[Chery]

He wants me to pretend that it never happened. Its hard to deal with it.

Honey, you've received a lot of good advice here and I hope you take it to heart.

This person is a looser.. maybe he'll grow up, maybe not. But I would not hold my breath waiting for a miracle.

There is a reason for your reaction too, your jealousy, your mistrust.. something in you has been warning you all along, and it's just time for you to do something CONSTRUCTIVE about it. NOT destructive (i.e. staying with him so that you have 'somebody' and being unhappy about it).

You cannot change him and cannot change her or make her disappear (because another one will be rigth behind), so.. face it. You are the one that has to get up and move.. out of his life.. to save yours.

We all have heartaches at various times in our lives, but we all survive this. During this process we also gain our self-respect back.

Think.. what would you suggest another woman, in your current situation, should do if she came to you for advice.


Respect yourself, and if the others don't - dump them.

[hot2hndle]

Guys,

Thanks a lot for the advice. Its really hard for me to dump him but when I'm trying to realize things about what's going on in our relationship it gives me guts to leave him. There is pro's and con's that's why I'm still in this relationship. I admit I'm a fool to keep on saving the 9 months relationship. I talked to him yesterday and its sounds that he was confuse about his self. I don't know if he was kidding me when he say that he can't do anything he is a guy, he might still young that's why he still want to flirt around sometimes, he will try to be good and the most uncomfortable part he asked me again to bring some girls for threesome. Of course I told him I wouldn't do that. I'm really in trouble right now, I don't know if I can leave him.

[Ash123]

You will be bummed later...

Just wanted to be on the record so you know the facts.

[JodyLDavis]

You know this will always be a problem if you stay with him. You will bring her up forever and make him crazy, and it will make you crazy thinking about it.

[buggage]

Sounds like you'll never be "the only one" with this guy. If you're OK with that, then that's you'll be OK with him. But I don't know any girl that is satisfied not being the only one, to her only guy. If he wants to "{bring other girls in for a threesome" ESP if he asks for this often, he most likely is already getting it else where, or soon will.to me, threesomes are just a way for someone to be unfaithful, but making it OK because you give permission and also are a part of it. No one can make this decision for you. Do you want to be a door mat in a "field" of door mats? Or do you want to be a magnificent and unique rose respected and loved by a man, who loves you and only you, and puts you above the rest? Its really all up to you. Oh, and him saying that he is confused about himself, and can't do anything right, because he's a guy, that is just an excuse. No one is THAT clueless, and he's just the opposite it sounds like... he's sneaky and conniving.