[frangipanis]

Curious to hear what others think of prenups for second time around couples who won't be having any children together.

My partner and I have drafted our prenuptial agreement and haven't yet returned to our solicitors for final agreement. Still, we're both happy with the arrangement that wholly protects each of our assets and creates a relationship in which we are both financially independent, while at the same time making both our lives more financially comfortable and secure... not to mention, loving :)

Before arriving at our final agreement, we had to pass through a difficult sticking point, that when it comes down to it represents only a small amount of money that would make little difference to either of us in real terms. The money in this case is more symbolic, than anything else.

What it comes down to is this: With all else being equal, does the woman have a right to ask for compensation should the relationship end based on non-monetary contributions she makes to the relationship, and to compensate for the fact a woman's earning capacity is less than a man's?

So, what is a woman worth, or a man, for that matter? Interested to hear your thoughts.

[hoightoider]

Hmmm. What value would be placed on your non-monetary contributions to the relationship? Is she going to sacrifice income potential because of the marriage?

Because you don't say how old either one of you are and how your earnings capacity compares to hers, it is difficult to answer your question.

[cdad]

As for a value I wouldn't waste my time with that. The whole idea behind a marriage is that you both contribute. Its not a matter of who does what to increase the accounts its how you treat each other and move respectively through life.
Emotional support is priceless. Love can not be bought. So what exactly are you looking for ?

[frangipanis]

Hmmm. What value would be placed on your non-monetary contributions to the relationship? Is she going to sacrifice income potential because of the marriage?

Because you don't say how old either one of you are and how your earnings capacity compares to hers, it is difficult to answer your question.

There are no potential income sacrifices for either of us. In fact, I would say the relationship would bring more emotional stability to both our lives, making it easier for both of us to be more productive at work. We're both in our late 40's. As a woman who re-entered the workforce full-time only a few years ago as I spent over 10 years mostly caring for my two children, my earning capacity is far less my partner's, although not insignificant. The differences between our earning capacity and what we bring to the relationship financially even out the financial contribution we will both make in creating a new life, including a new home.

[frangipanis]

As for a value I wouldnt waste my time with that. The whole idea behind a marriage is that you both contribute. Its not a matter of who does what to increase the accounts its how you treat each other and move respectivly through life.
Emotional support is priceless. Love can not be bought. So what exactly are you looking for ?

Having both been stung by a previous marriage, and in his case an ex-girlfriend who attempted to take half his home within less than two years of being together, we're both wanting a marriage based on love and that is financially safe and secure.

I agree with you wholeheartedly that love can't be bought.