How is it that someone can break up with you and just move on? How do they just forget you? What the psychology behind it?
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How is it that someone can break up with you and just move on? How do they just forget you? What the psychology behind it?
The psychology? I'm not sure. How can they do it? Well, if they've had enough of the relationship, realize it isn't working, then they really have no option but to move on.
It's never easy to break up with someone, even when you are finished with that relationship, but often times it's necessary.
Moving on is also necessary, you can't live in the past, you have to look to the future, even though it's not always easy.
If nothing wrong was done and you don't really see the reason, these people are the ones we call heartless
Just because someone doesn't want to be in a relationship, that doesn't mean they are heartless. You don't have to do something wrong for a relationship to end, sometimes it just isn't meant to be. It takes two to walk down a relationship path, if one person doesn't love the other, or isn't ready for that path, then it's best that the relationship end.Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
When its done to you, dumped, it MAY appear they are just walking away but the have had a while to cope with their feelings and have made up their minds.
When you dump someone, they will be in shock and it seems they have been rejected and kicked to the curb.
Its all about the perspective your in, or how heartbroken you are.
Would it be better if you got dumped, but they cried over you? They probably have but you never saw it.
Tal, I had to spread the rep, but so true. Just because they don't cry in front of you doesn't mean they didn't cry.
Relationships are hard, sometimes it takes a while to find that perfect match. Breaking up is part of the process of growing, learning and reaching a final destination.
You're right, I've just recently turned into a bitter person. If you check out the newest post on my thread you will see.Quote:
Originally Posted by Altenweg
Can you post a link? I'll check it out. :)Quote:
Originally Posted by heartbroke
https://www.askmehelpdesk.com/relati...me-314335.html
The last page is what I'm talking about
If you're really curious, then confront the person to see what's going on. I'm sure they have an explanation.
NO NO NO! If you are that hurt and you want that person back, being the dumped, the best thing is not to do this. I've been dumped by women that I wanted to be dumped by (because I'm not good at dumping, lol), and I've learned that if you want to push them away, start whining. If you act like you *agree* with the break up, something very weird begins to happen. They gravitate back to you wondering why you don't seem hurt. Human nature dictates we want what we can't have.Quote:
Originally Posted by I wish
Your mind tells you to beg, plead, buy gifts to get them back, and it almost never works.
I didn't understand why my ex chose to be on match.com a couple days after she broke up with me and how she tried to date right after me.
Then I realized from being with her and knowing her past, she couldn't be alone in life. Some people tend to move on quickly before they heal because they don't understand how to heal by themselves. Others can't be alone in life, and feel that they need someone there at all times to be accepted and loved.
I'd just like to point out that his thread was written in March and the OP hasn't been back since.
Posting on old theads bumps them to the top.
2 months isn't really that old, but if the OP hasn't been back, chances are they won't and there's really no reason to post.
A lot of people subscribe to specific forums, if the thread is on top of the list they assume it's new and needs immediate attention, when really, this one doesn't.
Just fyi. :)
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