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manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 12:35 PM

We were in a wonderful relationship (1.5 years). After 5 months of relationship, I had to move to different city. I was unable to adjust there and things were not working out well. So, I expected help from him. He used to help initially, but I wasn't getting out of troubles. He also had his own career to focus on, he started keeping distance, like less contact, no messages, no calls. I kept calling him always. thinking he must be busy, so didn't call and all. After a few days, around 6 months ago, he told me that he doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I was crushed. I kept on trying hard (which I shouldn't have done I guess) calling, msging was still on. I used to go visit him every month almost. Meanwhile, my work situation wasn't good so, I was in a bad need of my people around. We used to have many fights over his reduced talking, no contacting and all. then I only decided OK he wants breakup, lets breakup.

So I went to meet him, but I couldn't handle it well and asked him to give it 1 month try to work out. He accepted just for my sake. I used to call normally, we used to chat and all, normal, but two days ago, before even completing one month, he told me, no more try or nothing, just break up. I was very sad. He said, he doesn't want to be with me ever, he does not love me. If I want to be friends, he is ready. He will definitely miss me as a friend, but he can't be in relationship. My outlook doesn't match to him anymore.

What do I do? Is there any chance that he will come back? What can I do, so he may want to come back?

odinn7 · Oct 25, 2013, 12:45 PM

WHAT?

He said he doesn't love you.
He said he doesn't want to be with you.
He tried again for your sake but couldn't do it and then he told you these things all over again.

Now you want us to tell you if he's coming back?

No. It's over. He doesn't love you. He doesn't want to be with you.

Give up and move on.

manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 12:52 PM

Originally Posted by odinn7

WHAT?

He said he doesn't love you.
He said he doesn't want to be with you.
He tried again for your sake but couldn't do it and then he told you these things all over again.

Now you want us to tell you if he's coming back?

No. It's over. He doesn't love you. He doesn't want to be with you.

Give up and move on.

But, I love him.. he knows that..
Things won't happen ever again ? I'm too sad... he was my best friend... bestest

odinn7 · Oct 25, 2013, 01:00 PM

So you love him...he doesn't love you. He told you this...what are you not getting here? Are you going to waste the rest of your life waiting for him to come back even though he told you it's not going to happen?

Homegirl 50 · Oct 25, 2013, 01:06 PM

Him knowing you love him is no going to change things for him. When a guys tells you he does not love you, does not want to be with you, have some pride, accept it and walk away.

manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 01:08 PM

Originally Posted by odinn7

So you love him...he doesn't love you. He told you this...what are you not getting here? Are you going to waste the rest of your life waiting for him to come back even though he told you it's not going to happen?

He loved me too... he had proposed.. just because things were rough in between, a person can stop loving ?
Can't a person's changed behaviour be a part of his troubled surroundings ?
Is love such a shallow emotions for people ? Really ?
I was just hoping is there any chance down the line ?
Should I be still friends with him ? I don't know It would kill me, as I would always want more than friendship... but if I am not, may be he will not even remember me again... ever :( :(?

Homegirl 50 · Oct 25, 2013, 01:34 PM

Feelings can change and obviously his did.
He does not love you and you want him back, so remaining friends would not be wise. Walk away with some dignity.
Leave the guy alone.

talaniman · Oct 25, 2013, 01:49 PM

Get your own life together and stay out of his and see what happens.

manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 03:02 PM

This was his message...

I don't have any interest in this relationship Manuela.. I liked you initially.. I certainly did.. I thought you are perfect for me.. but no.. I shouldn't have come to you so quickly after knowing part of you or before considering the changes that might happen in u..

Homegirl 50 · Oct 25, 2013, 03:06 PM

That says a lot. He's done.

manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by Homegirl 50

That says a lot. He's done.

You know, what hurts the most? I know where I possibly went wrong...
I wish to correct it...
But, can I ?

Wondergirl · Oct 25, 2013, 04:02 PM

Originally Posted by manuella

You know, what hurts the most? I know where I possibly went wrong...
I wish to correct it...
But, can I ?

Do you know where you might have "gone wrong"? Maybe for another guy, it would have been okay and not "wrong."

manuella · Oct 25, 2013, 04:09 PM

Originally Posted by Wondergirl

Do you know where you might have "gone wrong"? Maybe for another guy, it would have been okay and not "wrong."

I was too weak to handle my situations and sometimes ended up blaming him for not talking to me.. that time I forgot that he hs his own work to do too...
I should have been more on my own than expecting his help...
I expected him to call me wenevr possible once in a day , as I was away from him...
I should have considered his side...
I used to get too jealous and angry if he doesn't talk tome but do Facebook , etc..
I should have giving him proper space...

Homegirl 50 · Oct 25, 2013, 05:03 PM

Well learn from this so you will not repeat it with another guy, but it sounds like he is done. As long as you keep bugging him, it reinforces his reason for not wanting to be with you.
He is done.

Michlania · Oct 26, 2013, 12:40 PM

He's done he's made up his mind you need to move on