Im 24 y/o and my girlfriend of a year just broke up with me saying she needs time to be alone. She has known me all her life and told me she has always had a crush on me. We've know each other since kids from birthday parties and stuff. 4 years ago we saw each other at a wedding for the first time in years and we both immediately felt a connection. We began talking and going out occasionally and things were going well until she felt like getting serious and become official. I was only 6 or 7 months out of another relationship were that girl had cheated on me. So I really wasn't looking for another relationship. I slowly began drifting away calling once or twice a week and then we just stopped completely. I continued going out with my friends and having fun. Not necessarily hooking up with anyone but just having fun. She rebounded on some guy and they were together for about a year plus, but she ended it with him because he was too possesive telling her how to dress and being jelous and stuff, one day they had an argument and he kicked her out of his car and she left him for good. I had not even thought about her fopr a while until one day I decided to call her. She was surprised and happy to hear from me. We had actually been talking a bit before she and her boyfriend broke up. I would ask her to hang out but said she couldn't because she had a boyfriend. I thought that was amazing. Aside from being in a diminishing relationship she did not agree to go out with me because she hhad a boyfriend. As soon as they broke up we began dating again and it was soooo perfect. I had been single for 2 years now and was ready to be in a relationship again. 2 months later we became official. Since we had known each other for so long it felt so right to be together. She was a virgin as well. She wanted to remain that way till marriage. We talked about it and she finally decided that I was the one she wanted to lose her virginity to. I was flattered to have the opportunity. So I became her first. We were together for 6 months with no problems or fights ever. Then we began to have little disagreements here and there but nothing serious. We were picture perfect till the 9th month. Certain number of events led to us having a HUGE fight where I cussed at her and accused her of cheating on me because she was acting weird.. (like my last chick). She was hurt that I said that and we broke up. I should have just given her space there but I didn't. I made the mistake of trying to be friends. And we did. Slowly we began going out again, coming over each others houses, and having sex. We were back together just without the title. And its been amazing since then. I opened up to her since she felt like she was the only one putting into the relationship. I told her it was because I had been hurt before and I was protecting myself from being hurt again so I had built a bit of a wall around me. I brought that wall down because I knew she was worth it and I knew I didn't want to lose her. Another reason for the break up was that she said I had anger problem. Says I yell and scream when I am mad and is afraid of how I would get in the future. I realized it and corrected it. We had not fought since then. Last week we spent and amazing night by the beach. I bought her a lot of stuff and dinner and we walked around and kissed and hugged and had a great time. She wrote me a letter saying how happy she was with how much closer we had gotten lately and realized she does need me in her life and does love me and wanted to be with me. She was just waiting to do something special for me. She just hoped that all the changes I had made would not disappear once we had gotten together again. The very next day after the beach we go to her friends party. She had not seen her friends for like 2 months. We get there and she basically forgets about me. About an hour later I leave to go to the store and she finds out and is mad because I didn't tell her I was going. I told her it was because she had not even paid attention to me for the past hour. We started to argue and finally she decided to leave the party and go home. Silence all the way. When I drop her I decide to try and talk about it. I explained that I didn't want her to be next to me the whole time it just would have been nice if she would have checked on me from time to time like I do when I take her with MY friends. She got mopre upset and walked out of my car saying f#$% you! I peeled out and left. She ran in the house telling her parents "see, he's never gonna change!" of course they baby her since she is the youngest and only daughter. An yway in closing, 3 days later after I apologized to her repeatedly she told me that she just does not want to deal with guy drama. That she was confused and felt like she was not ready for all this and just wanted to be alone and go to school and hang out with her friends. Now it took me a bit of work to get intimate with her so I know that she will not be out there sleeping around which makes me feel a bit better. Only reason she gave it up to me sha says is because she thought that was the only way to keep me and because she thought I was the one she was going to marry. So I KNOW she loves me and care about me, so why break it off? She erased all our pix from her my space, took me off the top friends, and wrote " it is the beginning of a new chapter in my life" as her headline. How do you do a 180 like that? I'm confused, hurt, angry, sad, and hopeful all at the same time. Most of my friends say she will call in due time. But I don't. She is pretty strong willed but who knows. I'm not going to call or do anything. Its all on her now. Im open to any opinion and/or advice... sorry I wrote so much.
