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    #21

    Jan 8, 2009, 01:41 PM

    Well you have to trust that she won't hurt you and get over these feelings of insecurity and fear of being with her. Seriously, if you don't, you will mess this up and be a world of hurt. Trust is critical in a relationship.

    You need to stop reading so much into the money situations and your past and seriously take a look at what you have NOW...

    You are worrying over nothing. You need to find something that makes you happy about yourself. If you're not happy with yourself, you're going to project that on to her and problems will arise. So find something that makes you happy and possibly share that with her.
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    Jan 8, 2009, 01:42 PM
    Through my whole life I have always looked ahead and saw the bad instead of the good in any situation but mostly with relationships.I have always worried about the bad instead of looking forward to what good ,because everything I ever had that was close to me I lost. but at the same time in some situations it was my fault cause I haven't been that nice of a person in my life
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    Jan 8, 2009, 02:00 PM

    Have you ever considered therapy or anything to get over these feelings? It may help.
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    Jan 8, 2009, 02:07 PM
    Yeah I have considered it
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    Jan 8, 2009, 02:12 PM

    Talk with a therapist and try to alleviate these insecurities about your past and your relationship.

    Also communicate with GF and make sure she knows you are seeking help.

    Have you talked with her about all of this yet?
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    #26

    Jan 9, 2009, 06:55 AM

    Why do you think she won't support you?
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    Jan 9, 2009, 07:01 AM
    [QUOTE=Comments on this post
    sams721 agrees: i think if i do talk to her she will just brush it off and tell me to talk a therpist and not support me?[/QUOTE]



    It would appear that all of the problems do not stem from the better education and income. There are other issues at play here.
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    Jan 9, 2009, 07:09 AM

    Id say it would bother me, if she had the nerve to bring it into a argument. Otherwise not at all, id respect it and kind of be flattered she's not with me for the money!
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    #29

    Jan 9, 2009, 11:05 AM
    I would think that most women like guys who are a lot more successful then them. Consider yourself lucky that you can find one who is more successful. That mean she got more power than you that's all :D
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    Jan 9, 2009, 04:33 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by hungtoronto View Post
    I would think that most women like guys who are a lot more succesful then them. Consider yourself lucky that you can find one who is more sucessful. That mean she got more power than you that's all :D

    You are equating money and power and I think they are two different things.
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    Jun 25, 2009, 11:12 AM
    Not one bit I would be totally OK with that
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    Jun 25, 2009, 11:39 AM
    Bother what a couple is a partnership a agreement I'm with you and your with me I got your back and you got my back. That's ridiculous!!
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