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    #41

    Nov 20, 2008, 10:37 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by BlackVY View Post
    when she is in a depressed mood
    How can anyone stay depressed when someone pulls a can of PlayDoh out of a bag and begins rolling the stuff around on the table and making shapes?? No explanation, no talking, just do it. Knock her socks off!

    hard for me... to listen without trying to solve the problem... because that's what I always do... try to think logically and sort things out
    We girls don't want the problem solved, at least not right away, because it's sooooo much fun to crab and vent about it on and on and on! You males always have to mess things up by fixing everything! What fun is that??
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    #42

    Nov 20, 2008, 10:39 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by LifeChangesMan View Post
    seems like maybe the relationship was getting old or stale and needed the sweetness factor to come into play, and the romantic edge... sounds you'll be fine you love her, she loves you, yada yada yada everyones happy, weddings bells, cake, honeymoon, house, kids, family, this is how it usually goes right? oh yeah, and they lived happily ever after! best wishes to you my friend.
    Haha... thanks a lot man... I guess things were getting kind of comfortable, but that's what we both wanted... to feel comfortable with someone... and I've always been sweet and romantic with her... but o well, will try to help her through her issues and problems and stuff... so I can have that Happily Eva After... :)
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    Nov 20, 2008, 10:40 PM
    You'll get it you're a good guy, you wouldn't be on this site trying to help people if you weren't.
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    #44

    Nov 20, 2008, 10:41 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    How can anyone stay depressed when someone pulls a can of PlayDoh out of a bag and begins rolling the stuff around on the table and making shapes???? No explanation, no talking, just do it. Knock her socks off!


    We girls don't want the problem solved, at least not right away, because it's sooooo much fun to crab and vent about it on and on and on!! You males always have to mess things up by fixing everything! What fun is that???
    Haha... thanks for the advice again... will try the PlayDoh thing... sounds like fun... hope she will think so too... lol

    And thanks for the woman's insight into things... us men find it pretty hard to understand what a woman is thinking, so thanks... got to be more fun and leave things messy and unfixed... lol.. cool cool.. will do ;)
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    Nov 20, 2008, 10:42 PM

    Don't go into long explanations about the paint set or craft thing. Just tell her today is her lucky day and you have a surprise for her in this nice bag you are holding. Be mysterious and take her to wherever you need to in order to have a table and chairs to sit at and on. Continue being mysterious. Get interactive. Maybe make her guess what could be in the bag. She can ask 20 questions if necessary, or fewer probably. With a minimum of talking, set up the activity and wordlessly begin work, maybe humming to yourself. You get the drift...
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    Nov 20, 2008, 10:42 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by LifeChangesMan View Post
    you'll get it your a good guy, you wouldn't be on this site trying to help people if you weren't.
    Haha... thanks a lot man... yeah she thinks I'm a good guy too... but she has her issues... and if I'm on this site here helping people I don't really know, I will definitely be next to my girl, helping her every step of the way... thanks for the support and confidence.. :)
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    #47

    Nov 20, 2008, 10:43 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Don't go into long explanations about the paint set or craft thing. Just tell her today is her lucky day and you have a surprise for her in this nice bag you are holding. Be mysterious and take her to wherever you need to in order to have a table and chairs to sit at and on. Continue being mysterious. Get interactive. Maybe make her guess what could be in the bag. She can ask 20 questions if necessary, or fewer probably. With a minimum of talking, set up the activity and wordlessly begin work, maybe humming to yourself. You get the drift...........
    Hehe... yeah... I see what you mean... will give it a go.. :)
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    Nov 20, 2008, 10:47 PM

    Ok, my work here is done for today. I have to clean out the cat litter box before my furbabies wake up and begin using it again.

    I await your first report sometime on Friday. Take it slow and keep your sense of humor and great imagination flowing free.

    I'll be with you in spirit.
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    Nov 20, 2008, 10:50 PM
    Quote Originally Posted by Wondergirl View Post
    Ok, my work here is done for today. I have to clean out the cat litter box before my furbabies wake up and begin using it again.

    I await your first report sometime on Friday. Take it slow and keep your sense of humor and great imagination flowing free.

    I'll be with you in spirit.
    Thanks for everything... you really lifted my spirits today... thanks so much... I will keep u updated as soon as I can, I may be seeing her tonight depending on how she feels, but I will let you know what happens... take care and have a good one... Peace :)

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