Ok, I would start by saying that yes I am an avid video gamer. I enjoy playing a number of games be it a first person shooter or maybe a role playing game. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not one of those people that sit in front of a computer/console all day and play. I just enjoy a few hours to do my thing sometimes.

Now onto my girlfriend. She doesn't mind that I play video games and on occasion even encourages me to spend some time doing it. Unfortunately, this girl and I have discussed the possibility of marriage and she says that she won't tolerate the playing of video games with someone she's married to. Now I wouldn't have a problem really dropping the video gams and not play all together, and while it would be something I would miss I think she's worth it.

Here's the problem. She's not open to discussion. There is no debating it with her. It's either no games or you aren't the one I want to be with. I want the person I'm marrying to be completely the way I see it and if you want to play video games then too bad I won't be with you. This hurts me because she has no room for change. Like I said I would be willing to stop playing but the whole "No talking about it" attitude she has really bugs me.

Could someone please tell me if I'm being unreasonable. I don't really know how I should feel right now. Am I just being overly sensitive towards her wants or is she just being too picky. I don't really know how to feel and I would love some advice. Sorry it's so long hope to hear from someone soon. Thanks

Well that's wrong of her if she loved you she would be up for compramise I mean I agree with her that too much video games could be a little anoying but every once in a while doesn't matter

She has given you a choice to make. Which one do you want more? Her or the video games. If she is that unmoving, perhaps your video gaming is more serious than you think.

I told my husband that a condition of our marriage was that he give up WWF. I did so jokingly, though.

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Originally Posted by Emland

She has given you a choice to make. Which one do you want more? Her or the video games. If she is that unmoving, perhaps your video gaming is more serious than you think.

I told my husband that a condition of our marriage was that he give up WWF. I did so jokingly, though.

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But that's the thing. It's not like I'm totally absorbed in them. I wouldn't even mind giving them up if that's what she really wanted. The real problem right now is that she won't even talk about it. It's just a flat out NO. I understand what you're trying to say I just happen to think that like the above mentioned post, some sort of compromise could be made, or at least an attempt at one would be nice.

I think that compromise is a really important part of any relationship. To play devil's advocate here I'd have to say I wonder what else she will not budge on and what else will be her way or the highway? If you are not locked onto games 24/7 I don't see what the harm is. Some guys are really into games or sports or whatever everyone deserves to have a hobby and something that helps them blow off steam. Maybe she isn't the right person for you. Is she inflexible on a lot of things?

You'll have to call her bluff and see what happens. Tell her your sorry she made the decision to not go forward with marriage.

Maybe you can find a game that she could enjoy and convert her form her judgemental thoughts on video games.

I thought this was a great article on verytogether. how to get your girlfriend to play video games.