[whiteribbon]

Of course you did the right thing! Im very proud of you and I'm sure everyone else on here will agree! Start looking after number one... THATS YOU!! My opinion is that cutting contact is the only way you can get over things, and its very selfish of the other person if they can't understand that - so way to go you, give yourself a pat on the back! :)

[kuulski]

Glad to hear you are doing well and getting into new things! Keep it going! I myself have also recently been dealing with a breakup NC for 2 months now. It is hard and I am trying to continue to do things to make me happy. I do get moody sometimes or wake up thinking about her but yes it is true it does get easier.

[Swordfish206]

Thanks to both of you!! Im really happy to hear that you agree with me. And to think she told me that IM the immature one... LOL!! Truth is, she is only 20 and has not had this situation happen to her yet so she don't know any better. Im sure somewhere down the road some guy will break her heart but still want to stay friends and she is going to tell him to hit the road... But its something we all go through and learn on our own. Its just not her time yet. But thank you both and I'm having a good time having a good time.. HAHA!

[statictable]

Very well said. Your smart and your decision really makes that clear. Keep on going.

[whiteribbon]

Your very welcome hun! Keep up the good work :)

[mamichulita50]

I Have Done The Same Thing So Here's Some Advice She's Tired Of Just Being With One Guy And Wants To Experience Sumone Else Or She Is Confused And Doesn't Kno What She Wants. She Also Could Be Seeing Someone Else Or She's Just Frustrated Give Her Some Time :)

[Ash123]

I Have Done The Same Thing So Heres Some Advice Shes Tired Of Just Being With One Guy And Wants To Experience Sumone Else Or She Is Confused And Doesnt Kno What She Wants. She Also Could Be Seeing Someone Else Or Shes Just Frustrated Give Her Some Time :)

Well, that pretty much covered what she might be up to... ;)

[Swordfish206]

Hello everyone! I have not been on this site for about 8 months and a lot as happened. Last time I was on I told you my girlfriend and I had broken up because she said she didn't know what she wanted and needed time to be alone blah blah blah... Well, this past Nov. 27th I got into a very bad motorcycle accident. I was on my way to work and an 18 wheeler cut me off and I fell under the truck and it ran me over with the back tires. I suffered 11 broken ribs, lacerated liver and bladder, and it shattered my pelvis in 3 places. I was in the hospital for 4 1/2 months. Now I have 19 titanium pins in my pelvis and my right leg is shorter than my left but I can stand and walk on crutches and healing nicely...

Point of the story is that when I was in the hospital my ex came to see me. She was so freaked out when she saw me all torn up and bruised and medicated. She cried and hugged me and kissed me. Long story short she kept coming back to see me and sparks flew again and this time SHE was the one to ask me back out on Christmas Day. Things were back to normal and our relationship seemed to grow stronger. She visited me 3 to 4 times a week in the hospital. I could not walk for 3 months in order for my pelvis to heal so we always hung out in my room by my bed. Just having her back motivated me so much to recover sooner and get well. Anyway, I returned home in April and things were still great. We even started messing around again. Things were smooth up until her birthday late May and this is what happened...

She left to Vegas without inviting me. When in the hospital she kept saying how she hoped I would be better by her birthday so we can go to Vegas together... that she would push my wheelchair if necessary. But in the end didn't even get and invite. That bugged me. But whatever I let it go. Because if there is one thing I learned from my accident is that life is too short to be bickering and fighting over nonsense because you never know what might happen. I almost died that day in Nov. The tires missed my head only by inches. So I have a completely different look on life now and try to focus on what matters the most. We argued about it and she told me that she has been by my side for the past 5 months in the hospital and now wants some time for herself to do what she wants. It only got worse from there. Slowly she started distancing again going to parties and doing this and that and came to see me less. I had gotten so used to having her around that it began to bother me and its when the arguing started up again. In a way I understood her because she got promoted at work. She is going to school. And on top of that had to balance family, friends, and me. So it's a lot for a 21 year old. But all I asked for is at least one day a week so we could spend time together. This past Mon we were on the phone and for about a week its been awkward talking on the phone. Same boring conversation. Not like before. It was more like a routine phone call than a genuwine want to speak to each other. So I asked her, "why is it so weird on the phone now?" She said, I know its weird. Then she broke it down and gave me the same speech as the last time we broke up. "I dont know what i want to do" She says she has too much going on right now to be in a relationship and that it wasn't going to get easier. Said on one hand she loves me but on the other does not want to be in a relationship right now. That made me mad and I asked her why she came back in my life in the first place!? Was it because I was hurt and in the hospital and felt sorry? She said no, that she came back because she thought its what she wanted but now its too much and does not want to be in a relationship and just wants to be alone and do her thing since she just turned 21...

IDK what to do. Im 25 and I love this girl so much. OUr 2 year Ann was coming up in August. LAst year she dumped me 1 week before our 1 year Ann and now this? Im mad, sad, and everything else in between again. Its like Déjà vu. Broke up for the same reason again. Just hurts because we were doing so well and she helped me so much during my recovery and now I've lost her again. Im obviosly not working so I have a lot of free time to think and its what's killing me. Can't do much either because I'm still going to therapy and getting my legs stronger so its not like I can go out and do much. Im just at a loss for words. We've been NC for about 3 days and I'm dying already and just want her to come back. But not going to be like last time and text her. Im hoping I can go NC until she contacts me someday if she ever does...

What's going on.. Sorry I wrote so much.

[Swordfish206]

Hello everyone! I have not been on this site for about 8 months and a lot as happened. Last time I was on I told you my girlfriend and I had broken up because she said she didn't know what she wanted and needed time to be alone blah blah blah... Well, this past Nov. 27th I got into a very bad motorcycle accident. I was on my way to work and an 18 wheeler cut me off and I fell under the truck and it ran me over with the back tires. I suffered 11 broken ribs, lacerated liver and bladder, and it shattered my pelvis in 3 places. I was in the hospital for 4 1/2 months. Now I have 19 titanium pins in my pelvis and my right leg is shorter than my left but I can stand and walk on crutches and healing nicely...

Point of the story is that when I was in the hospital my ex came to see me. She was so freaked out when she saw me all torn up and bruised and medicated. She cried and hugged me and kissed me. Long story short she kept coming back to see me and sparks flew again and this time SHE was the one to ask me back out on Christmas Day. Things were back to normal and our relationship seemed to grow stronger. She visited me 3 to 4 times a week in the hospital. I could not walk for 3 months in order for my pelvis to heal so we always hung out in my room by my bed. Just having her back motivated me so much to recover sooner and get well. Anyway, I returned home in April and things were still great. We even started messing around again. Things were smooth up until her birthday late May and this is what happened...

She left to Vegas without inviting me. When in the hospital she kept saying how she hoped I would be better by her birthday so we can go to Vegas together... that she would push my wheelchair if necessary. But in the end didn't even get and invite. That bugged me. But whatever I let it go. Because if there is one thing I learned from my accident is that life is too short to be bickering and fighting over nonsense because you never know what might happen. I almost died that day in Nov. The tires missed my head only by inches. So I have a completely different look on life now and try to focus on what matters the most. We argued about it and she told me that she has been by my side for the past 5 months in the hospital and now wants some time for herself to do what she wants. It only got worse from there. Slowly she started distancing again going to parties and doing this and that and came to see me less. I had gotten so used to having her around that it began to bother me and its when the arguing started up again. In a way I understood her because she got promoted at work. She is going to school. And on top of that had to balance family, friends, and me. So it's a lot for a 21 year old. But all I asked for is at least one day a week so we could spend time together. This past Mon we were on the phone and for about a week its been awkward talking on the phone. Same boring conversation. Not like before. It was more like a routine phone call than a genuwine want to speak to each other. So I asked her, "why is it so weird on the phone now?" She said, I know its weird. Then she broke it down and gave me the same speech as the last time we broke up. "I dont know what i want to do" She says she has too much going on right now to be in a relationship and that it wasn't going to get easier. Said on one hand she loves me but on the other does not want to be in a relationship right now. That made me mad and I asked her why she came back in my life in the first place!? Was it because I was hurt and in the hospital and felt sorry? She said no, that she came back because she thought its what she wanted but now its too much and does not want to be in a relationship and just wants to be alone and do her thing since she just turned 21...

IDK what to do. Im 25 and I love this girl so much. OUr 2 year Ann was coming up in August. LAst year she dumped me 1 week before our 1 year Ann and now this? Im mad, sad, and everything else in between again. Its like Déjà vu. Broke up for the same reason again. Just hurts because we were doing so well and she helped me so much during my recovery and now I've lost her again. Im obviosly not working so I have a lot of free time to think and its what's killing me. Can't do much either because I'm still going to therapy and getting my legs stronger so its not like I can go out and do much. Im just at a loss for words. We've been NC for about 3 days and I'm dying already and just want her to come back. But not going to be like last time and text her. Im hoping I can go NC until she contacts me someday if she ever does...

What's going on.. Sorry I wrote so much.

[Swordfish206]

Hello everyone! I have not been on this site for about 8 months and a lot as happened. Last time I was on I told you my girlfriend and I had broken up because she said she didn't know what she wanted and needed time to be alone blah blah blah... Well, this past Nov. 27th I got into a very bad motorcycle accident. I was on my way to work and an 18 wheeler cut me off and I fell under the truck and it ran me over with the back tires. I suffered 11 broken ribs, lacerated liver and bladder, and it shattered my pelvis in 3 places. I was in the hospital for 4 1/2 months. Now I have 19 titanium pins in my pelvis and my right leg is shorter than my left but I can stand and walk on crutches and healing nicely...

Point of the story is that when I was in the hospital my ex came to see me. She was so freaked out when she saw me all torn up and bruised and medicated. She cried and hugged me and kissed me. Long story short she kept coming back to see me and sparks flew again and this time SHE was the one to ask me back out on Christmas Day. Things were back to normal and our relationship seemed to grow stronger. She visited me 3 to 4 times a week in the hospital. I could not walk for 3 months in order for my pelvis to heal so we always hung out in my room by my bed. Just having her back motivated me so much to recover sooner and get well. Anyway, I returned home in April and things were still great. We even started messing around again. Things were smooth up until her birthday late May and this is what happened...

She left to Vegas without inviting me. When in the hospital she kept saying how she hoped I would be better by her birthday so we can go to Vegas together... that she would push my wheelchair if necessary. But in the end didn't even get and invite. That bugged me. But whatever I let it go. Because if there is one thing I learned from my accident is that life is too short to be bickering and fighting over nonsense because you never know what might happen. I almost died that day in Nov. The tires missed my head only by inches. So I have a completely different look on life now and try to focus on what matters the most. We argued about it and she told me that she has been by my side for the past 5 months in the hospital and now wants some time for herself to do what she wants. It only got worse from there. Slowly she started distancing again going to parties and doing this and that and came to see me less. I had gotten so used to having her around that it began to bother me and its when the arguing started up again. In a way I understood her because she got promoted at work. She is going to school. And on top of that had to balance family, friends, and me. So it's a lot for a 21 year old. But all I asked for is at least one day a week so we could spend time together. This past Mon we were on the phone and for about a week its been awkward talking on the phone. Same boring conversation. Not like before. It was more like a routine phone call than a genuwine want to speak to each other. So I asked her, "why is it so weird on the phone now?" She said, I know its weird. Then she broke it down and gave me the same speech as the last time we broke up. "I dont know what i want to do" She says she has too much going on right now to be in a relationship and that it wasn't going to get easier. Said on one hand she loves me but on the other does not want to be in a relationship right now. That made me mad and I asked her why she came back in my life in the first place!? Was it because I was hurt and in the hospital and felt sorry? She said no, that she came back because she thought its what she wanted but now its too much and does not want to be in a relationship and just wants to be alone and do her thing since she just turned 21...

IDK what to do. Im 25 and I love this girl so much. OUr 2 year Ann was coming up in August. LAst year she dumped me 1 week before our 1 year Ann and now this? Im mad, sad, and everything else in between again. Its like Déjà vu. Broke up for the same reason again. Just hurts because we were doing so well and she helped me so much during my recovery and now I've lost her again. Im obviosly not working so I have a lot of free time to think and its what's killing me. Can't do much either because I'm still going to therapy and getting my legs stronger so its not like I can go out and do much. Im just at a loss for words. We've been NC for about 3 days and I'm dying already and just want her to come back. But not going to be like last time and text her. Im hoping I can go NC until she contacts me someday if she ever does...

She lwas with me while in the hospital but leaves me now that I'm doing better? What's going on.. Sorry I wrote so much.

[talaniman]

Sorry guy but until you get off her rollercoaster you will be going through this up/down, off/on thing forever. Its you who needs to decide what you will do, and not what she will do because, she has a history of doing as she pleases.

[JBeaucaire]

You love her? So what? She's dumping you, so you're feelings are sort of irrelevant to this particular problem.

"I keep dating this same girl, and even though I like her, she keeps dumping me for the same reason each time. I like her but she dumps me? I take her back and then she dumps me? Everything is the same, I love her and she dumps me...what should I do?"

The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and expecting a different result. You can keep chasing her and live a life of insecurity while dating followed by despair during the breakups, or you can break the cycle and NOT repeat this again with her.

[mckenzie134]

Edited the name calling!
Wonder how swordfish ended up! Sometimes you never know!!

[Uzume]

Sounds like you have made a very brave and essential decision. Just stick to it firmly and you will be absolutely fine. Your ex sounds like she enjoys having you around, being in love with her but she doesn't want to actually do the right thing and let you go completely. There's no hope there because that's not respecting you. You have made the brave move, she is being selfish and weak. It's not often I am so critical of my gender but this situation sounds really unfair (from your side, I don't know hers of course).

Move on... be happy!