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    Jul 9, 2010, 08:46 AM
    I love him, but he doesn't love me anymore! What do I do?
    We were like best friends, and we loved each other so much! For some stupid reason I cheated on him and I regret it so much. He says he forgives me, but I know he doesn't fully forgive me. A couple weeks ago he said "I love you, and I miss you, you are my baby girl, I want you to be my last and forever love, I want you to take my virginity and I wish I could've taken yours" Now, he says he doesn't love me and he wants nothing to do with me.. I am so confused! ):
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    Jul 9, 2010, 08:59 AM

    You hurt the guy by cheating, and you should leave him alone to wrestle with his own feelings, without your influence.

    Yeah it hurts, hurts for him too, but all he knows is how he feels. For now don't be confused as your actions have changed everything, so accept it, and do better for yourself after you learn a painful life lesson. Sorry is never enough after making a serious mistake through bad behavior. You destroyed the trust, and it may take years if ever for it to come back. Don't make it worse by pestering him to forgive you, and take you back. And if he doesn't accept consequences for your actions.
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    Jul 9, 2010, 09:03 AM
    I know I hurt him, and he changed so dramatically because of the cheating thing.. I just really want everything to be all right again, because I love him so much and yeah..
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    Jul 9, 2010, 09:11 AM

    We can't have it both ways. You say that you love him. Then why did you cheat on him?

    You made a relationship killing mistake. Try to learn from it.
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    Jul 9, 2010, 09:17 AM

    "I love him", if you actually loved him you wouldn't purposely do anything to hurt him. No excuses. And you have to have known this would not only hurt him, but devastate him
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    Jul 9, 2010, 09:33 AM

    Seems he has ended the relationship, that's what you run the risk of happening when you cheat, you might not have thought it such a big deal but to him it was earth shattering and if he forgives you you'll be very lucky.

    Looks like you've lost him now all you can do is let him be alone to come to terms with it all, and also to move on, It's a huge issue when you or anyone breaks anothers trust and more often than not there's no going back.
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    Jul 9, 2010, 11:38 AM

    You cannot go back to how it was with him that's impossible the fact you cheated has now damaged what you had with him possibly forever.

    Betraying anothers trust means you have to accept that you're the one who changed the relationship for him and he is not feeling how he did about you.

    You can never go back to what it was, because that was killed the night you cheated, now all you can do is move on and come to terms with what you've done.

    Try not to make the same mistake again.

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