[blaze5874]

Ok, I would start by saying that yes I am an avid video gamer. I enjoy playing a number of games be it a first person shooter or maybe a role playing game. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people that sit in front of a computer/console all day and play. I just enjoy a few hours to do my thing sometimes.

Now onto my girlfriend. She doesn't mind that I play video games and on occasion even encourages me to spend some time doing it. Unfortunately, this girl and I have discussed the possibility of marriage and she says that she won't tolerate the playing of video games with someone she's married to. Now I wouldn't have a problem really dropping the video gams and not play all together, and while it would be something I would miss I think she's worth it.

Here's the problem. She's not open to discussion. There is no debating it with her. It's either no games or you aren't the one I want to be with. I want the person I'm marrying to be completely the way I see it and if you want to play video games then too bad I won't be with you. This hurts me because she has no room for change. Like I said I would be willing to stop playing but the whole "No talking about it" attitude she has really bugs me.

Could someone please tell me if I'm being unreasonable. I don't really know how I should feel right now. Am I just being overly sensitive towards her wants or is she just being too picky. I don't really know how to feel and I would love some advice. Sorry it's so long hope to hear from someone soon. Thanks

[HPFreak0205]

Well that's wrong of her if she loved you she would be up for compramise I mean I agree with her that too much video games could be a little anoying but every once in a while doesn't matter

[Emland]

She has given you a choice to make. Which one do you want more? Her or the video games. If she is that unmoving, perhaps your video gaming is more serious than you think.

I told my husband that a condition of our marriage was that he give up WWF. I did so jokingly, though.

[blaze5874]

She has given you a choice to make. Which one do you want more? Her or the video games. If she is that unmoving, perhaps your video gaming is more serious than you think.

I told my husband that a condition of our marriage was that he give up WWF. I did so jokingly, though.

But that's the thing. It's not like I'm totally absorbed in them. I wouldn't even mind giving them up if that's what she really wanted. The real problem right now is that she won't even talk about it. It's just a flat out NO. I understand what you're trying to say I just happen to think that like the above mentioned post, some sort of compromise could be made, or at least an attempt at one would be nice.

[GlindaofOz]

I think that compromise is a really important part of any relationship. To play devil's advocate here I'd have to say I wonder what else she will not budge on and what else will be her way or the highway? If you are not locked onto games 24/7 I don't see what the harm is. Some guys are really into games or sports or whatever everyone deserves to have a hobby and something that helps them blow off steam. Maybe she isn't the right person for you. Is she inflexible on a lot of things?

[Emland]

You'll have to call her bluff and see what happens. Tell her your sorry she made the decision to not go forward with marriage.

[Corvas]

Maybe you can find a game that she could enjoy and convert her form her judgemental thoughts on video games.

I thought this was a great article on verytogether. how to get your girlfriend to play video games.