[alpha_zero]

K so my girlfriend and I were talknig and she said she wants me to be in more in control. She said *All I want from you is you to be a little mor eion control of things, it's nice if you say what you want to do it just keeps it more interesting for the both of us* I could not agree more, but it will take me some time cause with my previous relationships we agreed to do things together and stuff. I was just wodnerin if you guys had any ideas of what I could do, and tell her I want to do other than going to the gym or go fro dinner, I need ideas of what we could do at university cause we see each other more there. Thanks

[helpdave]

So, what are you supposed to be in control of? Your life? Her life? The TV remote?

[alpha_zero]

Seems like she wants me to lead her the way and be more of the *General* so to speak and let her follow me and she wants me to speak up and let me tell her I want to do more , but at university there ain much to do other than classes, eat, gym, and sit together I don't know I guess I got to bend over and pull something out of my

[helpdave]

Sorry your response made me laugh a little. What the hell do women want ay!

My girlfriend wants me to take charge sometimes as well. Well, if she wants me to take charge that means we are now going to the pub, to the football, watching the movies I want, getting into porn... and then when it comes down to it, we'll just do what she wants. Hehehe.
On the reverse, just think of the worst thing known to man. Shopping! And then think of anything you would rather do than that and offer that up for a solution. If she wants you to be a general, say 'We are deinately NOT going shopping'

[RustyJenkins]

Well control in general, you can just do like you said, this is where we are going, this is what we are going to do... plan a trip, maybe away from the university. Just tell her that you two are going away for the weekend and make sure her plans are free for those days, and plan where to go, how to go, etc... it doesn't have to be anything expensive you plan, just be more assertive... it will just take a little time

[imation]

Girls usually want a guy who is sensitive right? But that doesn't mean that sensitive is all they want, its just a part. Every guy has a picture of this perfect girl (not just phisically), girls do too and you gf's probably includes you having a lot of input and being excited about spending time with her that you want to jump out of your skin and do things with her. The way she said "it'll be more fun for the both of us" seems like she is not having fun, and wants you to have input into where the relationship is going instead of sitting back and not caring what you do together. Take her to things that you like to do, whatever your interests are, get excited about showing her your life and she will be excited to become more a part of it