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Pheniox01 · Jan 10, 2009, 11:52 PM

I have a friend that I known for a year. I have a crush on her since I met her. We have hung out, gone out to eat and helped her out. Should I ask my friend out? There's been no talk of her having a boyfriend.

Thank you
Pheniox01

lili519 · Jan 10, 2009, 11:53 PM

Go for it!

compsavvyimnot · Jan 11, 2009, 12:06 AM

Yea!!
Hope it works out well.

Clough · Jan 11, 2009, 02:42 AM

Hi, Pheniox01!

My suggestion also would be to ask her out.

Is there any reason that you think it might not be okay to do that? If so, what might the reason be, please?

Thanks!

southerngalps · Jan 11, 2009, 09:25 AM

There are no signs saying not to... best of luck!

Pheniox01 · Jan 12, 2009, 09:41 AM

We been friends for a year. We met at work (sales) and started talking. She needed help (ride to school and daycare for her kids). Also she needed to get her driving license so I offered my help if she needed (she accepted and have passed the test but still looking for a car). I have met her kids and we have played a few times and get along. The baby daddy is out of the picture he only watches the kids when he feels like it. I like her I tell her she's beautiful when ever she doubts her self. I would like for us to work. Your thoughts?

Thank you for reading my question and for your advice.

Pheniox01

kctiger · Jan 12, 2009, 09:48 AM

Ask her out, what do you have to lose. Be careful though, work relationships can often be complicated and risky.

Str8stack71 · Jan 12, 2009, 09:56 AM

You shouldn't be telling us this info... you should telling her...

Go for it!. word is wisely though as not to damage the friend relationship that you already have...

Good luck

dontknownuthin · Jan 12, 2009, 01:28 PM

Sure, ask her on a date. Keep it low-key, don't get too involved with her children until it feels more solid. Be respectful if she wants to take things slow, and be cautious if she is looking for someone as a financial support - be sure that is a role you want before you take it on.

Pheniox01 · Jan 13, 2009, 10:05 AM

I have a friend that I know for a year. We hang out almost everyday usually when we hang out its cause of me giving her a ride to where she needs to go. I like her and have a crush since I first met her. Should I ask her out or am I just a friend that helps her out?

Thanks for reading and your thoughts

Pheniox01

MsMewiththat · Jan 13, 2009, 10:13 AM

Ask her how she feels. Be open and honest and don't change your feelings for her or what you do for her based on her answer. Remember that regardless of her answer and her feelings for you; you want to remain friends. Careful not to get used though! Good Luck

Pheniox01 · Jan 13, 2009, 11:05 AM

I have a friend that I know for a year. We hang out almost everyday usually when we hang out its cause of me giving her a ride to where she needs to go. I like her and have a crush since I first met her. Should I ask her out or am I just a friend that helps her out?

p.s. when her ex keeps insisting to do her favors should I insist more or what should I do?

Thanks for reading and your thoughts

kctiger · Jan 13, 2009, 11:27 AM

If she is still talking to her ex, I wouldn't have anything to do with her... just me, but that is added drama man!

If he ever gets out of the picture, then go for it, but for now, you are nothing more than a ride...

southerngalps · Jan 13, 2009, 09:34 PM

If you like her and she is not taken, go for it!

Curlyben · Jan 13, 2009, 11:29 PM

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Pheniox01 · Jan 14, 2009, 12:03 AM

Originally Posted by Clough

Hi, Pheniox01!

My suggestion also would be to ask her out.

Is there any reason that you think it might not be okay to do that? If so, what might the reason be, please?

Thanks!

Well I guess not. Just more nervous on what she is going to say when I ask her or let her know how I feel about her.

Clough · Jan 14, 2009, 01:44 AM

Originally Posted by Pheniox01

well i guess not. just more nervous on what she is gonna say when i ask her or let her know how i feel about her.

I can remember how nervous I used to get when asking a girl out. Just takes practice though. I'd plan, try to rationalize things and write down things without actually just asking... I was avoiding doing it because I thought that if a girl said "No". That it might be some sort of really unpleasant experience. When a girl said "No". It was just that and wasn't all that unpleasant. I then just went for some other girl...

You've already received responses from a number of fine folks on this site. You'll also get support here if she doesn't want to go out and you might be confused as to what happened. If she does say "No", then it's important that you ask her why.

I've gotten plenty of refusals from women who I've asked out in the past. Most of the reasons have been very sound and good.

You won't know until you just ask her. The preferable way to do it would be in person while you're with her sometime. You could preface asking her out by telling her how you feel about her. But, one thing that might make a difference is to not make it some sort of "heavy" on her, so that she might think that your desperate or something...

You talk with her on a regular basis. Just be yourself and casually bring it up in usual conversation. "Hey, you know what?! I really like spending time with you! Would you like to do something fun on Friday night like go to a movie or concert?"

Please, just ask her out! You're a known person to her, have already spent time with her, and my prediction is that most likely she will say, "Yes!"

Thanks!