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stillmissher · Mar 22, 2009, 12:56 PM

How is it that someone can break up with you and just move on? How do they just forget you? What the psychology behind it?

Alty · Mar 22, 2009, 01:00 PM

The psychology? I'm not sure. How can they do it? Well, if they've had enough of the relationship, realize it isn't working, then they really have no option but to move on.

It's never easy to break up with someone, even when you are finished with that relationship, but often times it's necessary.

Moving on is also necessary, you can't live in the past, you have to look to the future, even though it's not always easy.

heartbroke · Mar 22, 2009, 01:29 PM

If nothing wrong was done and you don't really see the reason, these people are the ones we call heartless

Alty · Mar 22, 2009, 01:44 PM

Originally Posted by heartbroke

If nothing wrong was done and you dont really see the reason, these people are the ones we call heartless

Just because someone doesn't want to be in a relationship, that doesn't mean they are heartless. You don't have to do something wrong for a relationship to end, sometimes it just isn't meant to be. It takes two to walk down a relationship path, if one person doesn't love the other, or isn't ready for that path, then it's best that the relationship end.

talaniman · Mar 22, 2009, 01:50 PM

When its done to you, dumped, it MAY appear they are just walking away but the have had a while to cope with their feelings and have made up their minds.

When you dump someone, they will be in shock and it seems they have been rejected and kicked to the curb.

Its all about the perspective your in, or how heartbroken you are.

Would it be better if you got dumped, but they cried over you? They probably have but you never saw it.

Alty · Mar 22, 2009, 02:00 PM

Tal, I had to spread the rep, but so true. Just because they don't cry in front of you doesn't mean they didn't cry.

Relationships are hard, sometimes it takes a while to find that perfect match. Breaking up is part of the process of growing, learning and reaching a final destination.

heartbroke · Mar 22, 2009, 02:02 PM

Originally Posted by Altenweg

Just because someone doesn't want to be in a relationship, that doesn't mean they are heartless. You don't have to do something wrong for a relationship to end, sometimes it just isn't meant to be. It takes two to walk down a relationship path, if one person doesn't love the other, or isn't ready for that path, then it's best that the relationship end.

You're right, I've just recently turned into a bitter person. If you check out the newest post on my thread you will see.

Alty · Mar 22, 2009, 02:07 PM

Originally Posted by heartbroke

Youre right, ive just recently turned into a bitter person. If you check out the newest post on my thread you will see.

Can you post a link? I'll check it out. :)

heartbroke · Mar 22, 2009, 02:10 PM

https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-314335.html
The last page is what I'm talking about

I wish · Mar 22, 2009, 03:26 PM

If you're really curious, then confront the person to see what's going on. I'm sure they have an explanation.

snowballchap · May 30, 2009, 06:28 PM

Originally Posted by I wish

If you're really curious, then confront the person to see what's going on. I'm sure they have an explanation.

NO NO NO! If you are that hurt and you want that person back, being the dumped, the best thing is not to do this. I've been dumped by women that I wanted to be dumped by (because I'm not good at dumping, lol), and I've learned that if you want to push them away, start whining. If you act like you *agree* with the break up, something very weird begins to happen. They gravitate back to you wondering why you don't seem hurt. Human nature dictates we want what we can't have.

Your mind tells you to beg, plead, buy gifts to get them back, and it almost never works.

what2do27 · May 30, 2009, 09:18 PM

I didn't understand why my ex chose to be on match.com a couple days after she broke up with me and how she tried to date right after me.

Then I realized from being with her and knowing her past, she couldn't be alone in life. Some people tend to move on quickly before they heal because they don't understand how to heal by themselves. Others can't be alone in life, and feel that they need someone there at all times to be accepted and loved.

Alty · May 30, 2009, 09:24 PM

I'd just like to point out that his thread was written in March and the OP hasn't been back since.

Posting on old theads bumps them to the top.

2 months isn't really that old, but if the OP hasn't been back, chances are they won't and there's really no reason to post.

A lot of people subscribe to specific forums, if the thread is on top of the list they assume it's new and needs immediate attention, when really, this one doesn't.

Just fyi. :)