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sams721 · Jan 7, 2009, 12:20 PM

Fellas if your woman made more money then you because she had a degree and you didn't would this bother you or not ?

kctiger · Jan 7, 2009, 12:23 PM

No... but I would make sure I got my degree if I didn't have it. I am pretty competitive, but as long as I loved what I did, it wouldn't matter. Sometimes you just have to swallow your pride.

jmw0713 · Jan 7, 2009, 12:29 PM

Nope. If she makes more money that's fine. As long as I like what I do and we are both comfortable with our situation.

Fr_Chuck · Jan 7, 2009, 12:47 PM

Why should it even make any difference what so ever. A couple is a partnership, under what rule is the man suppose to make more money?

talaniman · Jan 7, 2009, 01:07 PM

No difference.

Ash123 · Jan 7, 2009, 01:08 PM

No problemmmm.

As long as she was as interested in sex as her salary - we're straight :-)

spitvenom · Jan 7, 2009, 01:24 PM

My Fiancée and I both have degree's. Until the end of December she did make about $2,000 more then I did. Now I make more. Hopefully in 6 months she makes more then me again!!

sams721 · Jan 7, 2009, 01:29 PM

I am not saying a man should make more money but she works around other people that she can relate with financially ,but where can I fit into that I don't know it just bothers me and I can't shake it .I mean I am on my way working towards my degree but until that happens there are to many thoughts racing in my head , and all I can see is her finding that man in the suit you know someone that is on her level better then me .

kctiger · Jan 7, 2009, 01:31 PM

The more money, the merrier... right?

ja77 · Jan 7, 2009, 01:32 PM

It would not bother me because there are more important things to a relationship than that.

"Mo' Money, Mo' Problems".

thadevilsadvocate · Jan 7, 2009, 01:38 PM

I would think of it as a great thing, as long as she doesn't hold it against you. It should be motivation for you to want to get a degree also or continue to continue to advance in your field of work, so that you can both grow together. Don't let it intimidate you, but rather use it as a challenge for yourself, to keep working harder. As long as you are holding up your end, and you are happy, then look at it as a great thing. Think of the alternative... she could be doing nothing with her life.

sams721 · Jan 7, 2009, 03:03 PM

There are more important things then that true. She comes from a family that has money in it ,and she has a very good head on her shoulders. Then I come from a broke family not to mention my past is not so good I have made many mistakes .She says it don't matter to her but it bothers me a great deal .Sometimes I swear I find myself fighting to gain her acceptance ,because the only thing I really can offer her is love and whatever I have now but to me it's not enough .

thadevilsadvocate · Jan 7, 2009, 04:45 PM

The only reaosn that the mistakes you made should matter, is if you haven't learned from them. Think about it, she is a woman that is doing well for herself, if she was so bothered by those mistakes and so forth, then she probably wouldn't be with you. You must be a good person and a good person to her, and that is why she is there. It sounds like she really does have a head on her shoulders and isn't all about money or think that she is above everyone else. She was fortunate to come from money, and your path has been a little tougher. Don't let that get the best of you and instead use all that you have learned from the mistakes to excel, and as you continue to excel, you won't feel as though you are ahving to fight to gain acceptance. You are giving her honesty, loyalty, and love, and you have a job. If that is not enough then you need to reconsider. Otherwise, just keep your head up and keep plugging away.

wolfgangqpublic · Jan 7, 2009, 04:46 PM

Nope - as long as I was working hard at something I cared about.

jmw0713 · Jan 8, 2009, 07:21 AM

Sounds like you have some insecurities that are coming out. Why should you worry about what she thinks of your past. She knows about that already and is still with you. I don't think you need to worry about the money and the past. You just need to look forward toward the present and the future and continue to keep your relationship with her moving smoothly, with out the insecurity and or jealousy that may be brought up because her background is different or she makes more money than you. Love and life are way more than that. You need to realize that or you could possible screw up a good thing by being insecure.

NeedKarma · Jan 8, 2009, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by sams721

Fellas if your woman made more money then you because she had a degree and you didn't would this bother you or not ?

My wife makes more than I do, we both have degrees, she just has that extra LLB degree. :)

spitvenom · Jan 8, 2009, 07:36 AM

Sams you are thinking about this so much that you are going to think yourself out of a relationship. You made mistakes obviously she is willing to over look them because you must be working hard to get your degree. The money will come so stop thinking about what might happen and be happy with what really is happening.

JudyKayTee · Jan 8, 2009, 07:36 AM

Originally Posted by sams721

Fellas if your woman made more money then you because she had a degree and you didn't would this bother you or not ?

Does it "bother" a woman if her husband makes more money and has a degree - ?

I have friends who are practicing Attorneys and their husbands are construction workers and CNA's.

My husband had a Doctorate; I never apologized because I didn't.

talaniman · Jan 8, 2009, 08:24 AM

Forget about the money, and make yourself better by dealing with your own insecurities, and attitudes. Don't let them ruin a good thing you have going.

sams721 · Jan 8, 2009, 01:27 PM

Yeah you all have a good point it's just I don't see someone truly honestly loving me for me,and I never have gave my heart and all my trust to someone but with her I have it scares me because I always thought if I do give someone my heart and my trust I will get hurt in the end.