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    newtribemember Posts: 10, Reputation: 1
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    Feb 29, 2008, 03:08 PM
    What is going on in his head?
    First off, I have always been terrible at the whole dating thing. That's probably how I ended up married to a crazy person. Here is my question:
    My divorce will be final on Tueday (4 days and counting!). I met this amazing guy through mutual friends about a month ago and through this time, there have only been 2 or 3 days that we have not seen each other. He knows my divorce isn't final yet and he's going through some stuff, too. He is trying to get visitation rights for his 2 young sons. From our mutual friends, I hear how he's crazy about me, that I'm the first girl he's even given the time of day to since he and his ex split up, no one has seen him so happy as long as they have known him (which is years). Anyway, he treats me wonderfully, tells me I'm beautiful, smart, compliments me all the time. We cuddle on the couch, kiss a lot. But that's the extent of it. We haven't even gotten to that heavy makeout session stage yet and its been 4 weeks! I can't figure out what is going on in his head and feel like I'm getting mixed signals. I could be worrying over nothing, I know he's interested, and I'm not complaining about how we are taking things slowly, but other than one time when we first met I haven't gotten that "got to have you" vibe. Am I going crazy or worrying over nothing?
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    Feb 29, 2008, 04:24 PM
    You are technically still married. Maybe he is worried about that? Don't worry so much, let things progress slowly. Sex outside of marriage is not the smartest thing to do, so as long as he is content with the kissy kissy stuff, you should be happy. Does he have a religious background?
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    Feb 29, 2008, 06:15 PM
    Your divorce is not even final, so jumping in the sack should not even be in the equation yet, in fact jumping out of a marriage into a relationship does not sound like a good idea for either of you.
    I say you both need to slow down, let him concentrate on getting custody of his child, and you get yourself together from the ending of a marriage.
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    Feb 29, 2008, 06:17 PM
    It could be many things or it could be nothing.. It's probably a good time to see how well you two can communicate and simply ask him. Don't let him think he has done anything wrong, men hate that.. just toss a leg over his and push the knee up, that is what I would do, if he becomes uncomfortable simply ask if he is OK ask if you are making him uncomfortable.. ask him if he wants to talk about it. Keep direct eye contact.

    Sounds like you have a nice respectful guy there , just ask what is up in the sweetest way you can.. good luck!

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