[Buffy Spires]

:confused: I am a adoptee,I was born Nov. 1969.I was not given up by a bio-parent.My bio-moms mom gave us away.When bio-mom tried to find us,all doors where shut.It is a long sad story,bottom line is.Bio-mom did not give us up,nor did she sign anything,in fact she was still in the same town w/us.But bio-grandparent (who was a drunk) played cruel mind games w/bio-mom and we paid the price.Bio-mom wasn't contacted by any court,welfare,etc.When she asked for help the judge was quiet cruel.We want to know what we can do about this?The State of OHIO had no right to cause so much pain.Now when I talk w/the State,all I get is we are sorry for the awful mistake.Sorry doesn't cut it.I have researched some,and there were and are laws for this type of action this State has done.I am writing letters to who ever will help us,we need closer... Thank You:Buffy:(

[Fr_Chuck]

Judges are exempt from being sued for their rulings.

I would say it appear you know her and have a relationship at this point, so perhaps moving on with both your lives at this point may be best

[Buffy Spires]

Judges are exempt from being sued for thier rulings.

I would say it appear you know her and have a relationship at this point, so perhaps moving on with both your lives at this point may be best

Thank You,however I do not believe stuffing dirt under the rug is the way.No I do not say go after the judges?How ever,we as the public have to follow the law,as should it be.There shouldn't be 2 set of laws.The county that handled this,they never followed the steps of law.I don't want to sound cold to you,but,"Could You sit back and allow your entire life be a lie?"This is a sad story,nobody should have to hurt like this.Yes we are working on going on,but we had a chance to have a life together.That was taken from us... Do you have children?How would you feel.No my bio-mom wasn't real smart w/the law then or even now.But,she loved us and the State brought what is noticed by the Law,"Alienation of Affectation".. We want to go on,we just want the proper people to explain to our mother & aunt why?The lies should stop.Thanks! Buffy

[SpawnOfAzazel]

I agree, "Sorry" doesn't do jack. Talk to an attorney to help you sort this mess out.
Hope it works out for both you and your mother.

[ScottGem]

As Azazel said talk to an attorney. Most will give you a free consultation. They can tell you what your chances are.

Frankly, however, I think they are small. Its likely the people who made the decisions back then are no longer in place.

[froggy7]

Actually, I have to wonder about this entire post. I find it hard to imagine that a child could be placed for adoption without _someone_ signing something that terminated parental rights. Now, it may be that the bio mom signed over her rights to the grandmother, never expecting that grandma would put the child up for adoption. But it just doesn't sound reasonable to me that this could have happened without going through proper legal channels.

[J_9]

The laws that were set in place in 1969 when this adoption occurred are much different than the laws we have now. The proper legal channels may have been gone through as the law set forth almost 40 years ago.

Most attorneys will give you a free consultation, but I have to agree with Scott, I think your chances are slim.