of naughty fun on your birthday when your surrounded by all your closest friends and letting loose! Drugs are not even an issue in my life, so I don't think they are in any form related to the topic at hand.

Absolutely I've had my heart broken! Absolutley I have been cheated on and it hurt! When I was in the first few "adult" relationships, I was very monogomous. I never left any of the cheaters for that reason though. I forgave them and continued on like it never happened.

What about their girlfriends or wives? Well to be honest, I generally don't think of them. I don't know them, I will never know them. Some wives know their husband goes to see a prostitute, hell, I know wives that have paid for their husbands. In some cases with certain men who come looking for help in certain areas, I do think that I am doing their wives a favour by pointing their men in the right direction. At the end of the day though, it is a husband or boyfriends choice to cheat on their wives in that way. I don't have anything to do with that. It's their life and they are going to do whatever it is they do. I might think that what they are doing is wrong, but that is irrelevant. Im not going to hold their choice of lifestyle against them. I just take each person as they come, at face value. As long as an individual treats me with respect and kindness then I will do the same for them, regardless of their choices in life.

What is my view on self control? For me personally, I think I have good self control. I think it is important for someone in my line of work. There are boundaries, both on my part and the clients part and it takes a lot of self control sometimes to not cross them.

After reading through what a lot of people have been commenting on, I don't think there is a right or wrong rule to live your life by. We all have different ideas of what is right or wrong by our own individual needs, wants, morals, beliefs..

[excon]

What about those who are being cheated on by BFs, husbands? Ever had your heart broken?

Hello Nes:

Why should the sex worker be concerned with her customers family?? Is the lawnmower salesman concerned that the customer is going to mow his lawn incorrectly?? Nahhh, he just sells his stuff. A sex worker should just sell their stuff...

Besides, you ask about girlfriends... What about the guy who DOESN'T have a girlfriend?? Why shouldn't HE get laid?? What about the guy who will NEVER have a girlfriend because he lost a leg, or he's too fat?? Shouldn't THOSE guys get laid??

Nope, sex workers provide a VALUABLE service.

excon

[NeedKarma]

I dont do drugs on a regular basis. I think you are misunderstanding me. I celebrate my birthday by having a pill or a line of coke but that is a once a year event.

I do not need to be on drugs to exist in this world. I do not take drugs at work. I do not take drugs to escape anything.

I get a high from sex though... that is my "drug" of choice.

So you are happy with everything you do. So what's the question being asked here? Are you bragging about your lifestyle or actually asking a question?

[Meow420]

So you are happy with everything you do. So what's the question being asked here? Are you bragging about your lifestyle or actually asking a question?

My life is not what I would call brag worthy material. I came here questioning how I think. This is not a waste of everyone's time just so I can get attention.

[BMI]

It does appear that you are quite fond of your life, as NK asks, what is it that you want to know?

In my opinion, this is no way for a seemingly smart young lady to make a living... let alone enjoy it.

You mention that what you do is bad for THEM, that is quite a selfish statement and I can only pray that others do not hold the same true when dealing with you.

Also, you mention drug use as a one in while thing to escape. Understand that an addiction to sex is just as serious as an addiction to substances, in my view you use sex everyday as an escape. You place yourself in the company of strangers and then have sex with them, not a very cautious approach.

I respond because you ask if this is all o.k and I really think it dangerous and unhealthy, just my opinion.

[Meow420]

You mention that what you do is bad for THEM, that is quite a selfish statement and I can only pray that others do not hold the same true when dealing with you.

What are you referring to in this comment? Im not sure which post comment you are talking about.

[BMI]

681 posts and I still can't quote people:(

The post you posted at 12:09pm today contains that comment.

[BMI]

HI Ex - I've no problem pushing the button, it's getting the exact phrase that gives me trouble. I'll go read the help board like any responsible member would.

[ordinaryguy]

Why do I choose have a line of coke on my birthday? Why not! I think doing drugs once year will not interfer with my mental or physical well being. It reminds me of being a nuaghty 16yr old.. why not have a little bit of naughty fun on your birthday when your surrounded by all your closest friends and letting loose! Drugs are not even an issue in my life, so i dont think they are in any form related to the topic at hand.

I agree, absolutely. More than most things, the way a person responds to drugs, and the differences between particular drugs, and the consequences and risks involved in using them is a highly individual matter. All generalities are wrong in some instances. For some people, a glass of wine with dinner is a ticket to the gutter and a ruined life. Others can enjoy a couple of drinks a day and it's just one of life's little pleasures, and it's the same with most other drugs. There are, of course, some substances that are so powerfully addictive that almost everybody who tries them becomes hooked, so discretion is important. But it's just plain wrong to say that all drugs are highly damaging and equally dangerous for everybody.

I've smoked pot for almost 40 years, and I have a drink or two almost every day, and I have no doubt at all that these things make my life better, not worse. But I also know that they (well, alcohol anyway) can be horribly destructive for some people, so I respect the differences between people in these matters. And this all has nothing to do with the topic of this thread, so I'll have nothing more to say about it here. Anybody who wants to discuss it further should start a new thread.

[Meow420]

681 posts and I still can't quote people:(

The post you posted at 12:09pm today contains that comment.

I used the word "them" in many sentences, Sorry, I do not know which point you are trying to address.

[BMI]

(Morally alot have said "no" i am not living a good life because it is not a good life for THEM, does it rule out it being ok for someone like me?.

This one.

[ordinaryguy]

You mention that what you do is bad for THEM, that is quite a selfish statement

It seems pretty obvious to me that "THEM" refers to her critics, not to her clients, i.e. if those who disapprove of what she does were to do it themselves, it would not be "a good life for THEM". She clearly doesn't think that what she does is bad for her clients.

[ChihuahuaMomma]

To be honest, it just seems that you posted this to get reassurance that everyone thinks what you do is a great job, safe, helps others, and is appropriate. No. It seems that you are just seeking approval.

I apologize if I'm off.