[jazzyjones]

OK may or may not seem like a huge deal but my girlfriend (now ex girlfriend) of 6 months and I broke up with me, because I wanted to see her too much (or at least I complained to much) but the thing is I only saw her like once a week and it was growing less and less, so yeah I complained about it and she broke up with me cause of it, we are teenagers yes, but we did love each other (we still love each other) I will say "I love you" she won't say it back but if I ask her if she loves me she says yes, (she has never lied to me), the relationship has been through some hard times we would fight for days about stuff, and we are both clinically depressed (I'm going in soon for treatment) but pretty much the day I was agreeing to getting treatment she breaks up with me, I get super depressed and suicidal and almost kill myself, she and a friend stop me, but now we are broken up and still talking allot, but she won't take me back, she says "just not right now", but she is going to be going to hang out with her ex who she still has feelings for and she straight up told me "if he asks me out I wont say no" (this is two days after our break up! ) and I get upset about it cause I know the guy he is a immature player (he can't keep his **** in his pants) and I know he has a girlfriend now but that wouldn't stop him from using my ex and I don't want anything bad to happen to her.. I tell her how much she means to me and how much I love her but she is still leaning to this ex of hers who dumped her last year and she never got over, she says that she loves me and him but when I ask her who she loves more she changes subject, I really love this girl and I know I messed up with her, and after I get my therapy and medication I know that I will be a better person and I want to be with this girl I love everything about her, but right now she keeps like saying all this stuff about this other guy and it kills me cause I want to be with her, and that I KNOW he won't treat her good... and some other stuff is that I really want to be with her I know I messed up but I have tried with her so many times she won't try and take me back till after my treatment... I don't know how to cope with this with the ex boyfriend and missing her and my depression and every thing its really really hard any ideas as to what I can do?
Oh by the way me and her are just friends right now

[imissher]

This girl has a lot of baggage that she is carrying into your relationship. The best thing right now is to let go and let her come back if she chooses. Nothing you can do now will make her want you again, and everything you do will push her away.

Your world revolves around her. It shouldn't. Fix yourself first before you try to make it work with her.

Good luck

[Stunning07]

You need to know in order to make a relationship successful is to always, respect your companions space, no matter what the cause, for now give her so much space, till she's tired of it, in the end she'll realise what she she lost, and if her love is true than you know the rest, its hard but don't ever nag, it pushes the person away

[jazzyjones]

OK well yeah I decided to play the friend role and treat her like I did before the relationship that way she can see/remember how I am instead of how she thought of me at the end of the relationship and I'm going to let her decide if she wants to be with me again, that's a risk cause she is a very timid person when it comes to initiating a relationship, so I'm just going to remind her why she fell in love with me and hope for the best
Thanks for the advice I'm not the one who is starting the conversations anymore I told her that if she wants to talk to me sure that's OK I will talk back but I'm not going to start talking to her (we have been text messaging some today on and off) so I think this will work out
Again thanks
~JJ