Girlfriend wants to hang out with my friends and I.Should I?
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Hey everyone, I have a situation... Everytime I hang out with mutual couplea, I always invite my girlfriend to hang out. However, when I hang out with my friends, I can't seem to be myself when she's hanging out with her.
For example, I can't go into a store with my friends and try on a muscle shirt, or anything that she thinks is not nice looking on me, without an opionion like " I don't like that, or its too small, etc...
We've been together for 5 years, but when we argue, we vent to our friends, and my friends are not too crazy about hanging out with her. I always tell my friends there are 2 sides to a story, and they seem not to care about her side. Maybe this is due to them knowing me many years before my girlfriend... other friends have been around her, and would rather not to again...
This weekend, my old college friends are coming down... and she is mad because I didn't invite her to hang out with us... Its a bunch of guys, and I know we will drink, maybe go to the club/bar, and I will be in about 2-3am... We don't live together for reasons such as always arguing and I love it this way because we have our own space
My question to you all is this: Shouldn't you be able to have your OWN friends in a relationship? What if we broke up, I wouldn't want her linked to my friends in ANY way... I've had that happen and hate that... Do you think she is trying to control what I do? I do things with my girlfriend that normal people in relationships do... go for nice walks, movies, bowling, etc
I just feel that I should be able to have my OWN friends, and that they should NOT have to like her if they don't. I don't feel I should leave my friends just because they don't like my girlfiend... although some of it is due to my venting to them sometimes when we argue
Any suggestions? I am asking you all because I know you all are not biased, so I know you will give me your honest opinions... Thank you in advance
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